Hi there, I have posted before about my husbands affair. He has just passed the 30 day period with no contact, although the 2 month affair ended in August, he still saw her at work. She was moved and they do not/have not seen each other for over a month. My problem/questions is this..... why am I having such a hard time now? I feel like I feel worse then before. I am down and have such high expectations of him. I do feel he is trying and I know I need patience but he blew up this am stating that I am keeping us from moving forward with my misery and by bringing it up, being depressed, moody if things are not perfect. Why can't I let go some? I feel like a bottomless pit.... he cannot provide enough reassurance. I realize I am not helping the situation but he says he feels like I am going to punish him "forever".
SAA says you have to have the w/d period before the WS can start to really meet the needs of the BS..... okay... lets go! I know what I need to do.... just struggling to do it (let go some). Any suggestions?

Miss Karen

I'm only into the 3rd month post d-day and I am much better now than I was at 30 days, where I also felt I was worse than ever. I still am by no means "over it". Your H drastically altered your reality and expecting you to be over it 30 days afterwards is unreasonable and he certainly shouldn't be exploding at you about it.

The expected time for recovery is stated at around 2 years. I also hope to be the exception to that, but I somehow doubt it!