Hi,<P>Just want to say it's my anniversary today. Married 8 years and we're going to dinner tonight.

Congrats Hum, make it one to remember!<P>Almost 7 for me.

Congrats Hum! Have a good time! My wife and I had our 16th last month.<P>--andy

Congrats!! Have a nice dinner. <P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

Hope you had a great time at dinner!

Happy anniversary, Hum. Hope it's a fun (and romantic ) one.

Happy Anniversary!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

<P>"HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY OH HAPPY ANNIVERSARY"<P> <P>Boy oh boy today has been a hard day to keep up with. LOL<P>Many more to you and yours Hummingbird!<P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

Thanks everyone. <P>Came home to a dozen pink roses, and a beautiful carousel horse figurine (I collect carousel horses). Had a very nice dinner. <P>Afterwards his buddy came over to help him with a deer he got the other night, I'll spare everyone the details. But it was fine with me. <P>Overall, was a nice night. I felt really good yesterday.<P>Of course I had to have a dream of the OM last night , really mad at myself this morning. God, I wish he'd got out of head!<p>[This message has been edited by Hummingbird (edited October 13, 1999).]

OK, better late than never. Happy Anniversary HB, glad it went so well!<P>Lori

I just wanted to add that last night in the restaurant our wedding songed played over the radio, I didn't say anything at first to see if he'd comment.<P>I saw alittle smile, so I said "you hear what's playing?" He said "of course I do, I wasn't going to say anything cause I didn't want to sound all mushy". I just smiled and said "Yeh, that's definitely why I love you so much, cause your not so mushy". <P>He'll never be Mr. Romantic but I know he loves me.<P>

Hummingbird, do you think that is what you really want? To feel loved? Do you think it would be enough for you if he was romantic by his own standards and not by romance novel standards?<P>Give that some thought.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hum--<BR>Thinks are really looking up for you!<BR>My husband sent me a dozen roses today!!<BR>He felt guilty because he drove down to Atlanta with a friend of his to see the baseball game.<BR>

I do have to give that some thought. I'm so caught up in all that "romantic" stuff and if he doesn't react by those standards I feel unloved. That's not fair to him. <P>I have to admit last night at dinner I was imagining how nice it'd be for him to reach his arm across the table, stare into my eyes and tells me all the beautiful things I long to hear. <P>He's not going to do that cause that's not him and I didn't fall in love with him because he had that. Why am I after 8 years longing so badly for this? I've always been a romantic but maybe the OM pushed those buttons?<P>There was a old couple sitting behind us. I couldn't see them but my husband did and I saw him staring behind me. I said "who are you looking at?" He said "oh, nothing, there's just a really cute older couple behind you and I was thinking of you and me someday".<P>Holly: That is sooo great!!! What a beautiful surprise!<P>

Now I find that incredibly romantic...him thinking about you growing old together!<P>Sometimes I think I'd like my H to be wildly romantic, too...but I think if he actually did it, it would be "way weird".<P>Remember my dance story? Depending on the mood of the moment, maybe you could have taken his hand and said, "Honey, I'd really like to hear what you were thinking about us when you were looking at that couple." Then stare lovingly into his eyes.<P>It is one thing when someone disregards your wants and needs, but when someone is not "clued in" on what it takes you, a unique and complex individual, to feel loved, then it is your responsibility to either let them know lovingly or change your expectations.<P>Not easy, but boy, I'm cooking on this one and its working (for the most part).<P>In fact last night, I had to get up to tend a sick kid. When I came back to bed I cuddled up to H. He mumbled....I really really love you...but could you please back up a little, I'm hot. Old him would have just stated his request. Old me would have felt rejected. New him even in his sleep considered my feelings. New me couldn't stop giggling at how sweet he was.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Holly:<P>I wish the game in Atlanta had turned out differently. Goodness, I hate that Chipper Jones! (Yeah, I'm a Mets fan. Remind me to tell you sometime why being a Mets fan is like being in an abusive marriage.)<P>Hum:<P>Listen to FLH. I always do. <P>You know, sometimes you just have to open your eyes and see things through a different lens. Your H probably does a million things he thinks are romantic. Remember: ROMANCE NOVELS ARE NOT REAL, any more than the women in Playboy are real. They play to women's fantasies the way skin mag photos play to men's fantasies. And I have a neighbor whose husband earns his living airbrushing fashion and skin mag photos -- so she knows!!<P>My H was home sick yesterday. At one time, I would have come home to a sink full of dirty dishes and a messy bedroom. But I got home, H was up, the dishes were done, and the bed was made. He NEVER makes the bed. (Yeah, I did think for a minute that he'd had PSBFH over, but I called him at lunchtime and he'd suggested I come home for lunch, but I didn't have time. This means he wouldn't have had a whole lot of time, and besides, I have to CHOOSE to trust.) I asked him, "How come you made the bed?" He said, "Because it was messy." I said, "You never make the bed." He said, "Well, I know you make the bed every day." I said, "Well, thank you, that was nice, I appreciate it."<P>Romance isn't just about roses and sappy songs, you know.<P>