I need to know if you would consider this an affair, or how I should be reacting to this....

I found out last week that while my SIL spent the night at our house after a party, my brother wasn't able to go with us. The next morning I went to take a shower and apparently my husband went into our sons room to tell her he made coffee, somehow, his hand ended up on her stomach and going south....this lasted for approx. 30 to 60 seconds and then he walked away...she felt the need to tell my brother, which of course resulted in me finding out. She was a willing participant in this from what I understand. I guess he realized what he was doing.

He has shown genuine remorse as has she. He claims he doesn't know why or how it even happened as he isn't even really attracted to her. He can't answer any of my questions. Of course, I was completely devastated. We have been married for 7 years and have 3 children. I would have never thought this would happen. He has always been very trustworthy. And now this...I am so hurt and confused. I don't know what to do. I have to look at her for the rest of our lives....it's not like I can just walk away. My brother seems okay with everything, as long as it never happens again, but I don't know if I can be that quick to forgive and forget....I need some insight PLEASE!!!!!!

IMHO,

Nope, it doesn't happen that way. No way, would an activity as you have described just spontaneously end like that with him getting up and just walking away.

How long were you in the shower? Long enough for a "quicky".

Not to be the bearer of bad news, but if it where my W, I would HAVE to know more. I would especially pay close attention to the look in his/her eyes when you asked him directly if that was ALL that happened?????

I'll follow your post.

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I've reposted on the General Questions II.....please go there to read