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so the OW that my H had an affair with was my best friend and maid of honor. so of course i have all these wedding pics with her in them. everytime i look at them it makes me physically ill. so anyone have any suggestions on how to not destroy my beautiful wedding pics but get her ugly mug out of them?
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you can't....get rid of the pictures. Your H should never see her face again either. I'm sorry, there is no other way.
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You could Photoshop her out, replace her with someone else.
It would be a tedious task. In candids, do a head switch of one of the other bridesmaids....just a few ideas
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utb,
I am a Photoshopper and I would LOVE to use that skill to help you with this.
Wanna e-mail me the pics and I'll see what I can do?
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iam talking about the professional ones that were purchased and printed already. i was considering putting a sicker over her face...destroying them is not an option unless we get divorced. there is no way in ****** i will have her ruin that happy day
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You could always try scanning them and then photoshopping them and reprinting them.
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You can scan and edit those professional ones and have them reprinted professionally. No one would be able to tell the difference.
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Frozen, we were posting simultaneously <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. You're right though, it can be done.
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you are inviting triggers and added drama into your life by keeping those pictures...the ones with her in them. It was also your H that ruined things. It is not all her fault.
While I understand your desire to keep the pictures....there really is nothing good to be gained from looking at pictures with your H's affair partner in them. Get rid of the ones that she is in and keep the others. If you insist on keeping them, I would say do so at your own risk. I am not sure what you were looking for in terms of advice since you already seem to have made up your mind about keeping them. You said it makes you physically ill, yet you want to hold on to them....that makes no sense to me.
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PM and Froz...and yet, she will always KNOW that what she is looking at is edited and always be reminded as to why.
sorry, they are just pictures. They should go.
Last edited by mkeverydaycnt; 11/11/07 07:38 PM.
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I don't know MEDC, women are very sentimental about things like that. Throwing the pictures out won't erase the memory that OW was there. At least with editing her out, she'll know that she "erased" her from what was once a happy moment and MOST every little girl's dream day.
Grandchildren and great-grandchildren looking at those pictures years from now won't think that way. They'll just see their grandmother, great-grandmother, happy and recorded for all time on her wedding day.
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PS. I am NOT an OM. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I think he meant PM not OM. LOL.
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I know, I'm just giving him a hard time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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edited...yep, those darn keys are right next to each other. And PM, I don't agree and think the ones with the OW should go. The grand kids can still see the happiness in pictures that do not include that tramp. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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ahhhhhhh I missed the smiley the first time. He needs a hard time - he's such an [censored] sometimes <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> LOL.
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medc,
While that may be the only solution for you, I don't necessarily think that it's a one size fits all solution for EVERYONE!
If she wants to keep the pictures and wants to extract OW from her life (figuratively and literally), it can be done.
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candid pics with her in them have been destroyed, and i did take joy in that. i will look into photoshop and having that done to the pics. problem is my MIL has pics with her in them and he took some too so i won't be able to get my hands on them all, which sucks.
thanks for the suggestions
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frozen i agree with you and princess, it kind of makes me feel better knowing i can delete her all together. and medc while i agree she was not the only one doing the wrong thing i can't very well delete my h out of our wedding pictures btu she was an "extra" at the event so she can be easily deleted. and no i will not forget she was there but it sure as h3ll will help. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> the pain will always be there but i am trying my hardest to make it fade as much as possible so that if reconcile it will be an honest attempt and if not i can move on with my life and not have to see her face at all.
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