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Sym, your wife is playing you. You know your son didn't lie.

Why bump your thread if you think we've all been giving you poor advice.

It is hard to believe you could be so dense as to believe that your wife's tears are because she feels badly for OM/OMW marriage. YOUR WIFE HAS BEEN HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH OM. What purpose would your 5 yr old son have for lying? (answer: NONE) Did you lead him in anyway with how you asked him your questions.

What is your purpose here if you don't want or respect our help. Do you actually read the comments posted to you?

Unfortunately, you are showing yourself to be a pathetically weak and gullible man. Do you have it in you to be a strong, firm, calm, loving husband and father?

(I suspect Sympatico is just playing us.)

Of course he is ... it all came out back on page 6, for those who were paying attention, when hugsandkisses mysteriously appeared to support Sympatico and then disappeared when discovered.

This is all just for attention (DRAMA) ... why else would you "bump" your own thread when you weren't heeding the advice anyway?

I find it very sad <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> that there seem to be so many people with nothing better to do that come here with made up problems <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> and waste the time of the folks here who have recovered their marriages and are just trying to help.

The mother in me can only say "Shame on you."

There, now I feel better. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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MR,WM,Trix,Belle,

I promise to god that I am not doubled. I am really having a difficult time here. Those of you who have been through it should already know.

I have taken your advice, I confronted and requested no contact. In return I did not know exactly what to expect!

I believe my son, I am follwoing you guys advice.

Because now, OMW has called the house. I got their number off caller ID. I called and spoke with her and ask her what she wanted. "I was just calling to check on W. I told her look, "I feel really bad about what happened yesterday, but my M and I have things to work on and I would appreciate her not calling again". She agreed.

Listen you all, despite my indescrepancies, I am following you alls advice almost to the letter and I am in sincere appreciation for your time and consideration.

I went to conseling this am and set up a appointment for the W.
This afternoon I am going to lay the law down and ask W if she want to work on the marriage or not? If she does then she is going to have to respect my request for NC.

Is this action IAW MB princible? I sure hope so cause I need you guys/gals!!!!

Try to be a little more compassionate PLEASE!!

Sym,

Sorry, but now I am confused. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I thought that you believed that you were mistaken and that there had been no affair? Didn't you, just this morning say that you had possibly ruined the marriage of OM and OMW for nothing?

Are you saying that you now believe that there has been an affair? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

So what exactly did OMW desire to discuss with you? Does she believe that her H is in an inappropriate relationship with your W?

Guess I am puzzled why she would be calling to check on your W.


Maybe it is just me, but the feelings and state of mind of the OW was the last thing on my list of concerns on my DD. As far as I was concerned she could rot in h3ll. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> And that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> is what your WW is to OMW, the OW.

If all this is true, you need immediate NC with OM and OMW, they seem a bit unhinged <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> to me.

As you know, NC is absolutely necessary for recovery. Any way that you and she can start counseling with the Harleys?

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Thanks WM,

As you all should already know, there is period when you second guess yourself and question you motives, especially when NOW as the BS I am the psycho one.

Please, please please accept my most sincere apology. This is really "F'd up!!

My thoughts about the OMW also

NC should between your WW and the OM. You may however want to continue contact with the OMW, if only to ensure that there's another pair of eyes that's working along with yours to ensure that NC is respected.



Now is not the time for laying down the law. Now is the time for "Plan A", which means trying to meet your WW's ENs without expecting anything in return. You can respectively *request* NC because of the effect any contact between the OM and your WW will have on you, but you should not be making any *demands* at the moment - these may cause your WW to see you as controlling and selfish, and she may withdraw even further from you.

Fishing for information would be my first guess. Remember, Sympatico isn't the only one what was likely being gaslighted here.

There is of course another possibility, but I do strongly hope that isn't the case: that the A not only involves the OM, but the OMW as well.

Spouses of our WS's affair partner, under 'normal' situations, should be kept as Allies at least for a while. That way you can compare notes as to the affair partners maintaining no contact.

You should not have blown her off...but she doesn't need to speak with your WW. When I ever wanted to speak to my H's affair partner is wasn't to see how she was doing....it was to tear her a new one...

Sympatico: you are lying, about something. I'd bet heavily that your story is complete fiction.

Yes, Sym's story doesn't add up.

Recollections of the Dustkitty group of students messing with the good folks here.

****** that is heavy!! My SIL suggested the same. WOW now that would be overwhelming for me.

Thanks for you reply, not easy getting to the board right now.

What!!! Lying how, now that is too much!! I come here for help and now your accusing me of lying!!

I am speechless. What else is it you want to know? What exactly is i that you think I am lying about??

Dont want to bring my DS into the picture anymore than he already is, but had to ask if W question him today.. Well guess the answer??

Sending an email to Justuss...

Sounds like LTK and company.

~ Marsh

Thanks Marshmellow.

I was in need and the site failed me because of your statement above.

Well for all of those who were willing to help me, thanks for you wonderful suggestions and comments

FYI Plan A is now in effect and Policy of Joint Agreement in the works

BYE

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Good luck to all and again thanks for the help from WM,Bell, Trix, TYK and most importantly MIM you are a god send, (of course WR).

On my way to recovery and all because you all had the fortitude to put me on the right track. Sorry I was so stuburn at times <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

EEEEWWWWW <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />