SL:

I admire you for stating your truth without fear. Other things are truly out of our control. I KNOW your husband will look at himself and his behavior in a different light some time, I hope it's sometime soon, not too late after you lost all the love for him.

When my husband was in the fog, my touch would bring him physical stress and he would withdraw, not intentionally, but subconsiouly. But he did try. And he overcome his own "psychological barrier" as he put it, little by little.
If he had not tried, we would have stuck there also. But people have to try and without trying, there is no change.

Sometimes certain events need to happen to strike people into actions. Maybe you need to think of doing something else. When I was dealing with my H's withdrawal, I found that when I was more distant and seem to care less, he seemed to come closer and it's like a little dance and that lasted several months. Maybe it's time for you to be cool
since you have said you wanted to let him go?? I'm not sure. It's so hard to analyze another human being...

Short blond hair, huh?? That's so cool! How do you like it now? Take care of yourself. You are the one that matters the most to you. It's truly his loss if he losses you and you know that.

Snowy

{{{{SL}}}}

You can't make someone not live backwards...he said he's waiting to feel something to then choose to do something.

You're no longer living backwards, are you?

I hope your hair comes out...oh, wait...I was gonna say 'okay'...lemme rephrase...

:::insert ornery lookin' smiley face:::

You're gonna look great...good self-care. When is your massage scheduled?

LA

The hair is blondy blonde in the front and a darker brown underneath. It's HOT! A stark difference from just a week ago, but it's kickin'. I like to mix it up.

Well, ladies, thanks for chiming in on the subject. I can't go backwards. I can't be LESS informed now. I can't undo what I've learned. I have a momentum that will not allow for backstepping very often of very far.

I do love PWC, and would love for him to be happy. Maybe I'm not the one for him to be that with. Maybe he has to drop further to get to his core. Unfortunately, I fear that he will continue down the same path, looking outside himself for the answer. HIs choice, really.

I know that we could have it ALL, if we both walk through the darkness together. He may not trust that.

I can't tell you enough how much I admire the choices you are making and the healthy boundaries you are practicing.

You are doing a great job.

Regardless of what your H chooses, you are a phenomenal lady and I will support you.

What a TRUE GODDESS you've become..a BLONDE GODDESS at that...

(((((SL)))))

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He still sounds foggy to me. It's disturbing.

I admire your choices, too, SL. And how well you're holding up through all of this. I hope it gets better soon.

(((SL)))

SL,



You ROCK,,, you Goddess you!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Happy Birthday, Froz!

SL - Now I'm thinking of going out and getting my hair professionally colored. Once every three years isn't too indulgent, is it?

LA

Thanks, LA!



Freeloader talk. "We shouldn't have to TRY. It should be effortless or we're wrong for each other."

The sad thing about that mentality is who knows just how many relationships one needs to begin and end before they either decide that NO ONE is right for them or that their belief was wrong and they missed the opportunity to bloom where they were planted to begin with.

SL,

Good luck on your operation tomorrow. I will be thinking of you all day. Let us know how you are when you can. Do what you need to do to recover and don’t rush.

You are an inspiration and a true friend to many here.

There will be a candle lit in Denver tonight.

{{{{{{Good luck SL}}}}}}

Hey, hey, hey now, Chrisner...

TWO candles in Denver. TWO.

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How is it possible that SL, who is nothing CLOSE to a pain in the neck...has one?

:::shaking my head:::

LA

SL:
Same here, wish you best of luck on your operation tomorrow.
Focus on good thoughts and good feelings.
We will all be thinking of you.

Snow

SL is now sopping up the coffee from her keyboard after this line from LA...



I can always count on you guys to give me a good laugh. Thanks friends. You are sooooo appreciated.

Hopefully, we can get more candles lit and start a BONFIRE!!! Kinda like how my cake looks on my birthday these days. Thank you for the loving support.

I'll let y'all know how I'm doing post-op when I can.

LA,

I will put up three. My heating bill came in yesterday anyway and I could use the extra BTU's.

SL, this should make you smile:

Rainbow

God Bless you SL!!

I'll be thinking about you tomorrow!!

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Chrisner what a great link!

((SL in my prayers))) with candle lit on East Coast.

Chrisner, I'm crying, that was just beautiful. What's really strange, is she reminds me of myself, when i was her age. The hair, right down to the missing teeth.

I don't know what it is about kids that just tugs at my heart, but I always have a little tear for every join and pain that I witness with children. Probably because I'm a momma myself, I suppose.

Mimi, thank you my Goddess friend. This Goddess in training is going to keep a happy perspective, thanks to y'all, my family, friends, and YES, my husband.

Hey SL - just trying to catch up. Saying a prayer for you also.

Candle lite here! Thinking of you!

Rin

mvg, thank you my comrade in arms. East coast in the HOUSE!!!

Eph, hey there man! It's good to see you back posting. Thanks for the prayers.