I think that is the LESSON for us is to TRUST no MATTER what we are SEEING, because only G-d KNOWS.

We can support each other on this one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Well.. if we could -see- everything that is going on.. we wouldn't have to TRUST and have FAITH.. now would we?


I BELIEVE God is working on the other side of the mountain.

I BELIEVE that God, like the good shepherd He is, is seeking His lost sheep.

I BELIEVE that God has a plan, and there is a REASON we have been called by HIM to stand for OUR marriages.

I BELIEVE that God is perfecting us, and our spouses over time to be what we need to be for EACHOTHER. Our waywards are not home yet because God is not FINISHED working on them.. and us.

I BELIEVE that if it is not God's WILL for my marriage to survive, that He will show me the BETTER way that He has planned for me.

I BELIEVE that part of -my- lesson is to show His love to others, and learn forgiveness for those that have wronged me.

I BELIEVE God is telling me to WAIT, and TRUST in HIM.. and He is consistent with HIS message to me.. I should BELIEVE, and cast off doubt and hopelessness... and TRUST in HIM.

So.. I shall.. and as I believe, so it shall be done through Him who answers all prayer... in His timing.

You're in my prayers SG.. you're doing wonderfully as well. Keep your eyes on God.. He will not steer you into the wrong direction.

TRUST in the LORD, and lean not unto THINE OWN understanding.

The thing is to be able to be SINCERE and HONEST in what you say to him.

I guess if it were me, I would be able to say it was "GREAT" to "SEE" him but I would have to leave "at the games" out. I know it's a play on words but it would be THE TRUTH for me....

You made me have a MEMORY of my grandmother whom I ADORED...She alway used to say: "PRETTY IS..AS PRETTY DOES"..explains the OW's LOOKS... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks James,

I am printed that out for my prayer book.

Did you read the psalm and mass readings today?

Mimi,

What a GREAT saying. And very TRUE.

And truly being sincere and honest is the easiest thing to do because it's how I feel. If you say to just comment on seeing him, then that's what I will do. This is the AREA you know BEST. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

What are you up to today?

I am feeling powerful today. I haven't felt that for a VERY long time. Head's up and Chin's Out. I am even going to do some clothes shopping after work tonight.

One of the first things I did this morning was read those, print them out and stick them in my pocket.

It's certainly a message of hope and strength as if it were aimed directly for us, isn't it?

God is good to his faithful.

It's CHEST out...LOL...

Finger pushed the button to quick and then my boss wanted me to work, and I forgot to edit.

NO trouble putting my chest out.

Can we come up with a name for WS? I need to add a little humor to my life.

Any thoughts?

James,

It's amazing how that fits into our life. Not to mention how those Charlynne Cares email fit us daily.

As my AA sponsor says - Is it odd or is it G-d?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ok,

Mission Accomplished.

I called him. I told how nice it was to see him over the weekend. Silence. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Then I asked him for some pointers on my training for Ultimate Frisbee that I could do in the gym. He talked to me a great deal about what to do and then made suggestions for outside work at the school. I thanked him for some great suggestions.

We talked about the weather and he bragged about snow, I told him we had a little. I don't even bite anymore when he says "we and us". It makes me sick though.

He asked me if I had taken certain pictures at the game yesterday. I told him the battery had gone dead, he said that he should probably get the camera back so he can look into the batter. I did't say a word, but I'll take care of that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

He asked me about the boys and I told him about how dinner and last night went with "our children". I had him laughing through most of the conversation.

We talked about the car registration and he new that I was offering to pay for half of it. I told him to use the check I had left, he declined and asked why. Well, because the car is half MINE and he paid for the other registrations so it's only fair I pay for my portion. He said, not a problem he took care of it. I thanked him.

I wished him a happy Hanukkah and he wished me back one.

I think I did well in that conversation.

Mimi,

The comment he said to me last week about "being somebody now" is still bothering me. I would like to send him a card that somehow addresses that, very short but powerful. What do you think?

My resolve is weakening. What's a good thing to do.

I miss him so much after I get time with him. What did you do to get through it.

Pray? Pray? Pray? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You are doing very, very well. Now you just need to be still and wait for G-d to do his work. I know, it is hard to do nothing.

Just like B said, you are A STAR! You are doing WONDERFULLY!

I'm thinking MORE TELEPHONE CONVERSATION regarding the WORKOUT...moving towards asking him if he can meet with YOU TO HELP you out....

B and M,

I can wait as long as G-d needs me to. I am his humble servant who loves him so much and wants to be his shining star for the stand and eventual restoration of my M.

Hard things to do is what is building my character and strength to keep on loving my H in the face of this horrid time.

I truly thank you Mimi, for your kind words. You can't understand how much your encouraging words help me and push me forward.

More telephone conversations it is. I will leave him alone for tomorrow and then call on Wednesday. He just chirped away when asked to help. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Sounds like you're doing wonderfully SG.. keep up the good work and remember to be thankful for what God gives you.

I'm so happy that things seem to be moving in a positive direction for you, just keep chipping away little by little. As many people around here say.. it's a marathon, not a sprint.

Glory be to God today.

Hi James,

I think I need help with people telling me how things are moving in a positive direction. I don't see that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I am eternally grateful to G-d for the place he has PUT ME in, but what's happening on the other side, NO CLUE whatsoever.

My recover is coming along, that's for SURE. I am WORKING my PLAN A, but I am getting READY to put Plan B into action and somehow need to start preparing myself for it I guess.

Mimi,
What should I be doing emotionally and action wise for Plan B to happen?

How long do you think I should keep working Plan A.

When should I begin to develop my letter for Plan B and have it ready to go?

So many questions this morning.

J

((((SG))))

You just answered your own question here..

Ah the PERSONAL RECOVERY.

Yes, that IS moving in a positive direction.

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Yup... measure your success by the goals you have for yourself.

You cannot measure what your H does to be a requirement for your success. You have NO CONTROL over what he does or does not do.. it's not a valid indicator of whether or not -you- are succeeding.

Keep the chin up and the chest out like Mimi says.. you -are- doing wonderfully.

God is with you.. KNOW that.

How do you suppose we came to this place where we are standing for our M no matter what.

How did I seek G-d versus becoming more bitter in life. I am so grateful to G-d that I looked to him to walk through this and didn't go to the black side or turn dark.

I have to have FAITH that one day, my life will be full of joy and blessings and my FAMILY, will be complete because G-d is at the center of it.

How much I have come to love and rely on G-d to just get me through the little things, like waking up in the morning and getting out of bed. My sleeping, I even seem to be sleeping with more peace and serenity and just walking in FAITH that my H will be HOME one day and our marriage restored.

I think that measuring my success based on what H/WH is going to take some work.

I have FAITH, but it hasn't become a PART of me that G-ds plans for me may NOT include my H.

I think I need to work on praying for acceptance for whatever and just completely grasp, G-d is working to turn this into good, regardless of the outcome.

I just need to wait on him and let him do his work, like Believer says.

This is something that I can assure you doesn't come easily. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And to be honest, I get tired of the situation.