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Most Common MB Acronyms (Alphabetically):
AO = Angry Outburst
BS = Betrayed Spouse
D-Day = Discovery Day
DH = Divorced Husband or Darling/Dear Husband
DJ = Disrespectful Judgement
DV-Day = Divorce Day
DW = Divorced Wife or Dear Wife
EA = Emotional Affair
EN = Emotional Needs
FWH = Former Wayward Husband
FWW = Former Wayward Wife
FOO = Family of Origin
FS = Faithful Spouse ("betrayed")
G&T = "Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility"
H = Husband
HNHN = "His Needs, Her Needs"
LB = Love Bust(er)
MB = Marriage Builders
MLC = Mid-life Crisis
OC = Other Child (S's and OP's)
OM = Other Man
OMW = Other Man's Wife
OP = Other Person
OPS = Other Persons's Spouse
OW = Other Woman
OWH = Other Woman's Husband
PA = Physical Affair
POJA = The Policy of Joint Agreement
RA = Revenge Affair
S = Spouse
SAA = "Surviving An Affair"
SAHD = Stay At Home Dad
SAHM = Stay At Home Mom
SF = Sexual Fulfillment
SO = Significant Other
W = Wife
WAW = Walk Away Wife
WH = Wayward Husband
WW = Wayward Wife
WS = Wayward Spouse ("betrayer")
Relationship Acronyms:
BF = Biological Father/Boyfriend
BIL = Brother In Law
BM = Biological Mother
DD = Darling Daughter
DS = Darling Son
FIL = Father In Law
GF = Girlfriend
GP = Grand Parent(s)
MIL = Mother In Law
SD = Step Daughter
SF = Step Father
SIL = Sister In Law
SM = Step Mother
SS = Step Son
STBX = Soon To Be Ex
MB specific Acronyms (CB MB forum members)
CB = Coined By
P.U.S.H. = Pray Until Something Happens (CB… NSR... see Inspire (20))
PTC = Patience, Time and Consistency (CB… NSR... for Plan A to work!)
TDNT = That Do Nothing Thing (CB… NSR/RMA)
Generally accepted Acronyms:
BTW = By The Way
IMHO = In My Humble Opinion
IMO = In My Opinion
IMVHO = In My Very Humble Opinion
LMAO - Laughing My *Rump* Off
LOL = Laughing Out Loud
ROTFLMAO = Rolling On The Floor Laughing My *Rump* Off
EOM = End Of Message
Divorce/Custody Acronyms:
CP = Custodial Parent
CPS = Child Protective Services
CS = Child Support
CSE = Child Support Enforcement
DCW = Dept. of Child Welfare
FOC = Friend Of the Court
GAL = Guardian Ad Litem
MSOL = Marital Standard Of Living
NCP = Non Custodial Parent
PAS = Parental Alienation Syndrome
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well I learned about a dozen from that, thanks Justuss ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> !!!
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I've seen "SF" in recent posts, but in the context being used, I'm sure it doesn't mean "step-father". Could someone please enlighten me? Thanks!
BH - age 55
WW - age 46
DD - age 8
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D-day 12/19/07
NC #1 email sent 12/28//07, dripping with syrup, NC #2 email sent 1/2/08 (I approved of this one)
D-day #2 5/27/09 - In Recovery NOW?
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SF = Sexual Fulfillment (emotional need)
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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BH - age 55
WW - age 46
DD - age 8
Married 1990
D-day 12/19/07
NC #1 email sent 12/28//07, dripping with syrup, NC #2 email sent 1/2/08 (I approved of this one)
D-day #2 5/27/09 - In Recovery NOW?
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Thank you so much! I will print this out and know what the heck you guys are saying.
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WH=Wayward Husband - it's in the list
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
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ooops, sorry, my bad 
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ooops, sorry, my bad It's all good. Means the same thing anyway.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
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BS: 37
FWH: 37
EA: 2 months, ending June 08
Married 7 years
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I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Thanks so much this was a big help.
Me 32
WS 37
Married 12 years
DS 8, 6, 5
DD 3
OC born 11-22-06
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SMB?
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"...when SMB typically triggers, she is asking me to remind her of something that her mind is struggling with at that moment in time. She is asking me to tell her some truths about us again."
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could be abbreviation for a longer screen name
Me: 32 BS DDay: 9/14/08
Slowly coming to the realization that I
am one of those who can't get past it.
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Never mind. I found reference to it on the net. And look at that. I've been "gaslighted". Lucky me.
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What does it mean when you see (( NAME ))?
BW (me - 45)
WH - 45
2 DDs
Married 20 years, together 25
DDay Spring 2009
WH moves out Summer 2009 and in with OW
Plan A - 4 months
Very dark Plan B Fall 2009
WH files D Summer 2010
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It means the name inside is getting a bigggg HUGGG!
