I proclaim this board to be a BLESSING straight from GOD..to me...some of GOD'S ANGELS are probably right here unbeknownst to us...

I'm not intending to ignore the kind persons who have just posted... Mrs. WonderING (there... got that right... now... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ), FH, etc.

There is miscommunication ocurring here. People are trying to "help"... and thinking they are experiencing unfounded "resistance"... and actually... I am not being helped.

Persons are trying, from their own understanding, to "throw me off the course" of what I am being lead.

Rather than experience the ongoing misunderstanding at this time... for those people whose intentions are pure... I thank them... and leave.

We don't have the same understanding. That's all.

I'll come back when there are less "intangible" things to discuss that have resulted in misunderstanding.

I wish you all the best.

I'm only being hurt.

God bless

Agree with this very much Mimi! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

It is. Your brand of support however, is Christian support. You require specialized support as guided by scripture as you interpret it. That's going to be a tough find here.

Your plan to draw the attention of your now remarried XH treads on the moral thin ice between holy matrimony and civil matrimony. I think it's a hard sell.

I suggested your parishioners and/or spiritual advisor not to run you off but as a party more understanding of your unique position.

ba109 - That's a pretty sweeping statement and one that I would disagree with.

I really saw little discussing from a biblical perspective, and that is what I am offering to Back, if that is what she'd like to do. She may not know much about me, but most on here know I take the Scripture very seriously and am willing to try to discuss things with any believer, with the Scripture as the basis of such duscussion.

Back, you did not respond to my previous post, so does that mean that you don't want to disucss what the Scripture might have to say about your situation?

FH,

I would be very much interested in discussing adultery, divorce and remarriage from a biblical perspective....

Would you consider starting a thread addressing that?

Sara

Hi FH,

I've read some of your posts in discussing scripture... see how seriously you study the Word... and have a great deal of respect for you.

It's just that there is a scripture that states "avoid foolish arguments". And Jo was right that there isn't a great deal of point in negativity. I don't know how to sidestep it when it seems to be "coming at me" from people who are just getting "sidetracked" into a lot of things.

Also, I wouldn't particularly choose to step into a room and engage persons in conversation who are rude. A discussion board of this nature... I'm not sure really is all that healthy. (You can't just smile and walk away... they keep posting... and a person can't win for losing. If one doesn't answer them... they take a potshot... if one does answer them... they twist one's words and argue... seems to me.)

They seem to think the goal is to wrestle one into their POV... I just don't get it. Unique social environment. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

But, of course, I read some of your posts... developed respect for you and noted your passion for the Bible and the Lord... and when you come back and ask to be addressed... you rate highly in my estimation... so I'll say "hi".

Lemme post real quickly.

I don't think I want to share the particulars of my situation in this particular setting... because common courtesy and good manners (as I understand them)... seem to be a wrong understanding on my part.

But we can discuss the Word... if you'd like... possibly... because, to me, that's the bottom-line of the source of how to understand life, reality, and how to address every life situation.

God bless

As you are free to do. I do think it's a tough find. Not impossible. Perhaps the two of you will see eye to eye on scriptural interpretations. Good luck with that. You however, are not the majority...that was my point.

I agree. I find this environment unsafe... threatening... and do not want to further discuss here the specifics of my situation. But I would agree to discuss the Word.

Thanks.

God bless

it certainly isn't a safe environment when you come here and attack other posters...calling them pricks and advocating adultery.

let me ask why it would be okay for you to call posters "pricks" and then feign offense when you are handed your butt for fuzzy logic?


If I have succeeded in driving you off...with that attitude, I will not say I am sorry. Bye. But I suspect you aren't going anywhere....right?

I am putting you on block and I want you to leave me alone. I rank you right up there with a person I've put a restraining order out on in the 3D world.

I find you harassing, abusive, and you have caused me distress.

That is all that is required in my state to secure a restraining order. That's what I'm referring to in stating I would put one on you in the 3D world.

