Female 37, Married 10 years, 2 kids under 5. Discovered EA on Nov. 22. Discovered EA was really a PA on Nov. 29. All denied by WS. Have evidence to prove it thanks to Spying 101!!! Got rid of cell phone, web came — he replaced it. Installed his own keylogger. Still communicating with OW depsite requests to stop. She's even giving him legal advice. So he feels there is no marriage to save, thanks to her encouragement. He withdrew a long time ago. I asked if something was wrong so many times and got nothing. He just shut himself off. I felt it but did nothing but am aware of that now and trying to make it work. It's very difficult to float between considering separation agreements and reconciliation. He is meeting with a therapist next week to determine if he can rebuild. He has fallen out of love with me and CANNOT see why! Maybe it has something to do with his new 25-yr-old GF???? So I have implemented the stick of plan A but he is not interesting in the carrot, won't even look at lovebusters or meeting any of my needs. Doesn't care. Is he too far gone? It's going to be a lonely Christmas, constantly hearing about how little he loves me, how he wishes he could run away....I've even told him to go to her but he won't! Help????

Have you started exposing the affair to family members, friends, and anyone else who will be able to put pressure on the A?

I'm sorry you are here.

I heard and read (in chat logs) a LOT of the same stuff you are getting.

plan a is frustrating... ya gotta keep those emotions in check

I'd say it is time to expose as Charlotte indicated. Is OW married? You need to obtain information about her and if she is married, expose to her BH.

Don't even think about your WH meeting your needs and avoiding LB while he is engaged in an affair. He is wayward and is like an alien to you.

You are in a great place to get support and advice. Keep in mind that affairs never last. The first nail in the coffin is exposure.



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