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Counseling question
#1969917 11/12/07 03:05 PM
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Can cousneling help even if initially one spouse does not think the marriage is salvagable.

I am the WS (it was years ago, but it all came out now and Husband left). My husband says its over between us and he wants a divorce. However, last night he agreed to go to counseling ... he says so I "can get over it" (meaning, get over the fact we are divorcing).

He still says he loves me and wants to be with me but cannot trust and so cannot be with me.

Can counseling help with these emotions he is having and possibly change he mind and want to save the marriage instead of just giving up and asking for a divorce?

It has been 19 days since he left (the A was 2.5 years ago, before we were married).
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He still says he loves me and wants to be with me but cannot trust and so cannot be with me.


If he IS interested in salvaging the marriage, why not focus on the things that are preventing him from seeing reconciliation and recovery as a viable option?

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Can counseling help with these emotions he is having and possibly change he mind and want to save the marriage instead of just giving up and asking for a divorce?


I'm going to venture out on a limb here and guess NO.

1.) It's difficult to find a counselor who is PRO-marriage.
2.) The emotions he is having are appropriate. Rebuilding trust is your responsibility. It isn't his job to learn how to trust you. It's yours to restore that trust.

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