Based on comments I'm reading, I have a ?.

How is it that Christians here decry being cheated on by spouses... yet don't seem to have moral values about not engaging in premarital sex?

Honestly, if any person states they are a Christian and thinks it's okay to engage in premarital sex... then why does that same person complain that the Christian(s) you have married or will marry isn't/aren't faithful during marriage?

Why should they obey higher laws? If it's okay to live for selfish pleasure before marriage... then why not after?

If it feels good do it, right? There is no reason to be faithful to the Lord and to be sexually pure... in marriage... if there is no reason to be so outside marriage, right?

Just like it's wrong to try to sleep with another woman's husband, right, Back!?

Why is it okay for you as a Christian to denounce your husband's adultery, but then you want to sleep with him even though he's married to another woman?

Correction.. she's sleeping with my husband and it's adultery. My sleeping with my husband is undefiled.

Why do you, as a Christian, attack me for agreeing with God?

Mark 10:11
He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.

Where's your scripture for attacking me?

You don't have any.

I just think you use the scripture where YOU want to and not where you don't.

I'm out.

Good. Couldn't find any way to twist that scripture around? It's straightforward... and there is no excuse for attacking a BS moving to reconcile in a Plan A that includes sex (meeting an EN).

Were both you and your now XH virgins when you married?

We don't need one, back, because we are living in the real world. The world in which YOU are the person who will get penalized for sleeping with another woman's husband. Quote scripture all you want, but America's legal structure doesn't recognize what you are declaring.

If you want to live in a place where people adhere strictly to scripture, you'll probably have to find an island somewhere, perhaps a commune. Even the Mormons have found out they can't use scripture as an excuse to do what they want.

Sounds to me like you ran across a piece of the Bible that lets you do what you want, and you are sticking to it like flypaper.

God said in the Bible that we must obey the laws of the state and the government. By trying to break up your husband's LEGAL new marriage after you LEGALLY signed papers, etc to LEGALLY divorce, you are not obeying what GOD wants.

Remember, God tells us in several places in the Bible that we are to obey the laws, secular laws. Do you refuse to listen to HIM here and stay away from your EX whom you legally divorced or he legally divorced you?

OBEY GOD please and leave your EX alone. He is MARRIED now. By law and by God since God supports that law.

back, if you're still reading, I just want to suggest you think about something, which I tell my H, who is often up against a large group of people telling him that what he is saying is the wrong thing (and they're usually right). I tell him:

If 99 people in a room of 100 believe one thing, and 1 person believes another, would you assume that the 99 people generally know what they're talking about, if they all come to the same conclusion? Is that not logical?

By the same token, in reading your posts and everyone else's, I see that virtually every person responding to you feels that you are off base and not looking at the situation correctly. What does that tell you? That the whole MB universe is misguided, because they disagree with you? Or could it be that you are?

If you are truly invested in bettering your life and making the right decisions, sometimes you have to be honest with yourself, peel off all those layers of whatever is propping you up, to see the real you. Accept it, acknowledge it, and learn from it...to allow you to become truly at peace. That, IMO, is what God wants, not for us to gather around us those props that allow us to continue deluding ourselves in an unhealthy way.