I've recently discovered that my W has for the past few years shown "an interest" in other men. Nothing physical or emotional as far as I can tell (at least not yet?), and I want to keep it that way. In sum, my W is acting like a teenager with her friends. One of them, a common (female) friend since before my marriage, who has known my W since grade school, gave me the heads up. My W is acting different.

This interest in other men has been described to me as spending HOURS online searching for eye candy (W is a SAHM). Also, talking with friends about other men who she comments anything from "oh, he is cute" to "I would do him". Sending pictures to friends of guys she is interested in (Men seen on TV, movies, news etc.)

We have a teen daughter who doesn't even act this way.

There is more, but you probably get it. Probably just harmless, but I'd like other opinions.

The severity has grown from "it was nothing, just us girls kidding around every once in a while" to "Is there a problem with your M?"

I'd be interested in hearing from people, especially women, on this.

BP,

Welcome to MarriageBuilders! You've come to the right place to get answers. Unfortunately, the wrong forum. The Infidelity General Questions II forum gets the most traffic...and your question fits perfectly there.

Please know you're not crazy, your concerns are really valid...and you choosing to be here and post is an awesome act for your marriage, guarding marital boundaries.

Thank you!

LA

Thanks for the tip (and the encouragement). I've re-posted there.