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BEYOND the BEFORE
(In Spite of the Asinine Alien)

Here I sit….
A year has gone by…
That asinine alien refused to just die.

I left on vacation…
No time for MB…
That alien returned to my husband and me.

It brought with it selfishness,
Anger and pride…
And ambushed my H as we went for a ride.

It felt like regression
Just like D-day 4…
Back when I gave up and then showed H the door.

Some false expectations
A selfish demand...
Propelled the exchange which then got out of hand.

It stirred up more love busters,
Mean things were said…
It’s scary what aliens can do to your head.

Our MC was gone
And I’d been off MB….
We sought God’s assistance, He’s never failed me.

The power of prayer
And time to discuss…
Revealed just what forces had overcome us…

Eventually coolness
and logic prevailed…
We soon learned some causes for why we derailed.

He seemed so defensive
And I gave up hope
But together we clawed up that slippery slope.

My H was so broken,
He shared such remorse…
But I owned my part for what got us off course.

And as tears were flowing
“I’m sorry” was said…
And soon an idea came for this new thread.

“Beyond the Before….”
Our marriage improves…
…in spite of that asinine alien’s moves…

…and NO, I’m not thankful
for my husband’s A…
…despite it our marriage is better today.

Our MC says broken bones
take time to mend…
But scar tissue makes them more strong in the end.

So now that our marriage…
…has suffered the scars…
…from asinine alien attacks on what’s ours…

…We’re learning to recognize
alien wiles….
…and building more passion in spite of its trials.

We’re getting resilient,
And loving much more…
Thank God for our marriage Beyond the Before.

By Ace
11-14-07


FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
Joined: Jan 2007
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BEYOND the BEFORE
(In Spite of the Asinine Alien)

By Ace
11-14-07

Here I sit.
A year has gone by.
That asinine alien refused to just die.

I left on vacation...
...no time for MB.
That alien returned to my husband and me.

It brought with it selfishness...
...anger and pride...
and ambushed my H as we went for a ride.

It felt like regression...
...just like D-day 4...
...back when I gave up and then showed H the door.

Some false expectations...
...a selfish demand...
...propelled the exchange which then got out of hand.

It stirred up more love busters.
Mean things were said.
It's scary what aliens can do to your head.

Our MC was gone...
...and I'd been off MB.
We sought God's assistance, HE's never failed me.

The power of prayer...
...and time to discuss...
...revealed just what forces had overcome us.

Eventually coolness...
...and logic prevailed.
We soon learned some causes for why we derailed.

He seemed so defensive...
...and I gave up hope, but
together we clawed up that slippery slope.

My H was so broken...
...he shared such remorse.
But I owned my part for what got us off course.

And as tears were flowing...
...I'm sorry was said...
...and soon an idea came for this new thread.

Beyond the Before...
...our marriage improves...
...in spite of that asinine alien's moves.

And NO, I'm not thankful
for my husband's A...
...despite it our marriage is better today.

Our MC says broken bones
take time to mend...
...but scar tissue makes them more strong in the end.

So now that our marriage
has suffered the scars...
...from asinine alien attacks on what's ours...

...we're learning to recognize
alien wiles...
...and building more passion in spite of its trials.

We're getting resilient,
and loving much more.
Thank God for our marriage Beyond the Before.


(Part two)

I TRIED and I TRUSTED; He LIED, then got BUSTED!!!

By Ace (12~9~07)

While I was here needing
to find my true role,
my DH was seeking
to curb my control.

Subconsciously first,
then a chance to defy
evolved to a blatant
and self-serving lie.

That Alien returned
saying "she'll never know"
and one little lie soon
just started to grow....

....it multiplied, mutated,
took on more steam....
that Alien concocted
a fraudelent scheme.

For 4 days it simmered
while DH was trusted....
...one innocent phone call...
and DH was busted.

I asked him again
so that he could come clean...
but he told more lies
in a tone that seemed mean.

I turned to my journal
creating a vent....
...for MC and 2 friends
and after I sent....

...that venting epistle,
I felt so much better...
...it's quite therapeutic
to just write a letter.

The rest of the weekend
went really quite well...
...DH was respectful
and cautious as .... blush...heck.

But after the weekend,
we saw our MC....
...he blasted my DH
but spoke quietly....

MC said the one thing
H needs is, in short....
...to just tell the truth,
or at least 'self-report!'

It's been a whole year
and there'll be many more...
...as we fight these battles
to win the whole war...

We can beat that alien
who still tries to score...
...by giving us head-aches
and age-lines galore...

...But as we succeed
and each other adore...
...Our marriage gets BETTER
than B'YOND the BEFORE!

THE END (I hope!)

****

Thanks for reading.

Ace

{Reposted on Saturday, January 30, 2010 to eliminate stray symbols and combine both Parts 1 and 2.
Part 3 may be in the making.}


FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)

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