Hi my long lost friends--well, guess I am the long lost one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I think of you all so very often, and periodically gather the courage to stop by here. For some reason, I get this uncomfortable feeling when I type this addy in my browser..takes me back to what seems like forever ago.

But I SO want to hear how everyone who rememebers me is doing. How are you Mel, Pep, Beleiver?

The boys and I are doing just fine. The baby is almost 2!!!! I was here for the majority of the pregnancy, so that just shows you how much time has passed.

I've taken on a second job to make ends meet better (child support is never consistent--like 3 and 4 months behind-- and XH was dropped the insurance as well on the boys). But I love both jobs and am grateful at the grace given to me to do all this work and still stay sane.

My heart is still a but achy at times, but more in the sense of lonliness than in the hurt of the affair and divorce. The Lord has been so good to me and has shown me that He is with me and He loves me.

I have such cool stories of His provision as well--random gifts, help, etc.

And I am SO grateful that I can say with confidence that I am okay. I know there are many newbies on here wondering if they will ever get to that point. You will. Okay doesn't always feel great--but it is a great, GREAT place to be.

XH is back in town. He is inconsistent with visitation. He randomly declares his love for me again...then texts 5 minutes later about how horrible I am and was. He told me recently about how great OW was....he is still mean and hurtful...all junk from his heart that needs to find healing. My heart is so resistent to his babble now...it really has no effect. I LOVE THAT! I still hate that he has done all this.

I still hate divorce.....but I can finally say that I am so excited about what the future holds....cause God's got dreams for all of us...and I wonder what he's dreaming for me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

love you all!

Welcome back. I'm so happy you posted and gave us an update. I'm always so interested in how things turn out for folks.

I'm divorced, the affair ended in less than 2 weeks after it was final. Then my ex stayed away for about 7 months. Now he has announced he would like to remarry. I told him no thanks.

I've caught that far up on you already! But I am glad you are doing okay and that you're still around here. I know you're a blessing to so many people.

I like to try to help the new ones know that life DOES go on after infidelity. I'm dating a man now, and making sure I pay close attention to his EN's.

Ex is too depressed to date right now. Too bad, now that he is single.

You're dating! AWESOME!!!! That really made my day! I have a huge smile right now!

I think that after divorce and especially when you're in the middle of all this yuck you think there will never be any good again...oh but there is. And you're proof, my friend!

Glad to hear you are doing so well. I knew you would make it.

I can't believe my baby, who was 2 when his daddy moved out, is now 14. My daughter just turned 17. She was only 4 when her daddy left.

Cinderella--time goes by sooo fast. I swear it was just Halloween and I was toting two pirates and a puppy dog around : )

Your name made me think of a book I just read---Keeping a Princess Heart in a Not-so Fairytale world. It was a great book...remninded me it's okay to keep dreaming...

intexas,

Glad to hear that you are doing well. Stories like yours are so meaningful for those folks here who just can't imagine ever feeling OK again, especially those whose marriages aren't recovering.

Good for you.

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Howdy, intexas! So good to hear from you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey everyone! Sorry I didn't get back on here sooner....have had a super busy week. Anway...howdy back at ya! I think of you all often and hope you're doing okay.