{{{{{{{AnneMarie}}}}}}}
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How do you place someone on Ignore?
Me BS
D Day 4-2-2005
OC born 12-2004
DS 21, DS 12
Married 1993
May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.
Recovering....it's a long road, even with a dedicated FWH
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Hi Fled,
Click on the user's name, Select View Profile, Then click on "Ignore this User"
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Me BS
D Day 4-2-2005
OC born 12-2004
DS 21, DS 12
Married 1993
May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.
Recovering....it's a long road, even with a dedicated FWH
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Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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M'd 22 years
BW-me
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Okay, I'm gonna ask...
What did the gas-lighting mean?
-=Phoenix
-= Phoenix
I am BW-25
WH-27
Married since 7/07
A from 1/09-7/09
"One can't complain. I have my friends. Someone spoke to me only yesterday."-Eeyore
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Gaslighting is a form of intimidation or psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory and perception. Please Explain Gaslighting
Dday- Feb 1998
Recovered!!
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Wow, been there, done that. I didn't know there was a term for it... Thanks!
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I am BW-25
WH-27
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"One can't complain. I have my friends. Someone spoke to me only yesterday."-Eeyore
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Gosh, I sure am happy to read this list. I've just spent the past several hours reading Dr. Harley's articles here and it is a bit confusing. I'm going to order some more reading from the bookstore, but this guide to acronyms is most helpful.
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AO?? HIT??
Last edited by jimbobalu; 01/29/10 01:06 PM.
D-Day 2/8/17...NC 4/3/17
Wanting to make it work...right this time.
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AO= Angry Outburst
HIT= A user name abbreviated (H----I-T-----)
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EP = Extraordinary Precautions
I'm not a complete idiot. There are parts missing.
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So much peeling...where am I under all this peeling? Yoo-hoo, are you in there...nothing yet.
Me FWW 30
BH 37
DD 2006
Daughter 7
Son 2
Trying to make amends for the huge mess I made.(If you knew Hubby you'd know what I mean by try)
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IC = Individual counseling
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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So much peeling...where am I under all this peeling? Yoo-hoo, are you in there...nothing yet.
Me FWW 30
BH 37
DD 2006
Daughter 7
Son 2
Trying to make amends for the huge mess I made.(If you knew Hubby you'd know what I mean by try)
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What does NP'd or PD mean?
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What does NP'd or PD mean?
Thanks Donno. Use it in context.
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As in...
you've been "Notable Posted" (NP'd) by the Police Department (PD).
Actually...I believe it's Narcissitic Personality Disorder (NPD) and just Personality Disorder (PD).
Mr. W
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"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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What is UA as in UA immersion time
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UA = "Undivided Attention" Read about it here.
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IB = "Independent Behavior." It's one of the Love Busters.
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Thanks, I just found that. I thought it meant "Immature Behavior" at first but, then again, they are often one and the same.
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i'm new please give all acronyms and abbreviations so i can read without stopping and scratching my head! or is there a page you can send me to to read them? thanks
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Look back on Page ONE of this post. Lists the most common........
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Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
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Or InterMediary, depending on context.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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What does POSOM mean?
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Me: BH, 39 (and jobless)
Her: WW, 33
2 young kids (DD3 and DD1.5)
Her EA: Fall '08
Her move out: Fall '09
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Does POA stand for "power of attorney"?
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Me: BH, 39 (and jobless)
Her: WW, 33
2 young kids (DD3 and DD1.5)
Her EA: Fall '08
Her move out: Fall '09
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
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It could, but isn't often used on this site.
Perhaps you've seen "POJA" which is the "Policy of Joint Agreement," Dr Harley's recommendation for marital negotiation.
Me BS 61
Him FWS 63
Married 40 years
D-Day 6/30/06
Still can't believe it.
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IM helped me out, maybe it could be added to main list on page 1?
Me: 32 (BS) Wife: 32(WW)
D-Day 7/23/2010
Married 09/2002 2 kids Daughter 6 & Son 4
Separated trying to do plan B but childcare issues arise 6 days a week
Is there a way to speak with someone who has gone through this by phone? Someone Local?
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I will most likely be punished for this.
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What does "SAHM" mean?
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Me: BH, 39 (and jobless)
Her: WW, 33
Married 5 years
2 young kids (DD3 and DD1.5)
Her EA: Fall '08
Her move out: Fall '09
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
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Some wives have reconciled with their husbands after one or both of them have engaged in an affair. Yet the wife refers to her husband as DH. What gives?
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Her: WW, 33
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2 young kids (DD3 and DD1.5)
Her EA: Fall '08
Her move out: Fall '09
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
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DH = Darling (or Dear) Husband.
