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#1984040 12/07/07 05:54 PM
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Most Common MB Acronyms (Alphabetically):

AO = Angry Outburst
BS = Betrayed Spouse
D-Day = Discovery Day
DH = Divorced Husband or Darling/Dear Husband
DJ = Disrespectful Judgement
DV-Day = Divorce Day
DW = Divorced Wife or Dear Wife
EA = Emotional Affair
EN = Emotional Needs
FWH = Former Wayward Husband
FWW = Former Wayward Wife
FOO = Family of Origin
FS = Faithful Spouse ("betrayed")
G&T = "Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility"
H = Husband
HNHN = "His Needs, Her Needs"
LB = Love Bust(er)
MB = Marriage Builders
MLC = Mid-life Crisis
OC = Other Child (S's and OP's)
OM = Other Man
OMW = Other Man's Wife
OP = Other Person
OPS = Other Persons's Spouse
OW = Other Woman
OWH = Other Woman's Husband
PA = Physical Affair
POJA = The Policy of Joint Agreement
RA = Revenge Affair
S = Spouse
SAA = "Surviving An Affair"
SAHD = Stay At Home Dad
SAHM = Stay At Home Mom
SF = Sexual Fulfillment
SO = Significant Other
W = Wife
WAW = Walk Away Wife
WH = Wayward Husband
WW = Wayward Wife
WS = Wayward Spouse ("betrayer")

Relationship Acronyms:
BF = Biological Father/Boyfriend
BIL = Brother In Law
BM = Biological Mother
DD = Darling Daughter
DS = Darling Son
FIL = Father In Law
GF = Girlfriend
GP = Grand Parent(s)
MIL = Mother In Law
SD = Step Daughter
SF = Step Father
SIL = Sister In Law
SM = Step Mother
SS = Step Son
STBX = Soon To Be Ex

MB specific Acronyms (CB MB forum members)
CB = Coined By
P.U.S.H. = Pray Until Something Happens (CB… NSR... see Inspire (20))
PTC = Patience, Time and Consistency (CB… NSR... for Plan A to work!)
TDNT = That Do Nothing Thing (CB… NSR/RMA)

Generally accepted Acronyms:
BTW = By The Way
IMHO = In My Humble Opinion
IMO = In My Opinion
IMVHO = In My Very Humble Opinion
LMAO - Laughing My *Rump* Off
LOL = Laughing Out Loud
ROTFLMAO = Rolling On The Floor Laughing My *Rump* Off
EOM = End Of Message

Divorce/Custody Acronyms:
CP = Custodial Parent
CPS = Child Protective Services
CS = Child Support
CSE = Child Support Enforcement
DCW = Dept. of Child Welfare
FOC = Friend Of the Court
GAL = Guardian Ad Litem
MSOL = Marital Standard Of Living
NCP = Non Custodial Parent
PAS = Parental Alienation Syndrome


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well I learned about a dozen from that, thanks Justuss ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> !!!


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I've seen "SF" in recent posts, but in the context being used, I'm sure it doesn't mean "step-father". Could someone please enlighten me? Thanks!


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SF = Sexual Fulfillment (emotional need)


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"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Thank you - that helped!


BH - age 55
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Thank you so much! I will print this out and know what the heck you guys are saying.

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What about WH?

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wandering husband


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Originally Posted by abenat4
What about WH?

WH=Wayward Husband - it's in the list


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ooops, sorry, my bad smile


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Originally Posted by lildoggie
ooops, sorry, my bad smile

It's all good. Means the same thing anyway.


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What is RA? ____ Affair?


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Revenge Affair


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Thanks so much this was a big help.


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SMB?

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"...when SMB typically triggers, she is asking me to remind her of something that her mind is struggling with at that moment in time. She is asking me to tell her some truths about us again."

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could be abbreviation for a longer screen name


Me: 32 BS DDay: 9/14/08
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What is gaslighting?

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Never mind. I found reference to it on the net. And look at that. I've been "gaslighted". Lucky me.

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What does it mean when you see (( NAME ))?


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It means the name inside is getting a bigggg HUGGG!

{{{{{{{AnneMarie}}}}}}}


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How do you place someone on Ignore?


Me BS
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OC born 12-2004
DS 21, DS 12
Married 1993

May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.

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Hi Fled,

Click on the user's name, Select View Profile, Then click on "Ignore this User"


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Thank you!!!


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NC = No Contact, right?


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Originally Posted by HEARTBROKEN77
NC = No Contact, right?
Yes!


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Okay, I'm gonna ask...
What did the gas-lighting mean?
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Gaslighting is a form of intimidation or psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory and perception.

Please Explain Gaslighting



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Wow, been there, done that. I didn't know there was a term for it... Thanks!


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Gosh, I sure am happy to read this list. I've just spent the past several hours reading Dr. Harley's articles here and it is a bit confusing. I'm going to order some more reading from the bookstore, but this guide to acronyms is most helpful.

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AO?? HIT??

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D-Day 2/8/17...NC 4/3/17
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AO= Angry Outburst
HIT= A user name abbreviated (H----I-T-----)


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EP = Extraordinary Precautions


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What does "IC" mean?


So much peeling...where am I under all this peeling? Yoo-hoo, are you in there...nothing yet.

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IC = Individual counseling


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Thanks!


So much peeling...where am I under all this peeling? Yoo-hoo, are you in there...nothing yet.

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What does NP'd or PD mean?

Thanks

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Originally Posted by gailw
What does NP'd or PD mean?

Thanks

Donno.
Use it in context.

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As in...

you've been "Notable Posted" (NP'd) by the Police Department (PD).

Actually...I believe it's Narcissitic Personality Disorder (NPD) and just Personality Disorder (PD).

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What is UA as in UA immersion time

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UA = "Undivided Attention"

Read about it here.


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What about "BW"


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betrayed wife


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TY!


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What is "IB"?

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IB = "Independent Behavior." It's one of the Love Busters.


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Thanks, I just found that. I thought it meant "Immature Behavior" at first but, then again, they are often one and the same.

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please give all acronyms and abbreviations so i can read without stopping and scratching my head! or is there a page you can send me to to read them? thanks

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Look back on Page ONE of this post. Lists the most common........


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IM?


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Originally Posted by LovingAnyway
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LA

Or InterMediary, depending on context.


If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

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If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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What does POSOM mean?

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Originally Posted by MichaelJan
What does POSOM mean?

piece of sh** other man


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Does POA stand for "power of attorney"?

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Her move out: Fall '09
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
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It could, but isn't often used on this site.

Perhaps you've seen "POJA" which is the "Policy of Joint Agreement," Dr Harley's recommendation for marital negotiation.


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IM helped me out, maybe it could be added to main list on page 1?


Me: 32 (BS) Wife: 32(WW)
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Originally Posted by NiteLite1
What is gaslighting?

Setting farts on fire.

I will most likely be punished for this.

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What does "SAHM" mean?

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Her move out: Fall '09
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D-day #2: 06/28/10
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Some wives have reconciled with their husbands after one or both of them have engaged in an affair. Yet the wife refers to her husband as DH. What gives?


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D-day #2: 06/28/10
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DH = Darling (or Dear) Husband.

If the couple reconciles uses the MB principles, this is often the net result.


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"Dear Husband" indicates that she no longer thinks of him as a "WH" or even "FWH." I've been known to use that nomenclature myself. My H is just my DH now.

That's what a good dose of recovery will do...


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I've been able to figure out most of them, but this one has me stumped...

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I love you but not in love with you


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I didn't see TOS.
A post was deleted due to TOS (not mine, lol). I was just curious about it, but NBD.

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Originally Posted by optimism
I didn't see TOS.
A post was deleted due to TOS (not mine, lol). I was just curious about it, but NBD.

TOS = Terms of Service

It's standard online forumspeak.


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thanks fred.


Me: 43 y.o. BFWH, D-day 11/11/09 (NC since 9/01)
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Current Status: MB-based Marriage to Nature Girl 12/8/12 (first date on 12/11/10)
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CWH & PC...

Where & how were these used?
Not common abbreviations...


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What is a DS or DD?

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Sorry folks, I thought I was savvy... but what is t/j?

Often seems to be used when someone is making a personal reference or telling a story.


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Originally Posted by StuckWaiting
Sorry folks, I thought I was savvy... but what is t/j?

Often seems to be used when someone is making a personal reference or telling a story.


Thread Jacking. A distraction from the original post.


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That post really belongs on your own thread. This thread is for spelling out acronyms, not really for discussing personal cases.


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What is R ?

As in, "You and WW should stop talking about R."


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Depends on the context. Used the way you've given it, "R" refers to "Relationship."

