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Does anyone know in which states this is still a viable option <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Thanks,
~Mark
Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
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Here is an article on A of A, it is still in effect in UTAH. http://marriage.about.com/od/legalities/a/alienation.htm
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Awesome, thank you MelodyLane!
~Mark
Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
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Good luck! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Go after him if you can.
Even if the lawyer says you don't have a chance as they don't enforce the law very often....do it anyway.
Getting OM to dump your wife once and for all is often the easiest thing to do to save a marriage and give you a chance at reconciliation.
END THE AFFAIR first.
It matters not how.
AoA suits are awesome exposure and to a recently divorced guy that likely isn't looking to jump back into a marriage, his relationship with your wife just won't be worth the aggravation. Too many other single woman out there.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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MrStrype Agree completely with MrWondering. Actually the great state of N. Carolina still allows AoA lawsuits. OWH and I are filing against our wayward spouses affair partners. To me, it's just another legitimate tool to bust up the A. Plus, it would just be too sweet for words if OW has to pay me money for screwing around with my WH. Too much fun... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> PS. MrWondering--good to see a fellow lawyer on the boards! See we are not as bad as all jokes say... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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smartiepants2,
I also live in NC. I wanted to do AoA but my lawyer advised against it, she told me it costs too much money and that OW has nothing, I'll end up with nothing. I was told the cost of going through with AoA would cost anywhere around $60,000; it was too much for me so I never went through with it.
I truly wish it works out great for you and OWH. Best wishes to you!
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IMO
My lawyer was actually quite excited about filing. I'm not sure why so many attorneys discourage it. Despite my little jab in the earlier post, it's not about getting money from OW (she has nothing as well). It's about holding her accountable for her actions. Maybe she'll think twice before sleeping with another woman's husband next time around! That alone is worth some cash layout. But no where near 60k--a girl still has to eat!
As my SIL said, if someone came into your house and stole your possessions wouldn't you prosecute them under the law? Not that I'm saying spouses are possessions mind you, but I get her point.
Thanks for the good wishes!
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