Time's been passing by so slowly, yet so fast at the same time. It's hard to believe 2 months have already passed since she walked out of my life and moved in with that stranger halfway across country.

I've made a lot of positive changes in my life, brought god back into my life, went on anti-depressants (don't know how well its doing), picked up some old hobbies, and REALLY applied myself hard in my career and making more money than I ever have before.

I found out my wife is starting to feel depressed. Her family cut her off and won't speak to her because she is not remorseful for what she did... She is still not remorseful although she acknowledges what she did was wrong.. but she is very desperate and lonely now that her folks have turned her away. I'm hoping it's the begginning of the end and maybe a signal that I may get a chance of reconciliation in a few months.. but only time will tell.

Despite applying myself and trying new things and spending a lot of time with friends I'm still finding myself extremely depressed and lonely... just wish it would end already.

Hello,

My wife's divorce was granted last April. Time seems to numb that sharp pain you are having but I can't say if it ever is entirely gone.I doubt it.

But I wanted to be one among the number of walking wounded, to let you know you are not alone. I felt the pain in your story.

Evidently, there are tried and proven things you can apply to your unique circumstances which can yield very positive results. That is the primary purpose of this site.

I wish you the best success possible. From what you said it sounds like you have not given up on yourself and have focused your energy in constructive endeavors. Keep on keeping on I guess would be appropriate to say.

You are not alone so don't let the pain, discouragement, lonliness or any of the other symptoms of hearts divided get the best of you. Take care...

Hi, Broken. I know it's lonely. And sometimes, we've maxed out all our friends so that they are exhausted from our woes. At least, I think I did.

It does get easier, in fits and spurts, and two months is really a short amount of time. I'm impressed at how you've refocused and are building new routines. That is amazing.

I also think it's a good sign that already your wife is realizing what she did was wrong. Remorse may never quite come, but regret may be just around the corner. Have you read Surviving an Affair, or His Needs/Her Needs and LoveBusters? If not, please do. I wouldn't be surprised if after the holidays or during the holidays, she reached out to you in some way. If you want her back, having read those books will help you entice her home.

Of course, if you don't want her back, then you'd have the bitter-sweet task of shutting her down.

It's been 8 days since my divorce was final. It has been hard. What is working for me is spending time with friends and family. Keeping busy with new stuff. Starting back to church has helped. This is funny - second service was on marriage. I wanted to stand up and object, but I bit my tongue.

I packed my gym bag and will get back in gym. I am consulting for a new venture and working hard helps. I started a small group of business professional that will meet on the one night I will never have my son and has been hard find something to do.

In January a new session of DivorceCare starts at a church up the street. I have read the info on there website and hear it is very good. You might see if there is a meeting in your area.

The anti-depressents will work. Took them several years ago after 3 years of high profile public service. Went from top of the world to the nobody down the street. Several different types of anti-depressents out there you and your doctor need to find one that works for you.

One day at a time. Two steps forward - one step back has been my experience so far. I consider that a success. Next will be Three steps forward - one step back.

Hope this helps.
JC

I agree with JC, look into DivorceCare. I went through their complete program twice last year and may do it again. Even though it is Christian based I think anyone (believer or non-believer) can benefit from it.

It will take you some time to get over this and there is absolutely, positivly no quick fix. You truly have to rebuild your life but it can be a rewarding journey if you let it.

Keith