Wow MyRev... I hadn't seen that thread. Not surprising really....

well I dont think it was rape and it is not anyones business wether i get hit or not I was not asking for advice with that anyway. and I am sorry for making everyone so mad here, I probably wont post here again anyway

YES, "UNFOUNDED CONCLUSIONS"

Different time, different place, different individuals ... she appears to be OK with her marital situation, other than wanting a DL, so who am I or YOU to criticize her life choices or label her husband a criminal.

My own mother was 15 when she married in the south in 1958 ... my father was 20, and they dated for a year or so before they were married ... and we're sending them on a trip to the Mayan Riveria in January for the honeymoon they never had on their 50th wedding anniversay.

Technically, when viewing that situation through the 2007 lens, my father is a statutory rapist who has been on the run for 50 years. See how ridiculous your assumptions "can" be ... sure, yankee's H may in real life be a controlling, abusive, child molester, but YOU have no information to make such an "UNFOUNDED CONCLUSION", especially when all she is asking is advice on "How to ask her H about getting a Driver's License"?

wow. you need help. I hope you seek out a womans shelter in your area. The lack of self esteem/worth comes through loud and clear.

Please get help.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> OKK i have asked the same question 3 times.....and avoided it has been (in the wise words of yoda)....Your husband saved you...ok from what? Abusive parents? Foster home? You say he doesn't speak to his parents either....why is that....is it because they don't approve of your union....trying to get some background here to give you the proper advice on how to handle your situation.

Yankee, please keep working on finding a way to get your drivers license. Everybody deserves to be able to drive if they want to.

And no one deserves to be hit. Or isolated.

Myrev...I sure hope you don't have any daughters in your care. i would worry about their safety.

Can you just stop jumping to conclusions ***???Now you are saying MyRev would make a bad father to girls??? Good God... I've never seen people get so crazy off so little information. It's mind boggling!

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Little information...are you ****kidding me. Do me a favor ...do not address me. ****edit***

PLEASE EVERYONE STOP FIGHTING,I am so sorry I posted that I never thought it would make everyone so mad you all are getting so ugly with on another. I'll bet if you all were in a room together you would be fighting. and I would be the only one not mad I try to never get mad ,Guess thats why my hubby gets so mad anyway cant someone just get rid of my post I never ment for everyone to get mad. I am Sorry

That just got you put on "ignore" **********edit********

Oh no, you need to stick around to remind us to stop fighting. We need a glass of water thrown in our faces every now and again.

Don't stop posting. I really hope next week when I get back you are still here.

MyRev, for someone who has me on "ignore" you sure do anything BUT "ignore" me! I consider it a badge of honor to be on your "ignore" list. thanks <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

CRIMENY*sigh* *holds bridge of nose* OK EVERYONE JUST SHUDDUP FOR A MINUTE....so we can get some answers....so many posts are flying at once it's hard to answer one.... Yankee.....give us a background....only you can tell us that.....please don't be vauge it will help to give us a better foundation for advice....YES I SAID ADVICE (those who are ansy just wait a bit so we can get the whole story). You came here wanting advice well without knowing the things that are setting your life in motion we can't give you the proper advice as we don't want to set you in the wrong direction.

no because if I do everyone will just gets ugly, and dont like ugly people

I think it does matter the circumstances that this person became involved with the man they describe.
This person clearly needs some help identifying the fact that they are in a abusive situation with a captor more than likely. If she became involved with a grown man at 13 years of age it is highly unlikely that this man is not a sexual predator. I can not overlook the fact that it is possible that she is in an abusive situation, in favor of helping this person get a DL. The man she is married to should most likely be in jail right now.

see ,why would I want the only person who has ever Loved me to go to jail. I already told you he is this is the person who saved my life and rape omg dont even go there I was raped but not by my husband he taught me alot, and why would I leave I told you he Loves me,and he told me how mean everyone is in this world and you have proved him right. you alll get mean

Yankee, please do not apologize. Nobody here is mad at you. We just have disagreements about things, because people often have different opinions.

MEDC comes across very bluntly, but he really is CONCERNED about you.

I am, too.

One partner in a marriage should not be totally dependent upon the other partner for everything.

Yes, you should be able to get a driver's license if you want one.

I wouldn't be surprised if you don't know anything about your finances, either. That's another thing you should know about in case something every happens to your husband.

At 38, you should know enough about things to take care of yourself if anything SHOULD happen to leave you single.

Also, IF your husband hits you, he has absolutely NO RIGHT to do so. If he has a problem with "getting so mad" and he hits/hurts you when he's mad, it is NOT YOUR FAULT.

The reason people are saying that he raped you is this:

Most states have laws against a grown man having sex with a young girl below a certain age, which is usually around 16 or so (it varies in each state). It does not matter if the girl agreed to have sex or not. It is called statutory rape because the girl is considered too young to LEGALLY agree to have sex.

You are telling us that you met him when you were 13, had a baby when you were 14 (BEFORE you married him).

So, YES, as a 24 year old man having sex with a 13 CHILD (and I don't care how mature you were...you were still a child), your husband committed statutory rape.

If he got you out of a horrid situation, how were you able to marry him at the age of 15? Who signed the marriage license to allow you to marry him?

Please stay and answer our questions. We only want to help you.

LC

first off lets not act like we are a child...no matter what you ever ask your always going to get pro's and cons....every positive has a negative....if you choose to read the negative things and not accept the help thats being handed to you thats your choice....so far your only reading the negative (mean people) and not seeing the positive which is that people are trying to help you......people have asked specific questions to help you and you have ignored there posts.....you came here for a reason....do you want help or not?

Let's be honest for a minute. Do you suppose the man you are married to does not want you to have a drivers license because he thinks you just may drive away for good?

I ask this because most abusers want to keep you under their control. You obviously feel indebted to this man for some reason. You have stated over and over that he saved your life. Were you in an abusive situation at home?