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I did misunderstand, MEDC...
But it is clearly time for me to go out to pasture....
Have a GREAT LIFE, you guys...
GOD BLESS...
POWER TO ALL GODDESSES!!!
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Be well Mimi.
Peace and happiness to you and yours.
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Bye mimi.
I'm sorry to see you go!
Best wishes to you and yours.
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Mimi,
sorry to see you go. We spent a lot of time talking over the years.
God Bless,
JL
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Take a long break, Mimi. I think you've earned it. Just stop in every now and then to say hello.
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Mimi, I think of you as a very emotional, passionate woman and I'm sure I won't be the only one who has a "Mimi-style recovery" forever implanted in her brain! Take care. TT
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As another who has been here for a long time, and have seen the really heartfelt advice you wholeheartedly give... I hope you will consider just taking a break. Hugs...Cherise.
6 grands
DDay August 15,1998
Reconcilled Mid-Sept.1998
Husband40 FWS, Me 47 BW
Fully recovered and moving on!
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All the best Mimi. Don't be a stranger.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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....But it is clearly time for me to go out to pasture.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Out to WHAT!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> U R a long ways from being out in any pasture.... (i.e. MB wise, that is <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ). Though I respect your decision and know you will continue on your quest to keep moving forward. This includes your awesome ability to help others. So don't be a stranger. You know this place can always use a helping hand. You've MB stars here that's worth more than ANY degree on a wall. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Hugz, L.
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I did misunderstand, MEDC...
But it is clearly time for me to go out to pasture.... I don't think I'll go on vacation ever again. This summer when I was gone, Pep left. On this vacation I'm still on, now Schoolbus and Mimi are leaving. I know I don't have any power that might cause MB veteran posters to leave the forums, but jeeeez....this is too much of a coincidence. Mimi.....I have not posted to you too often, nor you to me....but I remember reading many of your Mimi1952 posts before I registered and you were one of the major influences in my seeking help here. THANK YOU. Also, I logged in last night and read your SF thread and truly admire the way you host threads, validating posters who inadvertantly sidetrack, but gently steering things back to your original topic. THANK YOU. Your assistance with ChaiLover has been such a help to her, and to ME, her helpless friend who can only bump and encourage. THANK YOU. ****** Your two sentences above are concerning to me but I respect your decisions and choices. If you're leaving the forums because you're needing a break in general (which might last forever), it saddens me, but I'm happy for you. If you're leaving the forums because you want to spend time with your DH now that your M is recovered, more power to you. Your post on my Beyond THE BEFORE thread really blessed me and I'm so glad that I wrote the poem while on vacation as I might have missed your response had I waited until I got home next week. I'm so glad you posted to it. THANK YOU. But if you're leaving the forums because you had a misunderstanding with MEDC or any other poster, please allow emotional issues to settle before making any decisions. Your perspective resonates with many betrayed wives who need your expertise with HOW to recover and rebuild a better marriage than you had before the alien affected you. ***** I disagree that it is CLEARLY time. It may be time for you to take a break for one or more of the above reasons, but that may or may not be clear to any of us, including you. Please reconsider, not only for our sakes, but for yours and your recovered M as well. Just my 2 cents worth. If I'm off base, please forgive me. In closing, regardless what you chose, I've said it before but I'll say it again from the bottom of my heart. Ace
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4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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Mimi, I hate to see you go too! You are such an inspiration and lifter of spirits to those who are HURTING while trying to Plan A. I still think you're the Plan A Queen, I don't care what anyone else thinks. I wish you would reconsider, but I understand. Maybe just take a break... and come back later? People REALLY need you and your flavor of encouragement.
(((Mimi)))
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Go with God, Mimi.
Many blessings to you.
Thanks for all you have done to help others here!
God bless!
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Hi mimi - I understand your frustration...and hurt. I get it. I'd probably do the same.
Just remember that the problem is not you, but with other people. You have my email - keep in touch...
~ Pain is a given, misery is optional ~
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I'm sorry for your pain in missing your grandparent's, Mimi.
I just want you to know that you have been instrumental in helping me to change my view and focus on self, like a swift kick to my CHAKRAs.
You are valued beyond your viewpoint on the SF EN category. You have helped me to see myself again. This has been a VERY difficult ride, and I'm grateful that you have been there to talk me through it.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! I'm thankful that you were part of my personal recovery.
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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Mimi, what a tragic loss to this forum. I hope you come back from time to time. I will miss you terribly! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> And you have my email, so please do email if you feel like chatting.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mimi, You have been such an inspiration to me. I would have loved to have had you for a friend IRL. And I think I will forever think of you as a "Wild & Succulent Woman" on a spiritual quest of her own. Please know that you are treasured. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Mimi,
Thank you so much for contributing to my thread. Your story has kept me hanging on with some hope. I wish you well....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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For ME, as you may have guessed, IRL NOW, I like to have fun and play alot... stay positive...read POSITIVE BOOKS..hang out on PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FORUMS... READ POSITIVITY BLOGS... Right now I'm reading AUTHENTIC HAPPINESS..my last book AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN...continued PERSONAL RECOVERY... There USED to be MORE ..yep...FUN.. around HERE to lighten things up a bit. FOR ME, there is too much negative energy here...RIGHT NOW...which is necessary and understandable where there is such IMMENSE HURT AND TRAGEDY...and I even may have joined in and created some of it.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> And I am not THERE..ANYMORE...choosing NOT to go to my HURT PLACES...and there are many of those places don't even have to do with my H's affair... I'll keep checking in and there's a good chance I'll come back later.... I'LL SEE YOU THEN....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Mimi,
You are one special person. I for one hope to share my recovery news of self and marriage one day in G-d time. Please know how much I thank you for your time and knowledge.
SG
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
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I understand your need to move on.
Probably for the same reason I found it hard to stick around and "give back" what I had found here!
I have found other places more respectful which results in more energy spent on the important issues and less on the "other stuff". Even still, it is hard for me to stay continually engaged in infidelity talk....I lurk more than I post nowadays.
Thanks for always being there for me....best wishes to you and yours.
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