I'm notifying you I want you to leave me alone... and I am going to have to figure out how to put you on ignore in this system.

now, if you want to offer an apology to those you attacked...admit that adultery in all forms is wrong and immoral...you will most likely find help here and not just enabling. I cannot for the life of me imagine that your pastor would advocate your position on this board.
The Lord doesn't give "outs" regarding adultery that you are finding in Scripture. Your M has ended...even if you still hold onto it spiritually...the union has been dissolved. Having or planning to have sex with your EX h is adultery. Period.

ignore away.....you have that right....funny though for the 4th time you have refused to answer why you called others "*****" and why you date if you are still married in your eyes. Bye...bye.

lol...good luck.

I will answer this... and would appreciate people not behaving like buzzards circling my carcass or something... looking for something to pick apart... or something.

My pastor is my greatest source on these matters. I do share with him... he's fully aware... and has no such criticisms as I have encountered here for me for stating that the bond still exists, etc.

He absolutely supports me 100%.

Furthermore, I do value Dr. Harley's training and the training of anyone who secures a phd. in psychiatry or psychology... because they have studied the social/emotional makeup of human beings in great detail.

I saw a psychologist immediately following my divorce because they are professionals and highly trained.

He stated that I had no need to see him after the initial visit relative to transitioning, etc. (How rude it has been for another poster to attack my psychological fitness on a board hosted by a psychologist and on which persons seek to gain support, btw)

Furthermore, after a period of time when I sought to adjust... and found, inexplicably, that the bond inside me at a spiritual level had not changed... that's when I saw a different psychologist for a 2nd opinion.

Did this 2nd psychologist also have wonderful things to say about me? Absolutely, yes. Was he also impressed by me? Yes. Nor did he counter or contradict my perception that the bond still existed... and I wanted a 2nd professional opinion from a trained professional.

I do not consider persons on this board to be professionals of the character and grade I have already seen to gain their perceptions of the matter... the psychologist/psychiatrists, or my personal pastor.

In other words, yes, absolutely, I want posters on these boards who are critical and judgmental - or nosey and invasive - because of my faith and position to stop trying to alter what I believe.

I have already met with trained phd's... and my own pastor... and shared the entire story openly.

I do not feel any if you is as qualified.

I am neither willing to further share any facts with you so you can "figure out" what YOU THINK... about what I say.

(Ie. Trying to decide whether or not the bond still exists. There's no point in debate on that point... nor do I find persons seeking to alter that perception to be "helpful".)

I've got that part all figured out... and am satisfied that my course of action in pursuing a Plan A is appropriate to my situation.

However, I would prefer not to share further details because obviously there are people on the board who project themselves... and think I "should" just hand over my personal life and business to them and their control.

I'll create, then, the boundaries of respect I need by not further sharing in a personal manner.

God bless

beautiful to the point that men flock to her.

psychologically so together that 2 psychologists can't imagine why she would be there(even though she is contemplating sleeping with her married ex H).

Dating while she is spiritually married (in her head).

Calling people a slang term for male genitals.

Attacking other posters because of their marital status.

A pastor that supports her decision to commit adultery.

deleted a bunch of her early posts.

won't answer questions about her divorce.

won't explain why she felt it okay to call others vile names but lashes out when she gets called to the carpet.


this all sounds familiar....we've seen it recently....

add it all up and you get...troll.

Clearly another comment by a person who has nothing positive to say... and focuses on saying derogatory things about others .

Abuse... harassment... criticism... judgments...

And does not honor requests by others to be left alone.

This wouldn't happen to be your XH would it? 'Cause if you are going to start making yourself accessible to him by hanging out at McD's, I would consider that baiting.

Surely, you might unintentionally cross paths in a small town but this would not be unintentional at all.

Saralynn - I have such a thread. You'll find it on the EN forum if you are interested.

I will be driving back home today, so I will be out of pocket until probably Sunday.

MEDC - are you on a mission again?

Where is your intent to help rather than toss more stones?

Where is your "fairness" in discussing "opposing" viewpoints to your own?

Just what is the purpose of your relentless attacks?

To offer Godly help or to offer something else?