Okay, here's the scoop. I haven't heard any valid reasons why my Wife left. Okay, there were a few, but she has since retracted then restated then retracted... She could lose a debate with a kindergartner.<P><B>"It's not you, it's me"</B><BR>She told me this a few times, then she told her father I ignored her then she told him it's not him, it's me.<P><B>"You made oat bran muffins"</B>?!? I don't understand. 9 Years ago I had high cholesterol. I bought "How to lower your cholesterol in 6 weeks." Part of it is to eat lots of oat bran, so I made muffins. I didn't force her to eat them, I just made them & took a few to work. (Yeah, the program dropped my cholesterol from 225 to 175 in two months )<P><B>When I asked her to give me one reason she couldn't come home, she said, "Because you're there."</B><BR>Well, DUH! She told me before, "we're still friends, blah, blah, blah." But why did she have to leave town? Can't even be in the same state with a "friend?"<P>Her sister told her she needs to come back & be with the kids in town, if not in the house. Her reply? <B>"I can't just leave. I have a job here & responsibilities"</B><BR>But not to your children?<P>Anyway, these are a few of the reasons why I'm not outa here yet. If she could keep her story straight between phone calls, then I would sure have a lot more to go on and "fix" what I need to. Right now I'm pretty much going by what I perceived as problems and trying to "interpret" her comments.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

Chris,<P>As always I admire your logic and your courage. Prayers as always.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Chris, you da man! Keep the faith, Brother. God is with you are you are not going through this alone. He has entrusted you with this trial and He will give you the strength to make it through in a way that will bring glory to Him. (And you do glorify Him with each post of courage and faith that you type here.)<P>I don't know what your wife will decide to do. She is her own master right now, and she will make her own decisions. Keep your focus on trusting God and bringing Him glory, and you will be blessed beyond all measure.<P>God be with you,<BR>Shannon

Have you ever read the story of Hosea in the Bible? I suggested a few other guys to read it and I think your situation patterns his more than others. Basically, Hosea gave his wife over to her own sins. Everything he tried to do to bring her home failed. He finally let her go her own way and sure enough, she crashed BIG TIME. He was there to pick her up and restore her as his wife and mother of their kids. It is quite a love story how a man never gave up on his wife. <P>I see a lot of similarities there Chris. <P>SHA

Chris,<BR>My w went thru the same thing, saying material things didn't mean anything when in reality thats all he was promising her.<P>Hang in there and God Bless!

Chris,<P>I have never in my life seen anyone with the patients [sp] of a saint more than you.<P>I unfortunately could not hold out as long as you and dove off the deep end with the divorce proceedings. Emotions took over. I have been following your posts. If anyone deserves eternal happiness it is most certainly you. I take my hat off to salute your concerted effort to salvage the sanctity of marriage. Someone's gotta do it.<P>Wishing us all the best<P>Medic

Just gotta tell you all.<P>Thanks.<P>This is such a difficult situation. I could have never imagined the pain and hurt of such a loss. Ya’ know, there are times I feel like sucking on the end of a shotgun (I don’t have a gun so don’t worry. Suicide is NOT an option for me at any time!). But I can’t. I made a promise to my children. I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU! I did explain to them I have to go to work and stuff like that. Also, accidents do happen & I could get into a car wreck or something, but they know I would never leave them of my own will. Right now they are number one in my life (okay, #2 behind God )<P>Singer, Yes, God is giving me the courage & strength to endure this. I know it is for a reason and one day He will bless me for doing this.<P>SHA, I have read it a bit, but I will go back and read it all.<P>Medic, We are all different. We have different breaking points and we have all been through different situations regardless of how similar they may seem on the surface.<P>To all of you struggling through this most immense trial of your life:<BR>“May the Lord answer you when you are in distress;<BR>may the name of the God of Jacob protect you.<BR>May he send you help from the sanctuary<BR>and grant you support from Zion.<BR>May he remember all your sacrifices and accept your burnt offerings.<P>May he give you the desire of your heart<BR>and make your plans succeed.<BR>We will shout for joy when you are victorious<BR>and will lift up banners in the name of our God.<BR>May the Lord grant all your requests”<BR>Psalm 20:1-5<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A><p>[This message has been edited by Chris (CA123) (edited October 12, 1999).]

Thanks for the prayer Chris...<P>You are a great Dad and you're also right that there is a reason for all of this......<P>I just hope we know it soon!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

Chris, great Psalm, but I believe it is Psalms 20:1-5.<P>By the way, my confirmation verse is Psalms 27:14. Wait for the Lord: be strong, and let your heart take courage; yea, wait for the Lord!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Sheba, In His time, not ours!<P>FHL, you’re right. My bad!<P>Here’s a good one (humor involved here folks!)<BR>Lord grant me the courage to change what I can, the strength to accept what I cannot change and the wisdom to know where to hide the bodies!

Well, aren't you in a Murderous mood this evening!!! LOL!!<P>His time? --yeah, yeah!! I know - just shut-up and wait!!!! LOL!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba