I, I POSTED AS ARANCHAA. LADS I DONT KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON HERE WITH THIS BACK, LAURA_LEE OR WHAT THE HECK. I THOUGHT THIS WAS A SITE WHERE U COULD POST STUFF AND GET HELP FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN IN SAME/SIMILAR SITUATION. A WOMAN CALLED BACK HAS BEEN POSTING AND ADVISING ME. NOW SOME PEOPLE ARE SAYING SHE IS A FRAUD, WHAT IS SHE DOING HERE THEN, IS SHE TRYING TO HURT PEOPLE SOMEHOW?, WHY IS NOBODY ELSE GIVING ME ANY ADVISE???
IM REALLY DISSAPOINTED,
BY THE WAY, MY THREAD IS CALLED:
A MESSAGE FOR JUSTKEEPTRYING AND TYK
THEY NEVER ANSWER TO ME BY THE WAY.. SUPPOSSE MY THREAD IS TOO BORING FOR THEM

Aranchaa,

It's slow here on the weekends.

Hang in there!

You posted: Is this Marriage Builders Site a FRAUD???

No it isn't. Now why would you think that?

I read your thread. You seemed to only want help from those posters. If that is not correct, please retitle your thread.

Now if you really want help, have you read the concepts section above? If you want a plan to help you, there are steps you should consider to make your recovery plan successful.

As for BACK being a fraud...... BACK is a poster. Let's leave it at that. BACK is posting their own opinion. Realize this board does not contain professionals, just people providing their opinions, experience and support ALL of which is voluntary.

So go do some reading and then let's talk. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

Aranchaa, back/LauraLee is a mentally ill individual who is likely bi-polar and who has probably been stalking a married man for years according to her older posts. She is not married. She has victimized many ppl in this forum so don't feel alone.

Can I suggest starting up a new thread without putting anyones name in it? When you put member's names in the title, others wont' likely respond. I am sorry you had to put up with this.

I DONT ONLY WANT HELP FROM THOSE POSTERS, THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO ANSWER SOMETHING. YES , OF COURSE I HAVE READ BASIC CONCEPTS,...GOT BOOKS,...YOU SAY BACK IS ONLY A POSTER BUT IF U READ MY THREAD YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE WHATS GOING ON IN THERE BETWEEN THEM. THEY ARE CRITICICING EACH OTHER LIKE MAD, TALKING ABOUT THE LORD.,,,SAYING BACK IS LAURA_LEE AND IS A FRAUD.
DOES NOBODY HERE CONTROL ALL THIS DISCUSSIONS, I THOUGHT THERE WAS SOME KIND OF CONTROL OVER WHAT YOU COULD SAY OR NOT SAY

You have heard from Mel & I. Start another thread, don't put a specific posters name on it and ask your questions again.

Btw, typing in caps gives the impression you are angry or yelling. Care to tone it down a bit? It will make it easier to help you.

Please share with us what you have learned from what you read, a bit of background of your sitch vs current status and let's see what positive help we can give.

Thanks,
L.

Aranchaa, here is who back really is: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

Just ignore her and start a new thread.

Hello Aranchaa,

Please don't let what has happened on your first post here convince you Marriage Builders can't help you. We can.

I sincerely apologize that you and your thread were somehow thrown in the middle of a controversial issue here.

Give MB another chance and post a new thread. I'm sure the moderators will monitor it closely.

I'd also suggest if this happens again on your threads and the Mods haven't intervened, contact them immediately so they can manage the problem.

Jo

I've been reading your posts and missed some information. How long have you been married? How many kids, and their ages please.

From your description, your husband doesn't seem like a very good one. You said your counselor asked you to list ONE good thing about him and you couldn't think of any. Is that really true?

Aar, I was the only one who cared enough to respond to your post. As for the accusations and the attitudes that "fly around" on this site... take them with a grain of salt. Incendiary flaming, namecalling, bizarre speculation, and scapegoating, etc. are the habits of some. I ignore them.

It appears my advice to start a new thread calling on vets was good advice.

You need to leave this lady and other newcomers alone, back!

ML,

You appear not to be flaming... just asserting a point. If you would like to IM me to keep this thread positive... please do. My only point being that I have said nothing harmful, to my knowledge, to Aar.

back, things will stay positive if you leave the newcomers alone.

Aranchaa:

I responded to you in your thread with Plan A advice related to whether or not you should keep the emotional pain your WH has caused you a secret from him.

I have posted on and off here for years. You can do a search on my old posts - none of which have ever been deleted by me in an attempt to hide anything about my story.

I ASSURE you that this site has a wealth of sound advice to offer those who are trying to save their marriage from the evil of adultery.

Unfortunately that is the very reason this site is sometimes attacked by adulterous trolls who come here to start feuds amongst the regular posters and to give bad advice to newcomers. Still you can get some sound advice and support here if you are discerning.

BTW, my daughters and I taught Irish dance lessons for several years, do you dance Lassie?

thanks for advise Resilient, could u tell me who are the moderators here?.
by the way even if i write with capital letters doesnt mean im shouting of angry. just means i pressed the Caps Lock by mistake and realised too late after i wrote a lot, that's all. no need to be so susceptible, why would i be shouting?

Aranchaa,

I am a moderator on this forum. Please feel free to email me with any problems or concerns.

Sure thing.

You can email the moderators for a given post. Each post has four icons on the bottom left. To the right of "Post Extras:"

When you hover over the third icon from the left with your mouse, you'll see the tooltip that displays "Notify Moderator”, click it. Then click on the button “Yes, Notify Moderator(s) of this post!”.

Let me know if you need anything else.

Jo

thanks a lot for ur advise Resilient

You're welcome Hon.

Now see, there's Justuss right on queue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I would just like to add that IMHO,

(MY POV, just IGNORE it if you do not agree with my POV and are tempted to post something that opposes my POV, a.k.a. 'abusive', to me in response)

that it is up to each new poster who comes here whether or not they want advice from an adulterer versus betrayed spouses. I would assume MOST came here to MB's instead of to TOW site (The Other Woman) they do NOT want to have adulterers posting in their thread giving them advice... IF they are made aware of it. That is the LOGICAL AND COMPASSIONATE assumption.

I see nothing wrong with informing a new poster if somebody who is giving them advice is an adulteress in disguise.

Please note that I simply advised the newcomer to check out Back/Laura_Lee's posts for herself and to form her own opinion. By contrast assuring a newcomer that Back is just another poster is IMHO irresponsible. Why not allow her to examine the evidence, hear the warnings even, and then decide for herself? Keeping quiet and not warning newcomers is one thing, but assuring them that a questionable poster is OK is not a good idea IMHO. If I was a newcomer here, and Back was posting to me, and nobody warned me about her, or even worse endorsed her as safe, I'd be plenty upset about that once I learned the truth!

Therefore I want to go on record as defending and applauding MEDC, ForeverHers, and MelodyLane for trying to inform and protect Aranchaa.