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I would be SOOO lucky!!! (SNOW!!) I have to admit I have never owned a pair of those!! LOL...

Hope you are having a great day!!


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OMG are we STILL on the subject of shoes.......

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Silent:

I SO enjoyed skiing at the German alps when I was in the AF. That would have been 85. Only skied once since then.

About the topside controller? Girlfriend, the dogs teeth can WAIT. Those greyhounds can't leave the house anyway!

Get thier shots, YES! but the teeth? Hot TUB First.

Will be in there with Flamingo Tonight. 102 HOT Degrees. She is having back issues right now too, it good to go back in....

It so cool when the snow is falling and your in the hot tub. Your right, doesn't happen often round here, but its great for about 15 minutes, then the snow on your head starts to melt and it gets too cold!

The stars were JUST awesome last night, the moon rose late and sky was so clear.

Chin up.

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ETA: We also have a TWO person bathtub. WIDE, but short. You CAN sink in, but your knees stick out!

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I know, sick isn't it. Seems it's a disease I've had since childhood, judging from my love of my moon boots.

I don't really shop for shoes that much, but I like to browse them online. My best friend and I call it looking at SHORN (shoe porn). It's nuts, but I love shoes. I adore them from afar mostly. It's only when I go to some big event that I spend the dough on an expensive pair.


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SHORN - - - I think I just LMAO-APMP on that one!!

I'm with LG, get the shots and then get that hot tub, baby!!

Darn,,, I miss my Big Big Bath tub!!! Only thing I REALLY miss from the Drac house.

It is #1 on my 'major' Bug's house list of changes. My current tub,,, well it's so small I won't even comment about what all sticks out! LOL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />


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Well, the teeth have gotten to a rotten state; some extractions may be needed. I never really knew greyhounds had such nasty teeth! It's a necessity at this point.

And about you, Bugsy, you'd better get some depends for that incontinence problem. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I never had a big bath tub, but having the hot tub, and it being out of commission right now (it's not so bad, but it's perpetually stuck at 96 degrees; not really all that warm, considering body temp is ~99), I miss it.

Oh, and Bugsy, go right ahead, ELABORATE on what sticks out. I betcha I already know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


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99 degrees! YIKES! That's almost COLD, isnt' it?

I LOVE that you have greyhounds,,, a good friend of mine rescued 2 and they are too sweet. I know you'd never let them go without what they need, if the teeth have to come out, then they have to come out. My sister's Yorkie ended up with Summer Teeth --- Sum were in, Sum were out! LOL!

Well, as to what is sticking out,,, I haven't posted my pic yet so it COULD be my stomach! Or Thunder Thighs!


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Well, I said TORSO for a reason; nice and vague.

Summer teeth! LOL! I'm taking that one; may need it at the end of the day tomorrow. Thanks!

Lucas, my greyhound, is very sweet, he's a lover. He also tends to WHINE for his needs. Whine wimper whine, I need food; whine wimper whine, I need go out, whine wiper whine, toooouch me. It can be annoying sometimes. He sleeps most of the time. He's got the worst gas of any animal, I think including elephants, that I've ever had the displeasure of smelling. He's a counter surfer, and has downed many a loaf of bread! He's beautiful though. Watching him run is a thing of sheer beauty. He'll run right by you, thundering past, so you can feel the ground shake, but it's like he's floating.

Now, I also have a terrier (rat russell --part jack part rat terrier). She's a swimmer and fetcher, and loves the frisbee. She's loads of fun in the summertime.


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Just thought I would post what I wrote on mvg's thread, as it has more to do with my own recovery than general advice.

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Well, LovingAlong, welcome to our party!

It's raucous and crazed sometimes, but we try to keep eachother from going over the edge of insanity.

If you look at my most recent thread (probably buried back on page 3 or further--I should prolly update it.) you'll see that I had one WHOPPER of an AO and mutilated a defenseless shirt, and tried to LB him down to ashes. What a horrific night that was. We even talked about separating again. I was so distraught and done.

That was it. I had gotten to a place of doneness with the track I was on. It wasn't working. I came here. Vented and got some really good thwacks about the head and some great advice.

Since then, I have been taking much better care of myself; I take baths when I want, or read or post here for support, I let the anger go and the laughter in. There is no pressure on either one of us to meet needs that we are not prepared for. I believe in getting there slowly but surely, now.

Before this, I was TRYING and TRYING and PUSHING MYSELF. Then I would wonder why he wasn't responding in MY TIMEFRAME, and would get angry and focused on what he wasn't doing, and stuff the anger, because I knew it was counterproductive . What I didn't try was airing my grievances WHEN they happened, instead of letting the anger build, and finding ways to communicate better .