If the couple reconciles uses the MB principles, this is often the net result.
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"Dear Husband" indicates that she no longer thinks of him as a "WH" or even "FWH." I've been known to use that nomenclature myself. My H is just my DH now.
That's what a good dose of recovery will do...
Me BS 61
Him FWS 63
Married 40 years
D-Day 6/30/06
Still can't believe it.
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I've been able to figure out most of them, but this one has me stumped...
ILYBNILWY
Me- BW (26)
H- WS (29)- ongoing EA
M- 8 years
Kids: DS7 & DD5
Most recent attempt to get NC: 9/8/10
Currently: one sided Plan A
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I didn't see TOS.
A post was deleted due to TOS (not mine, lol). I was just curious about it, but NBD.
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I didn't see TOS.
A post was deleted due to TOS (not mine, lol). I was just curious about it, but NBD. TOS = Terms of Service It's standard online forumspeak.
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Me: 43 y.o. BFWH, D-day 11/11/09 (NC since 9/01) Divorce from WW final 9/16/10. Current Status: MB-based Marriage to Nature Girl 12/8/12 (first date on 12/11/10) Mine: S(16), D(11) NatureGirls: S(23), D(21) Another EA Story
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How 'bout CWH and PC?
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Me: BH, 39 (and no longer jobless; just broke)
Her: WW, 33
Never lived together
Married 6 years; together 10 years
2 young kids (DD3 and DD1.5)
Her EA: Fall '08
She moves out of our home: 10/16/09
Informally separated
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
In plan A at Dr. Bill Harley's advice since May '10
Have talked with lawyer twice; hate it
Her region is a 50/50 custody area
OM stopped working with her 08/10
Wife has NOT filed
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CWH & PC...
Where & how were these used?
Not common abbreviations...
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Currently Wayward Husband?
Personal Computer? Politically Correct?
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What is a DS or DD?
Such as:
DS-5 DD-Born Feb 2010
Me: 24 WW: 25 Married: April 13th 2007 Kids: None OM1: Discovered 7 Jan 2011 / OM2: Discovered Aug 2010 Wife is currently deployed to Afghanistan.
Summary of my story
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Darling son.
Darling daughter.
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Sorry folks, I thought I was savvy... but what is t/j?
Often seems to be used when someone is making a personal reference or telling a story.
BS: Me, 27
WS: Her, 24
EA: October
PA: 11/22/10
Moved out 12/3/10
Moved back in mid-January.
In tentative recovery. Is that the sun I see, breaking through the fog?
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Sorry folks, I thought I was savvy... but what is t/j?
Often seems to be used when someone is making a personal reference or telling a story. Thread Jacking. A distraction from the original post.
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BS: Me, 27
WS: Her, 24
EA: October
PA: 11/22/10
Moved out 12/3/10
Moved back in mid-January.
In tentative recovery. Is that the sun I see, breaking through the fog?
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Me: 43
ExWW: 44
Married 16yrs. 4 children
EA (ExWW): May-Nov 2009 + Aug-Dec 2010
D-DAY JAN 30, 2011
Exposure: FEB 7, 2011
Contact Again: Apr 25, 2011
Divorce Final Sept 2012
"I want to be married and stay married. Now I uunderstand the kind of marriage I want and we all deserve. But I also know it takes two to want to Build that Marriage."
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That post really belongs on your own thread. This thread is for spelling out acronyms, not really for discussing personal cases.
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What is R ?
As in, "You and WW should stop talking about R."
Me: 43
ExWW: 44
Married 16yrs. 4 children
EA (ExWW): May-Nov 2009 + Aug-Dec 2010
D-DAY JAN 30, 2011
Exposure: FEB 7, 2011
Contact Again: Apr 25, 2011
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"I want to be married and stay married. Now I uunderstand the kind of marriage I want and we all deserve. But I also know it takes two to want to Build that Marriage."
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Depends on the context. Used the way you've given it, "R" refers to "Relationship."
It can also refer to "Recovery," as in "my spouse and I want to R the M."
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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not directly related to acronyms, but where do ya'll get all the "smileys" and little character hitting each other over the head with a 2x4??
I'm new at this..
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Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ.
Col. 2:8 (NLT)
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not directly related to acronyms, but where do ya'll get all the "smileys" and little character hitting each other over the head with a 2x4??
I'm new at this.. When you go to reply to a post (or even to start a new one), choose the "Full screen" mode. You will then see all the smileys and text enhancement codes displayed in a user-friendly icon bar.
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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 Got it! Thanx
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Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ.
Col. 2:8 (NLT)
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The icons are in the toolbar when you choose "reply" or "quote" from here, too:
Reply Quote Quick Reply Quick Quote Notify Email Post
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What does DH stand for? H is for husband, I know.
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What does DH stand for? H is for husband, I know. Dear/darling husband.
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I cannot seem to figure this out: how do I post longer messages and how can I add a link to tell my story?
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I cannot seem to figure this out: how do I post longer messages and how can I add a link to tell my story? Izzy, if the post box will not allow you to make longer posts, try this fix: ![[Linked Image from west-wind.com]](http://www.west-wind.com/Weblog/images/200901/WindowsLiveWriter/JSONDateParsingandASP.NET_DE71/image_0fa2f0f9-9548-4516-b801-45bcc70aa8d9.png)
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Me 39 BH
Her 41 WW 2y A with FBF
A started 05/09
OC born 2/10
DNA test 15/08/11
DDs 14and16
DDay 02/07/11
DDay2 22/07/11
I agree to try to work on the marriage 26/09/11
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Affairage = Marriage between affair partners.
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Me 39 BH
Her 41 WW 2y A with FBF
A started 05/09
OC born 2/10
DNA test 15/08/11
DDs 14and16
DDay 02/07/11
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I agree to try to work on the marriage 26/09/11
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POSOM= piece of sh*t other man
POSOW= piece of sh*t other woman
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Me 39 BH
Her 41 WW 2y A with FBF
A started 05/09
OC born 2/10
DNA test 15/08/11
DDs 14and16
DDay 02/07/11
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Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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what is ITA?
context "ITA. And she thinks that will work here."
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Me: BW, 41
WH: 46
Married 7 years, together 12
DD: 5
OW: 39
D-Day: 11 April
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KISA - knight in shining armor
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Me: BW, 41
WH: 46
Married 7 years, together 12
DD: 5
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As in plan FU? It would be a harsher form of plan screw you.
"Get busy living, or get busy dying"...... The Shawshank Redemption.
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I don't think FU is a marriage builder term.
It's when you throw your arms up and decide that you don't care how many LB you commit, you are done and don't care
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I was encouraged to do some FU behavior during my divorce process but I stuck with the majority advice to follow plan A and I'm glad I did.
I don't think LB behaviors help anyone
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How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy."
Me BW mid-40s EA/PA while engaged 20 yrs ago
Him WH early-40s EA/PA twice in 2012
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How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy." LM=LeanieMe. It's just shorthand for your posting name.
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"the affair exists in is one in which needs like FS, FC, and DS are not required to be met,..."
When referring to needs, what do these acronyms represent: FS, FC and DS?
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FS = Financial Support
FC = Family Commitment
DS = Domestic Support
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OM - Other Man OP - Other Person EP - Extraordinary Protection PORH - Policy of Radical Honest and also POJA is Policy of Joint Agreement
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UA = Undivided Attention This is the acronym used to signify the minimum time set aside every week for Undivided Attention. The minimum time need to maintain romantic love is about 15 hours each week. This is what Dr. Harley discovered through his research. To restore romantic love, a minimum of 20 - 25 hours is needed. UA means, too, that the couple is focused on each other, with no children or friends around, meeting each others intimate emotional needs. No tv, computer, phone.
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UA = Undivided Attention
All of the acronyms can be found by starting out by reading from the beginning of this topic thread.
Also, everyone interested in restoring their marriage to a safe, fulfilling and romantic level should at least put in the effort to read all of the free articles on this site, as well as purchasing the pertinent books from Dr. Harley which inexpensively aide you in the recovery process.
I would hope that anyone grasping at straws to fix their marriage would at least read through Dr. Harleys Basic Concepts and follow all of the links to addendum articles.
Isn't your marriage worth at least that much effort?
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P - Piece O - of S - uh....poop O - other M - man
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What about "bump"?
I see that on some threads and think maybe it means "I agree" or a way of saying "thank you"?
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What about "bump"?
I see that on some threads and think maybe it means "I agree" or a way of saying "thank you"? No, it has to do with the placement of threads in the index. Threads are sorted by those with the most recent posts appearing first. When a noteworthy thread sinks low in the list due to inactivity and someone want to bring it to the top, they post to it so as to "bump" it to the top. All that "bump" means is that the post was made to bring the thread back to the top of the forum.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Secret second life.
This usually happens when spouses are living independent lifestyles: going out without each other to gyms, bars and clubs; participating in hobbies without the spouse, but with the opposite sex - see Sue in the book Surviving an Affair.
However, SSLs can be fostered at home, right under the spouse's nose. Where there is an absence of technical (online and telecommunications) transparency, it is easy to conduct a SSL in the comfort of the home.
When a spouse travels overnight for work, a SSL is almost inevitable, by one or other spouse. The spouse that travels can stay in hotel rooms with a colleague, or the stay-at-home spouse can spend time with an affair partner.
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What is AP? As in "WW married AP".
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