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so you are saying that if i decided to remarry god will not honor it? i got an out from god in my marriage due to numerous affairs on my exes part.
i am a born again christian as well, and i do NOT believe that god would NOT honor a second marriage for me.
where you are getting this idea from?
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I am going to be looking for support to "go back" (despite incredible pain that has lessened with time) to "reconcile" the relationship that is the only relationship God will sanctify. Sounds like a cunning plan, you have my support. Although without you giving any other background on your story, it's hard to say if it's the right thing to do or not. Maybe you can share a bit more about your situation than just your beliefs. AGG
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Whatever "back".
You're a troll under a "christian" guise.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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we have troll's here....I thought they only lurked in other threads.....geez.
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""unless this man returns to the Lord before I do... ""
When do you plan to return to the Lord?
So if he (XH) beats you to it, then you are free to marry someone else??
To be honest none of this make a lick of sense to me....but good luck with all o it...
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My choices?
1. Be alone
2. Reconcile with the person who is God's will for me
3. Have an affair and "cover it up" by legal marriage (it will be adultery/fornication outside holy matrimony - God will not change to sanctify a physical union with spiritual bonding by His Spirit - it's nothing more than "sin"... that's what I'm testifying. It is not covenant... and I know it on the inside....)
Therefore, there's nothing "wrong" with me that I cannot move on... it's truly more so that I am a person of strong influence by the Holy Spirit, imo.... as the reason why I "can't". Forgive me for being blunt, but I honestly don't think God ever intended to be used as an excuse NOT to take action to improve yourself. This is exactly what I read into the above. Can't make a choice, can't solve the problem. More like "won't" and using God's name as an excuse. This is yet another thing that puts me off organized religion.
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the way you type your thoughts makes it a bit hard to understand and i'm well read but i think i get the gist of what you are trying to say
wait it out until he asks God to forgive his sin and then and only then work on the aftermath that is the repair process?
if that isn't a bad summary and that is helping you to ease the pain than you are on the right track
i caution you to remain this defensive however. i think what others are trying to say (maybe in a not so nice way) is that what if he never confesses his sin?
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you are most definitely welcome. i more than willing to help you through this. basically that's why we are all here
ok, so let me ask some direct questions because, again, i'm having a bit of a hard time getting the full picture here
- your D-day was like a year ago?
- has he been seeing this woman ever since, a bunch of different women during this year or just sitting in front of the TV hoping for you to smile at him?
- was there no plan A stuff? just a flat out get the heck out of my house and don't come back?
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Sounds like you are trying to do a Plan B. Are you divorced or still married?
AGG
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we have troll's here....I thought they only lurked in other threads.....geez. surviving in the wake... or churning up things and making waves? namecalling... well, those who take cheap shots usually do lack good vision... and accurate aim. ya missed me! lol define troll... and see if you've defined your actions in taking cheap shots at innocent people. Actually before you make A$$umptions.....I was really questioning if we have them here because they never usually bother us here....usually they haunt the general questions board......don't go there with me. If I was actually taking "cheap shots" or "aiming" at you, you would know....because I don't miss. Your reading into an actual question the wrong way.
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i support whatever you want to do. i did marry a believer. one who fell very far away from god throughout the years.
if you feel you should go back to your ex or be alone have it. i'd rather have my eyes scratched out by a butcher knife then ever be with mine again after the things he has done but that is just me. i know god supported my decision to leave my ex and make a good life for me and my children because i have been blessed beyond my wildest dreams since my marriage ended.
god has someone in my mind for me. i don't believe my ex was that man.
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i'd rather have my eyes scratched out by a butcher knife then ever be with mine again after the things he has done but that is just me laughter can be sooooo healthy sometimes lol
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Yeah, I'll sleep with the ex given the opportunity... while he's still married to the POA. Hmm, but what would that make you? A POA? Do you really want to go there? Turnabout is fair play... and all's fair in love and war...I think I'll flirt and go for it. I don't need the traditional route. Oh, I dunno. I think this is way beneath you. Like you said to me, much better to take the higher road and lead a good life than getting down to that level. You know what they say, never wrestle with a pig - you both will get dirty, but only the pig will like it. AGG
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