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I would love to know your opinon on the odds my marriage will be saved.
Details:
WW has EA, PA for 2 months. OM dumped her 4 days ago. NC since. WW now in emotional distress.
I exposed to OMW 2 days ago (wants a divorce), MIL, my parents, etc. Trying hard at plan A but contact is limited; she is living with her parents. I have the house and most of the time with the kids. We alternate weekends with the kids.
Me: BH
Her: FWW
Kids:DSD 12, DS 7, DD, 7
EA/PA: September 2007 - November 2007
Status: In Recovery
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As cookie cutter as affairs are Sh0cked, your questions are tough to answer (so I didn't), because not all recoveries are the same...
Great news that OM ended things...that will certainly work in your favor...Also great job exposing!
I'd say you have a very great chance at marital recovery, sure, but I couldn't guess on a timeline really...Her parents should NOT be letting her live with them as your marriage has it's greatest chance of recovery if you are actually living together...What are the chances that her parents will get on TEAM MARRIAGE and tell her that she must leave? I would appeal to them as grandparents, explaining that the BEST case scenario for their grandchildren would be for your marriage to recover...
Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Lose the "poll thingy",
Put your story out ther and many good folks wiil respond with sound advise.
I do not understand the "poll" feature of this forum as it absolutely serves no good whatsoever.
So ask, and you shall receive, but not in the format of a poll.
All Blessings,
Jerry
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Shocked,
If things were only as black and white as yes and no answers.
Your marriage can recover, but it takes a great deal of effort on your part and your WW's. As you know, NC for life is essential. If you have been reading here much, then you have seen the full spectrum of failures and successes at varying stages in the process.
You will need to insure that there is NC or she will not be able to withdraw.
Honestly, I think because the affair is so new that she will still see the OM is a pretty favorable light. Take heart, that will change over time with NC.
Also, I wouldn't be too sure that OMW will divorce him. Most of us said that on d-d.
You are in a great place to get advice and support right now. Just remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03
Recovered
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