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I love you too. I'm sorry I am having such a rough go tonight.

I won't get to watch the game until I get home after working a wedding fair all day. How fun is that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I am heading down to the hotel on Thursday to meet up with the team and get autographs. I need to be closer to them.

Happy New Year JT,

May it be full of blessings for you and your family. Not to mention continued good health.

I don't see me as a gift, but I'll keep working at it.


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Hi Queenie,

I'm with you on the rough go thing tonight. Hang in there this too will pass.

You ARE a miracle... your love for others are obvious even in the way you treat your WH. He has done unforgivable things, but you look pass them and worry about how he's doing. That takes someone very special, of which you are.

On top of that you like football, Pink Floyd, Yes and has found g-d. Geeze, add hockey to that and your getting close to the perfect woman.

We are here with you! Going to play a game with the kids, check in later to let you know how things went.


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I certainly know how you feel. I feel that way too, but it is just something that we can't control. I've also wondered how my WH could just walk away from 34 years, and from a person that he has known practically all of his life.

It hurts. I realize that I'll live either way, but the pain will never go away.

What am I doing? Sewing that other pillow sham. What a fun NYE. Maybe next year I'll get a life, huh??


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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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Yes, you are right, this is something we can't control.

Chai, no I can't imagine this pain ever going away either.

You have a life. It's just not what we have planned right now. Or maybe it is. Maybe we are just learning about how precious love, marriage and feelings are because one day somehow, we will be whole again and not just exising in life, but really appreciating it all.

I talked to SmartiePants on the phone. She and I have talked for a long time now. She is such an amazing woman, with such strength.

She and I really think the cruise idea is a good one.


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what cruise? I want to go on a cruise! I want to soak up some sun, I want to get out of all this snow, I want to stop aching so bad!


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Ok, Serenity,

Let's plan a cruise. I was talking to Smartie Pants and she thinks it's a great idea.

I saw Carribean because it's warm or Mexican. Where do you live?

{{{{{{{{{{Serenity}}}}}}}}}

I understand what you are saying. I want it to stop soon too. What did you do for yourself today?


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Count me in on any cruise. I just have to solve the motion sickness problem. I've heard that the patches work.

When are we going?


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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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Hey ladies! Happy New Year!

We can't go until September or after because I have school until August <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />. So I'm out of commission for any extended vacation until after graduation.

And if things continue to go as they are, I'll also be divorced by then too--so I'll need a cruise to lighten the mood!!!

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Ladies,

Are you truly serious? Would you like to start planning a cruise?

Who else would be game?


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I'm way up in New England-covered in snow with more to come tomorrow!

I don't know that I did anything for myself, cleaned my room, vaccumed, other than that I obsessed all day ;-(

SS


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I've obsessed all day long too.

Actually not all day. When I went to work I really enjoyed being there working on a project for my boss. I had my ipod up loud and sang the whole time.

I hit the big 80 lbs today. Woohoo. The weight loss has definetly dropped off and that's a drag. But like my M, it's in his hands.

What do things do you like to do? Mimi asked me what I always wanted to learn or do? How about you?


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WH and OW broke up 1-09
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Mimi,

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In hindsight, looking back it would have been helpful to think of PLAN A as CREATING A MEMORY of you for your WS to keep while in PLAN B.
If I look at it this way, I AM doing a GOOD PLAN A.

I have done things and reacted in ways that I KNOW has absolutely BLOWN him away. The look on his face when I brought him the camera was one of pure shock.

I finally gave a total to how much weight I have lost and he even said good job.

So, can we start to recap a little of what I have accomplished so I can address those areas that are a little weak and go from there. Make sense to you?


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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
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WH and OW broke up 1-09
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Yes, serious about the cruise. We could all get together for a weekend to plan it, meet each other, etc.

Skins, I'm not so close to you but I think I'm close to Smartie. I'm in Ohio. Smartie, we could meet somewhere in WV for coffee!! Think they have Starbucks in WV?

I'm game for anything actually. I love to travel and love taking weekend mini vacas, so I'll go anywhere.


BS - me 56
XWH - 57

12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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All right, let's plan it.

I think it would be a blast to do something like that.

Did you know Starbucks is from Seattle?


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Sounds good to me. I've been to Portland, but not Seattle. Yes, I know that SB is from Seattle. Would love to visit you there, so we'll have to plan an outing to Seattle as well. Get the REAL Starbucks there!!!! Tall, one-pump Mocha with two Splenda and whipped cream. Uuummmm.

I'm going to give up for the night. My dog already rang in the new year and went up to bed. If I don't get up there soon, she'll steal my spot. See you all tomorrow....


BS - me 56
XWH - 57

12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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Ok, Happy New Year.

Never had that. I keep to the cinnamon dulce sugar free, non fat.

Talk to you tomorrow, sleep well.


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Just wanted to let you know I have been praying for you and for this day.

I want to remind you - there is always hope. I always think of Psalm 42 and I remember G-d has not forgotten me, He only desires me to long for Him.





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Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Hey TST,

That means alot to me that you would stop by. Did your W let you know that I was hoping to ask you some questions? Are you ok with my picking your brain.

I want to congratulate you and tell you how impressed I am with what you have done. I think that G-d really smiles hugely when he thinks of you listening and coming home.

I know there is always hope, but what makes you think there is hope in my sitch?


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Queenie, you OK? I know this one was going to be hard, please check in. For What it worth, as my F said....
Happy New Year, it's got to be better than last year.
We need to believe this as hard as it is.

My thoughts are with you today. Extra prayers for you.


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I'm ok. Kinda of exhausted actually but afraid to go to sleep because I don't want to wake up during the night.

Yes this year can only be better. D-day is already happened so that can't happen again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> At least I don't think so.

I appreciate the extra prayers and need them too. Thank you.

You doing Ok?


BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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