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I'm baaaaaack. WW just kicked off her 3rd affair Monday of this week. I don't want to save the marriage but I do want to figure out what I should be doing to put myself in the best position legally.
I can't stand the sight of her, so I would like here to go away - shack up w/OM, whatever. But is that the wrong thing to do? Also I was thinking about taking kids to see relatives all next week. I'll grind it out if I need to with her in the house but I'd rather not.
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I sure wouldn't want her in the same house. If I were you, I would file for divorce on the grounds of adultery with the best lawyer you can get. Ask for full custody of your kids along with the house and have your attorney help you get her out of there.
Will she move out if you ask? Have you tried? If you haven't, I would try that first.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm going to do just that ML - Monday.
I think she would move out if I asked. I just wonder if I should take her up on her offer to get a hotel right now - tonight. I told her to stay at OMs but she didn't go for that.
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I'm going to do just that ML - Monday.
I think she would move out if I asked. I just wonder if I should take her up on her offer to get a hotel right now - tonight. I told her to stay at OMs but she didn't go for that. I would go for that. And then change the locks when she leaves. Get her out while you can and then get a legal seperation that protects your children and your home. So sorry this is happening to you, MDC. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks everyone. Hello LA. Obviously recovery didn't go like it should have.
My challenge now is going to be dealing with the pain of doing this to my two beautiful, innocent children. It's a hideous thing to have happen to them.
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MDC,
I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this again. Take care of yourself and your kids and try to put as much distance between you are WW as possible.
She really does sound like a piece of work!
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
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