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From her lawyer’s papers she would be due in May 2008, so I guess 3m pregnant.
I’m so very disappointed.
Last edited by DLK21; 12/03/07 02:14 PM.
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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ure still in plan A after two years?
will the pregnancy finally change that?
FBH, 39
Now a primary custody dad
New life began June 2008
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Wow, what a way to find out. So sorry, DLK. At least she could have told you in person.
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Charliethree,
Yes it was a 2 year a modified plan A. I went for it, gave it my best shot and learned a whole lot in the process.
And yes, with no kids of our own, I'll give up now and I'll pursue the divorce with no stalling.
But for now, this is the saddest day of my life and I'll just take it like I can.
believer,
Thank you. I'm really sad.
It is a big chunk of my life.
She was probably too ashamed to tell me. But that is really, for me, beside the fact…she is pregnant with the OM.
bigkahuna,
Thanks. I'm going to give up on us now. It's a really big deal for me.
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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I'm sorry for your pain. In some ways though, this is a blessing in disguise...no telling how much longer you would have waited for this "woman" had you not been made aware of her pregnancy. I know it hurts, but it is time to get on with your life and heal. A better life and a much better woman are waiting for you.
IMHO, 2 years in Plan A is way too long to sacrifice for a woman involved with another man. Just my opinion though.
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I'm so very sorry DLK. I've been in your shoes and I know the hurt.
I know you were still holding on and hoping, but now you can move ahead. No more waiting.
During this sad time, take lots of time in caring for yourself. Treat yourself to things you wouldn't normally and look upon yourself as one who fought the good fight, no regrets. A strong man with tons of integrity.
There's a new life waiting for you when you're ready.
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mkeverydaycnt
Thank you. I’ll make the best of it. I learned a lot.
I’m at 2 years but it only started with one. Now I’ll just “wait” until I’m divorced, that is, no longer married.
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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Thank you for your kind words Resilient.
I did give it my best. I waited and waited for her to come out of the fog. It will probably happen, but I should not wait anymore. Steve believes it could go a few years more.
It is time for me to divorce her and start over, a wiser and better man.
The loss is still major.
She is so clueless, selfish and unfaithful towards me and in regards to her vows… After all that she put me thru, I don’t really know how I can get a sense of justice and fairness in a no-fault divorce system like we have here.
Thanks again.
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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