Last week I began posting on here and things seemed to turn around until today.

My husband is irritable and argumentative. He started out the day angry at me because I'm sore. A few weeks ago we found out that I have 2 herniated discs and it's pinching my sciatic nerve. Dr. orders are a little walking and water aerobics. No chores, no laundry, house cleaning, or dishes.

2ndly, my husband planned a Thanksgiving dinner with his church. He began planning the dinner without consulting me. I told him that I wanted to cook our Thanksgiving dinner and celebrate it in our house. I gave in and now he has possible 50 that will be coming. We live in 2 apartments over the church right now in a foreign country!

I'm not involved with anything at the church because "he's" the pastor. I was the worship leader. Long story short, I got burned out and needed a break. He resisted giving me the break and after I took the break and wanted to come back he said no. I'm free to lead when I want but I'm not the worship leader. He says that he doesn't want me to have the stress of the responsibility.

He needed a nursery and children's church. He was with me when we bought some toys and I down loaded info in Spanish off the internet. He didn't like that I was coordinating any of this. Now, the toys sit in a box and there is no Sunday children's ministry. He started a Saturday ministry. It's doing very well. I'm slowly getting involved with a Children's home and he wants to know why I don't help on Saturday's in the church?

So this morning, he's mad at me for possibly prolonging the progression healing because a couple of days ago I tripped or walked on a sidewalk that's not level, normal here, and jarred myself. Then, tripped up the stairs. Yesterday, I took a girlfriend to see a house that I'm interested in buying. It's vacant and open but we got locked out the back door and I had to climb over a retaining wall to let her back in. My husband was upset that I went out to the property and possibly re injured myself more. It wasn't on purpose.

This morning he asked me "if" I wanted to go to the store with him to pick up some items for the dinner tomorrow. I told him not unless we could pick up some things for an orphanage. But if he really wanted me to go I would, but I don't want to. He said that I don't want to spend any time with him.

I read to him the LB independent part yesterday morning and he apologized for making his breakfast when I'd been doing it for him.

Now, I'm a woman, and I'm also on my period (sorry if that's tmi) but I sometimes have to lie down and take it easy because I'm light headed and in a lot of pain.

So the timing was bad this morning when he asked. I told him I'd go and started getting ready and he took off for the store without me.

Now, this afternoon, I went to the children's home. I'd been talking about this morning and after coming home he says that I didn't bother to tell him where I went.

Everything that I said last week: He's not interested in me. He's not wanting to spend time with me. He's accusing me and wants me to apologize and say I'm sorry.

This is what I call manipulation, blaming, and typical of the choleric personality. A week after I finally had my wits end about it, he's got the same problem.

Tell me a man isn't slow.

Ok guys, what's going on with my man?

Does he feel the pressure of the big dinner? Does he miss sex because I'm "fragile" right now with my back and now period? Or he's had a week to think about things and it seems like a good time to shift all the emotional blame onto me?