Hi
I'm about to file for a divorce after being married for only 7 months.
My wife has had men over the house on numerous occations, I say men plural because the audio I have has several types of voices on it.

I confrointed her and she denied it of course, she tells me that there is nothing oing on and none is coming over
Yet I have proof tah she is having affairs in our house.
Coming home early from work, having sex, and they leave.

I moved out of town to marry her, and now I am starting over, I hate starting over again, and again , and again.
But such is life, change is inevitable ,so I am trying to move out of the house, I have to keep a low profile, play along and keep the smiles going, act like evrything is OK, that I was wrong for accusing her, that I sm sorry that I dod not trust her.

Too bad, in any event its over and I am going to file for an uncontested divorce, this is my second marriage by the wsy I was with my first wife for 20 years, this one here is a keeper ( not ) anyway I'm not a mental basket case like I was when I first found out, thank God.....Im in the solution, move out, divorce, get life back...in that order, however long it takes,

So I'm open to suggestions, direction, help, anything,
OK??
OK.
Thank You all so , so much...:-)

So how long did you know her before you married her?

How long have you been divorced from your previous wife?

How did you meet your current spouse?

Why did you and your previous wife divorce?

Why were you recording things going on in the house to begin with?

I knew her for 8 months, we then waited a year before we got married, for allintents and purposes it was good.
I was with my first wife for all of 20 years, I was divorced for three years, probably not enough time to begin with.

My current wife was working for a telephone sales co. and I made a pass at her over the phone, we talked everyday almost, then after about 4 months I flew to her home, we made love th efirst night, I was not expecting that, but we had erotic phone talk all the time.

My previous wife and I divorced because it was not working, we practicly hated each other, we could not speak without it turning into an argument, it was sad and painful.

And to the fact of my recording, I felt that something was wrong, she was acting different, starting to put powder on the bed, was not that interested in sex as we used to be hot and heated, it was different, I filmed the OM running past the camera, they where having sex in my computer chair, I recorded him and her, and confronted her and she denied it, this was in Oct, here it is Nov and he is still coming over, even after I confronted her with this, she denies it and continues to bring this man over, soI figure its time for me to get the ****** out of here.

I need to save money to move, I have bad debt and am having a hard time getting a place, and I cant stand to be here any longer, I have to pay Child support, and catch up on my bills, and my time is getting short, I have been acting like everything is OK, I have been talking to her, going out , you knopw acting like family and all and she is looking happy, acting like she is so in love, praying for the marriage, and having OM come over to house, its a horrible situation to be in.

So that the long of it, theres more, there always is, but I'm exhausted

hi healing...

i pray that God will protect you during this difficult time.

sincerely,

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My wife and I spoke today about the alledged affair, I confronted her for the ;ast time and told her that I am looking for a place and that we should start the divorce the process, she is struggling financilay and I agreed to stay behind and help her for a month so she can get caught up.

She went to her folks house for the holiday, I was supposed to go, but decided to tell her what I was doing, I tried to play along but I couldnt do it, I couldnt do it....
So I feel lost right now, I feel alienated, hurt.
I m severly codependent and need help right now, even though I know she is doing what she is doing, I am afraid to let go.... even though I need to right now, this will pass, for both of us, I feel so, so alone right now.

What do I do....I have alienated all my friends and family and made her the center of my life, can anyone relate to this, I am being mad eout to be the bad guy to her parents and daughter, even though her first husband left her, and now I am leaving, I have been holding on to this for a while now, I became obsessed with finding out the truth, even though I already had it for me... I wanted her to admit it to me...but that is not reality, it is what it is.

So I have been looking for a place, we agreed that I was going to help her with changing over the bills, and we are going to get the divorce.
What do I do from here friends, what do i do ....

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hi,

you want the divorce, right? because you are facilitating it and helping her to achieve it.

it's thanksgiving. can u call your family and friends and wish them a happy thanksgiving?

sometimes it's not necessary to dig into the pile of dog poop to restore connections where there is alienation. sometimes, you just start over by being nice.

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you could move to restore connections... it's a holiday.

and... show love to your family and friends.

blood is thicker than water.

and your friends will forgive you... or you will make new friends.

be a friend... be a good family person... and you will renew things, don't u think?

can u just call and wish everyone a happy thanksgiving??

your current wife is no longer the center of your life. you can rebuild... and you may need to restore connections, at least, with your family, imo.

and wassup with your former wife? is she remarried?

can u do that?

Happy Thanksgiving!

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