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#1984208 12/08/07 09:47 AM
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Dear Laura,

Although you deleted almost all of your early posts, you missed 7 the very first ones. A quick recap of what you wrote in 2001:

You filled for divorce in 1997 because your husband was abusive. You started dating around 2000. Your best friend (psychic) told you that a man of your dream would be tall, Dutch, and would be driving a blue Chevy truck. You met a man in church who was tall, Dutch, and his Chevy truck was blue. You knew, and God told you, that he was "the one."

However, during your unhappy marriage, you developed an "aversion" to any man and were having panic attacks around him. You believed that you loved the man you met and that he started loving you too but your aversion and panic attacks made it impossible to build a relationship with him. In addition, he told you that he had been dating a woman for 13 years and having sex with her. He also told you that he was never going to marry her. You did not know his age and guessed that he was around 42 and never married.

Because you knew that you would marry this man and that God would bless your marriage as a true and only one union bound to happen, you considered his long-term girlfriend being an OW. In your mind, their relationship was sinful and did not count because they were having premarital sex. You, on the other hand, agreed to have sex only in marriage and, therefore, appointed yourself as being that man's wife, a soulmate. That's why you came to marriage builders site and started reading on here.

You did "plan A" with "the one" and were unsuccessful as he told you that he won't give up his girlfriend for you. You then gave him PBL and moved out of that town, changed churches, and avoided seeing him. When you did get to see him occasionally, you still had panic attacks. You did not talk to him at all but knew that he still loved you because of "the way he looked at you."

At one point you tried to educate that man and were sending him CDs, sermons, books, Harley's material, etc... to show that he should give up his OW and return to you. In 2004 you decided that you could lead him away from sin and you were strong enough to let God work through you. You came back to the site to give an update on you and "your husband."

The man of your dream married his OW/girlfriend. You felt it was your fault because you left him and did not let him come to you as you were in plan B. You moved back to his town, bought a house, and started attending church and ministering to people.

The man you think is your true husband was never married to you. He is not a father of your children. He has not been in contact with you for years. He is married. Your belief that he loves you based on psychic's vision, "the look in his eye" and your convictions.

Dear Laura,

This is a marriage builders site. During your first arrival here you confused people telling them that you wanted to date your "husband." You avoided any clarification then and deleted almost all your posts in 2004.

Maybe this recap can serve as a reality check.

All the best,

Wifetobe

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Wow, great intel work, wifetobe!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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wifetobe #1984210 12/08/07 09:55 AM
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Wow. Just Wow. How do you know all this?


Me - BW/FWW
Him - FWH/BH
Still figuring it all out - but we're figuring it out TOGETHER <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
cathys01 #1984211 12/08/07 09:59 AM
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BUSTED!!!


AHHHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!


Yet ANOTHER fake Christian hypocrite.


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cathys01 #1984212 12/08/07 09:59 AM
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cathy, some other posters ID'd back as Laura_Lee, that has posted here over the years. It looks like wifetobe went back and researched her old posts, most of which have been deleted. back/LauraLee has been posting here for years.

This means that she is the OW, not a wife.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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wifetobe #1984213 12/08/07 10:01 AM
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The man you think is your true husband was never married to you. He is not a father of your children. He has not been in contact with you for years.

Very interesting. The psychological drama continues.


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did she put anything in there about men peeing their pants around her?

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And I think this should dispel any doubt that this woman is a liar and is here for her amusement and to distract from the purpose of these boards.

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I reiterate my orginal question to back.

Are you stalking your "XH"?


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This is why it's so hard to believe anyone like back who has reinvented themselves and won't be honest about their previous posting. This stuff showing up now is even more bizarre.

But it's also a little weird to me that wifetobe, who only has 5 posts has been the one to do it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Makes me wonder if she isn't somebody's *alter-ego* too. Only showed up five days ago....made 4 posts on EN....suddenly shows up on GQ....did all this intel work on Laura/back who just happens to be target du jour? I dunno.....

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here's a link to a bizarre thread from her.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...true#Post776381

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and the sad thing is, she will come up with a new personna...come here and find defenders yet again. Time to wake up people.

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and read that thread and see if you think sky diver is the same person.

this from SD...

"Laura- you are so way ahead than most of here on the forum, leaps and bounds,in your healing and maturity process with time, and yrs, than I am that's for sure!"

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But it's also a little weird to me that wifetobe, who only has 5 posts has been the one to do it. Makes me wonder if she isn't somebody's *alter-ego* too. Only showed up five days ago....made 4 posts on EN....suddenly shows up on GQ....did all this intel work on Laura/back who just happens to be target du jour? I dunno.....

I wondered the same thing.

Maybe Laura/Back is one person with a multiple personality and her own personalities are trying to "out" each other? (Okay, I will admit I read way too many mystery novels!)

This is pretty fascinating stuff though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Like I have so tragically discovered, true evil will mask itself as "christian".

The fundies will guzzle the cool-aide of the evil and defend it to their own end all because it will speak their language and lead them astray.


I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Pariah...do you have an issue with Christian's? If so, I suggest you keep it to yourself. The world is full of people spouting off false religious beliefs for their benefit.

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Reading wifetobe's very first post, it almost sounds like she could be the wife of laura/backs "XH" and that back is the OW.


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I registered a year ago. I read. I don't usually post.

My everyday job is to decipher through distortions to find facts. Back's omissions, distortions, avoidance, and counterattacks got to me.

All the best,

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But it's also a little weird to me that wifetobe, who only has 5 posts has been the one to do it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Makes me wonder if she isn't somebody's *alter-ego* too. Only showed up five days ago....made 4 posts on EN

She got here ONE YEAR and 5 days ago. I see nothing weird about looking up back's old posts since she has mentioned she used to post under another name. What would be wrong with that?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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