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Excellent! We'll be celebrating 20 years this coming year. Wouldn't have made it past 10 without MB&Co. Merry Christmas to all: especially Steve, Jen, and Bill.
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Dear Harley Family,
Here is my Christmas offering, expressing my gratitude for your dedicated work building strong marriages “to last a lifetime”.
I came to Marriage Builders after having survived my husband’s affair. We were on the road to a healthier marriage, but I had run out of ideas. I had no idea how to “fall in love and stay in love”. The “falling” seemed effortless; it was the “staying” where we needed help. I had no idea how to resolve my lingering resentments. I was convinced it was my own attitude that was the stumbling block. I was correct!
Last May we celebrated our 26th anniversary – happier than ever. Both of us make it our business to care for each other, and what a difference this makes! We care for our marriage as if it were something we could physically experience with our senses. We make repairs while the problem is small. We work as a team. We are conscious of demonstrating marital love in action to our children, so that when they themselves get married one day, they have a role model of success. We have tools to settle conflict without doing harm to the marriage. There is no more 'scoreboard' in our relationship, because we are on the same side - the side of US.
We have been blessed. Your family is amongst our blessings.
We are not perfect, just joy-filled!
May God bless all of you and yours this Christmas.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
“Pepperband”
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To all at MB, especially Steve,
Thanks so much for your work, care and concern for my family this year. I have hope this year for a brighter future. The knife is out of my back. Most days are good days in our marriage.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Chrysalis
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I Elfed The Harleys! Click~~~>: ***Harley Elves*** Ain't they cute??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W P.S. Jo/Resilient asked me to put this here, so if there is any blame can I please shift it to her??? Of course if there is CREDIT involved, I'd like ALL that please!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> P.P.S. And JustUss, as in the other thread, my offer still stands...Send me YOUR pic and I'll Elf you too! It's a deal, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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***Harley Elves***Bumping for the Harley's to read. And also for the opportunity for more members to sign this post with their success testiment in using the Harley's principles. Jo
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Merry Christmas to the Harley's!! And thanks for 38 years of marriage,,the last almost 10 being the best of all, thanks to Marriage Builders!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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MBers is a GIFT FROM GOD!!
And a special MERRY CHRISTMAS to STEVE HARLEY! What a WONDERFUL, INSIGHTFUL MAN!!
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Yes, indeed.
God Bless the Harleys!!
5 and 1/2 years ago, my bags were packed and I was ready to bail. After lurking and reading for a looooong time, I began to have hope that this could all be salvaged, using the MB principles.
It was still long and hard, mostly because of my thickheadedness, but as of next month(Jan 17th), my W and I will have been M'd for 38 YEARS!
Last year at this time, my W and I sat and held my MIL's hand, and she passed away on Christmas Eve. I guess you could say, we didn't have Christmas last year.
This year we will remember the folks we have lost, and the THINGS we have lost, but only to hope for the future, and count the many blessings we are still showered with by God.
Here's wishig a Merry Christmas and all of God's Blessings, to the Harley's, and to each and every one of you good people. You all became a part of my life through the trauma and drama I never thought I would see so thank you all!!!!
Keep the faith and the hope!!
All Blessings,
Jerry
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8 days till Christmas
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MB has given many a Christmas-like feeling every day of the year.
And the marriages that have been saved and improved provide positive Christmas memories for thousands or possibly millions of children year-round, too.
Again, thanks Dr. & Mrs. Harley and staff and volunteer mods.
Ace
FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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I owe my marriage to the Harleys and MB.
HNHN and SAA changed my life. These books and this discussion board gave me a sounding board when I had no one to talk to, gave me ideas on how to keep my marriage together when I was lost, gave me tools to build a better marriage and a better me!
I most likely would never have found this website, read the articles, bought the books, and learned so much without the catalyzing event of infidelity. It is a pity it took that devastation to bring about my changes in my attitude and behaviors.
So thank you to the Harleys and to each of you who post here. You are a blessing to me.
Me = FBS age 51
FWH = age 51
M 25 years, 2 children 16 and 20
D-Day 5/19/05
Recovered and happy
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To The Harleys:
Merry Christmas!
May the great State of Minnesota be covered in snow and look like a Christmas Card for you on Christmas Morning!
Thank you for your books and information that helped SAVE this marriage!
LG
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Thank you for your books and information that helped SAVE this marriage! Ditto LG and thanks for this web site and how it allows all of us to grow in our personal, marital, and interpersonal relationships.....sometimes more successfully at one than at others! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Ace
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Jo, you're 'it' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Thanks to the Harleys for all that they have done for the Mortarman family.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Big hello to EagleSoar, LG and Mortarman!
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5 more days to share your gratitude with the Harleys!
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Sincerest thanx to the Harley's for working so hard to develop and teach a plan to help marriages recover from adultery. Such a gift they have given!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Merry Christmas Harley's! And you too, Jo! Hope Santa is very, very good to you, sweet Jojo! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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