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But helping others throw your fellow board members under the bus for defending themselves *IS* taking sides. Ok..you're welcome to your opinion, MEL...but as far as I'm concerned I'M NOT TAKING SIDES... LA does not USUALLY hear WRONG. That's just not THE TRUTH. She listens very carefully. Mel, you are arguing by making such GENERAL statements. How is it helpful to be so argumentative?
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The issue is not about Back.
It is about how we treat each other. The disrespectful judgements and angry outbursts are fracturing the community.
This is what the need to be RIGHT does to marriages...and to other relationships.
Who is helped by this?
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Exactly, BR. That is what I am attempting to ask and to say.
How is this HELPFUL to anyone?
We will have DIFFERENT SIDES on the forum?
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So so sad. Yet oddly entertaining.
Folks...use the IGNORE feature...it has helped TREMENDOUSLY.
I've actually had members email me about this ruckus over here.
USE IGNORE....it's fabulous !!!
I haven't been here in awhile..but all this infighting..I am sure there's someone out there needing some guidance..so I'm going to try to extend a hand...why don't you all do the same... isn't that why you are supposed to be here??
Help rebuild some marriages !!!!
DDAY 2/25/04
Plan A 3/1/04
Recovery started 4/14/04....still going strong
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Thank you BR, LA & Mimi. I have not taken sides for or against anything from the original BACK posts. I was still willing to research the stuff, just wanted the board to get back on track and stop bickering. The name calling got out of hand and then it was dumped on me as if I did it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I thought about your wanting to be right vs wanting to be married thread a lot last night. This is a perfect example of how to define and apply the correct principals. Thanks for those who have notified the mods and ADMN teams. Steve has posted before when things got a bit rough. It's been years but I believe I saw it I a couple of times (at least once for sure). Of course, I don't want you all to be accused of my supposed 'corrupting' influence. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Thanks again, L.
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It just needs to stop, Mimi. This was a terrible ordeal that hurt many board members. I see folks here striving to add fuel to the fire to settle personal scores.
I see folks starting contentious threads and then complaining about "contention." So many agendas, so many resentments. It just needs to STOP, don't you agree?
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Orchid, I know your heart is in the right place, but can I make a suggestion? Stop starting up new threads about controversial subjects. As you can see, it only FUELS the FIRE. Every crapwit with a resentment and an agenda hops on to take a cheap shot. It only ADDS to the CONTROVERSY.
I hope Justuss will lock this thread and we can all get back to the real purpose here.
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Orchid, you are awesome!
I understood your intent here...wasn't hard for me to see.
I love the way you operate!
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The issue is not about Back.
It is about how we treat each other. The disrespectful judgements and angry outbursts are fracturing the community.
This is what the need to be RIGHT does to marriages...and to other relationships.
Who is helped by this? Thanks, BR. I was trying 2 find a way 2 say something like that. I don't know much about the laura/back thang at all. But I think that "respect" is at the core as 2 how 2 proceed here. We don't know the people who post on these boards, even those who've been here for years. (and even those I've met personally, I don't really know all about them). I think I said something like this on the laura/back thread, but it fell on the end of a page and got run over by all the back and forth that went on after: If people like that are mentally ill and misusing the MB methods, or worse are manipulating others with it - then STILL it is possible 2 treat them with respect - kill them (the "evil" behind their behavior) with kindness, in effect. This is why I also said 2 Mel that I disagree with her current sigline. True compassion can never be misplaced, and evil gets its power from individuals who give it power. Compassion can be mis applied, and often is, as are many other worthwhile concepts. -ol' 2long
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2long, I agree with your point about TRUE compassion, because true compassion is not necessarily served by saying nice words or helping someone harm others. So, point well taken.
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This was a terrible ordeal that hurt many board members
Every **** with a resentment and an agenda hops on to take a cheap shot.
does the name calling help
does it...
or does it hurt many board members...
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This was a terrible ordeal that hurt many board members
Every **** with a resentment and an agenda hops on to take a cheap shot.
does the name calling help
does it...
or does it hurt many board members...
ark Does it "help" to come on here, after not being a part of this board in any way for months, to take cheap shots at the participants to fan the flames?
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