Still, I wonder if anything I say might appeal to her conscience? Or would it just make me crazy, or him protective of her?
Phoenix,
I know what you're feeling. I, too, thought that I could appeal to OW, that she would be loyal to me if I was her friend.....and that she would refuse continued contact with my WH.
She wrote the most sincere sounding apologies and pledges to renew her R with her own H, to never speak to my WH again, to refuse his attempts to contact her....yada yada yada.....and the next day when my WH set up a secret email account, she betrayed me again....willingly, secretly.
Stupid me for thinking she would be truthful and stupid her for trying to keep in contact with WH, telling him one thing and emailing me another. In the end, her lies helped to defog my WH when he realized what a liar she really was/is. WH even said he figured she was cheating with another WH within a few months.
If I had known about MB, I would have exposed to her H and her principal....yes she was/is a highly regarded 'teacher of the year' still influencing young children....even getting her masters so that she can teach young teachers how to teach our children.
It's too late now, but at times I wish I had exposed to her school board to remove someone with her moral values from impacting our innocent children. But to do so now would be only out of spite and revenge. I did expose to OWH but OW has not attempted to contact my WH for over a year now, as far as I know.
In answer to your question, NO, don't waste your time trying to appeal to her conscience. She doesn't have one. What little conscience she might have is deluded and foggy at best and posessed at worst. The OW is your enemy like Mimi said. Dr. Harley told me that himself when I called the radio show for advice.
How do you know she knows your WH is married? If your WH told you this, most likely it is not true.
Best wishes,
Ace