It can also refer to "Recovery," as in "my spouse and I want to R the M."


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not directly related to acronyms, but where do ya'll get all the "smileys" and little character hitting each other over the head with a 2x4??

I'm new at this..


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Originally Posted by Lgtex1
not directly related to acronyms, but where do ya'll get all the "smileys" and little character hitting each other over the head with a 2x4??

I'm new at this..
When you go to reply to a post (or even to start a new one), choose the "Full screen" mode. You will then see all the smileys and text enhancement codes displayed in a user-friendly icon bar.


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What does DH stand for? H is for husband, I know.

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Originally Posted by MichaelJan
What does DH stand for? H is for husband, I know.
Dear/darling husband.


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what is fwiw?
For what it's worth.


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I cannot seem to figure this out: how do I post longer messages and how can I add a link to tell my story?

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Originally Posted by IzzyB
I cannot seem to figure this out: how do I post longer messages and how can I add a link to tell my story?

Izzy, if the post box will not allow you to make longer posts, try this fix:

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what does affairage mean


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Affairage = Marriage between affair partners.


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POSOM= piece of sh*t other man
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RA = Revenge Affair


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what is ITA?

context "ITA. And she thinks that will work here."

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ITA= I Totally Agree


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As in plan FU? It would be a harsher form of plan screw you.


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I don't think FU is a marriage builder term.
It's when you throw your arms up and decide that you don't care how many LB you commit, you are done and don't care

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I was encouraged to do some FU behavior during my divorce process but I stuck with the majority advice to follow plan A and I'm glad I did.
I don't think LB behaviors help anyone

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How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy."


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Originally Posted by LeanieMe
How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy."
LM=LeanieMe. It's just shorthand for your posting name.


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"the affair exists in is one in which needs like FS, FC, and DS are not required to be met,..."

When referring to needs, what do these acronyms represent: FS, FC and DS?


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FS = Financial Support
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OM - Other Man
OP - Other Person
EP - Extraordinary Protection
PORH - Policy of Radical Honest

and also POJA is Policy of Joint Agreement


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Originally Posted by Mediamom
what is UA?

UA = Undivided Attention

This is the acronym used to signify the minimum time set aside every week for Undivided Attention. The minimum time need to maintain romantic love is about 15 hours each week. This is what Dr. Harley discovered through his research. To restore romantic love, a minimum of 20 - 25 hours is needed.

UA means, too, that the couple is focused on each other, with no children or friends around, meeting each others intimate emotional needs. No tv, computer, phone.


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UA = Undivided Attention

All of the acronyms can be found by starting out by reading from the beginning of this topic thread.

Also, everyone interested in restoring their marriage to a safe, fulfilling and romantic level should at least put in the effort to read all of the free articles on this site, as well as purchasing the pertinent books from Dr. Harley which inexpensively aide you in the recovery process.

I would hope that anyone grasping at straws to fix their marriage would at least read through Dr. Harleys Basic Concepts and follow all of the links to addendum articles.

Isn't your marriage worth at least that much effort?

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Originally Posted by ljmom24
POSOM?

P - Piece
O - of
S - uh....poop
O - other
M - man


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What is an IM?

IM - Intermediary


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What is "IB'er"


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What is "IB'er"

= Independent Behavior

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What about "bump"?
I see that on some threads and think maybe it means "I agree" or a way of saying "thank you"?

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Originally Posted by BS37NF
What about "bump"?
I see that on some threads and think maybe it means "I agree" or a way of saying "thank you"?
No, it has to do with the placement of threads in the index. Threads are sorted by those with the most recent posts appearing first. When a noteworthy thread sinks low in the list due to inactivity and someone want to bring it to the top, they post to it so as to "bump" it to the top. All that "bump" means is that the post was made to bring the thread back to the top of the forum.


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Secret second life.

This usually happens when spouses are living independent lifestyles: going out without each other to gyms, bars and clubs; participating in hobbies without the spouse, but with the opposite sex - see Sue in the book Surviving an Affair.

However, SSLs can be fostered at home, right under the spouse's nose. Where there is an absence of technical (online and telecommunications) transparency, it is easy to conduct a SSL in the comfort of the home.

When a spouse travels overnight for work, a SSL is almost inevitable, by one or other spouse. The spouse that travels can stay in hotel rooms with a colleague, or the stay-at-home spouse can spend time with an affair partner.


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