I FEEL closer to PWC now, regardless of how he feels toward me. Maybe it's facing my fears of rejection, little by little. I dunno. I only know that it's working better now than it ever has. PWC asks me about myself, my health (I have some major neck issues, and had pneumonia recently). He cooks and cleans and takes excellent care of his son, and the dogs. He complains very little about any of it; and sometimes seems more filled with joy over the love of his son.

It's just been BETTER. I've found a formula that is working. I do have needs that are much more important TO ME (as in affection and words of affirmation), that do go widely unmet, but I'm not a cup half empty kind of girl. I recognize the potential for hot sex, warm cuddles and words of love on the horizon. I've put the breaks on, slowed my roll, realizing that 2 years is a mighty long time and this won't happen overnight.

I know now, I truly know, that I am doing everything that *I* can to make this happen, and feel really proud for having come to this point.

If you ladies don't mind, I'm going to cut and paste this into my thread, too.


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SL your post is inspiring, and I thank you for sharing it with me.


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Thank you for posting this to your thread or I would have missed witnessing your WONDERFUL GROWTH!!!

((((SL))))

I'm also APPLAUDING you again!!!

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It sounds like you are doing very well SL. You should have attacked that shirt a long time ago.


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Thanks y'all. I am doing well these days.

I had a Myelogram done on Tuesday that has given me one HORRENDOUS headache, but am doing well otherwise.

My work Christmas party is tomorrow. It's going to be AWESOME. I know I'm going to look very nice, and the party is going to be swank! It's at an upscale italian ristorante in Little Italy; we rent the top floor and open bar every year. Valet parking, no worries. It's really fun!

We got our Christmas tree this past Sunday and have yet to decorate it. I've been down with this headache for a couple of days, and don't feel loads better today, so we may need to wait until this Sunday. I plan on having a nice dinner and some champagne; Christmas music playing and such. I always liked decorating the tree, but I want it to be a fun experience, not one done under pressure or pain.

The shirt, may it rest in peace, was a long time comin, but it never should have happened that way. It should have been retired long ago, but I didn't have the guts to talk about it.

Now, I don't have to worry, 'cause I don't let anything fester. A great lesson learned.

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as you can tell, i'm relatively new here and i feel almost like i'm butting in to this thread... but SL i just wanted you to know that i read all 20 pages of this thread after reading your cut and paste job up there... a wonderful summary on your part

i sincerely hope your husband notices the peuter A frame dress and organge shoe combo and that you have a wonderful night at the party

wish i would have found yall years ago

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I do believe he will notice, charliethree (Snickle Dippenhead).

I'll have to take a look at your thread. I'm sorry to see that it has escalated to D for you. It always breaks my heart to see a family breaking up. I can't imagine true recovery without MB, without this forum, and my good friends here. It's an uphill battle all the way!


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Good to hear that things are going so well...sorry about that major headache...

I KNOW that YOU WILL have a blast at the party!!!!

have a great day!


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SL:
So glad things are going so well with you !!

Like what you did before, I let anger fester also and still don't know how to let my H know on the spot in a calm way. I bet that's one of the reason that I explode like a clock every couple of weeks or so lately. It was better before the winter. Maybe the weather plays a role too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

I so want to have a Christmas party too. We won't have one this year since the company ( and the telecom industry overall I think) is struggling financially. Too bad.

I am so happy for you though. I'm sure your H is going to notice. Your spirit is showing through screen.

I still remember I was putting much effort in getting my spirit up and dress nicely for my H at the very beginning of our recovery. He noticed and he started to stare at me with that kind of eyes again, you know...But let my anger took over after I felt more secure and things had been up and down wildly...I know I should be the one holding steady and I am going to do it for myself. Lets see what happens...

Have a great time at the party SL. And thanks for all these inspirational posts...

I read about your H touched you twice in another thread. I know how much that means belive me. My H hasn't really touched me in a nonsexual way a lot either. He never did that before A either, but that's no excuse. I'm going to lead by example and be a better me and let my needs heard and see how he responds.

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SL I hope you have a great time at your party! You WILL be the 'hottie' there in your new dress & shoes!!!!


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So, I found out today that I will be having surgery for the neck problem in early January. I'm a bit shaken, but not stirred; just the initial shock of having to think of everything involved with getting ready.

I have some time to look up the surgical procedure and become familiarized with everything, which is good, but not so much time that I can obsess.

My DS is feeling pretty ill, so I may be going to my Christmas party STAG. I'm not really thrilled about that, because it will be the second year in a row that my husband was not with me (he was with Aimless at this time last year), but such is the situation. I would rather my son was taken care of.

So, although I'm not looking forward to surgery and pain, I'm looking forward to feeling better and getting stronger again.

I'm a bit scared, which is probably not all that abnormal. It would be nice if my M were in better shape at this point, but it is what it is.


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SL I'm sure once you get to look up the info on your surgery you'll feel a bit better. I think being scared is VERY normal. Hopefully your M will be in even better shape by the time your up for surgery. (have a great time at the party,even if you do have to go alone).


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