I understand you are most wise in matters of the WH.
I read one of your posts and need to know where or how to find your: reverse babbling link.

Also, is there anywhere, or could you tell me, what are the TRUE signs your WH is ready, willing and able to make the M work and not just having his cake and eating too.

Thanks wise sage.

Most wise? Hm..... that's not true. Not all of my hair is white or even gray but it's sure is trying 2B! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You know Mitzie, I have a sister with the same name (different spelling) and she thinks I'm an idiot. Ha!!

Ok, there are threads on reverse babble. One of them is in my sig link. You can query reverse babble in the search mode and find more.

If you like, you can give me some examples of the perplexing or confusing things he has said and we can give you some examples of our retorts (aka: RB). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

As true signs of a WS becoming an Xws, well there are many. First of all you have to realize you can't make him recover, that's his job. He got into this mess he has to not only get himself out but help all whom he hurt. Starts with how he helps you.

1. Answer your questions
2. Help you find closure

In turn you will both help each other meet the other's needs.

You will help him find closure and help him rebuilt your trust in him.

I recommend you both read SAA & HNHN. Take the EN questionnaire together and call Steve H for a phone counseling recovery plan. Steve requires the reading and EN questionnaire be done 1st.

Read my sig line about the 5 stages you w/b going through. Ask your H to read Trueheart's letter also in my sig line and then let him see where he is.

I don't have a lot of wisdom. I have learn a lot and share what I have learned. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> U can 2! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

Thanks for the help.

I can't seem to get anywhere with the link. It keeps coming up: The page you have requested cannot be found. I will try a search. Thanks again

Hi,

Justuss is working on the links. In the meantime, check out this thread. I did a short course on RB w/Zoy.

Here's the link: Examples of RB with a minor explanation

Hope this helps!. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.