And congratulations.

Here you go for you.

BELIEVE FOR YOUR MIRACLE!

"I will remember the deeds of the LORD; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago. I willmeditate on all your works and consider all your mighty deeds. Your ways, O God, are holy. What
god is so great as our God? You are the God who performs miracles; you display your power among the peoples." Psalm 77:11-14

Do you believe in miracles? I do! Bob and I just celebrated our sixteenth anniversary of his coming back home remarrying me on July 7,
1987. That was a miracle! He had told me for months and years, "I will never, never come back home. You are not accepting and adjusting
to this divorce. I do not love you. Get on with your life. I have someone else."

BUT GOD had other plans and had given me so many promises from His Word not to give up on my Lord or on my husband! I gave up due to all
our circumstances, as they seemed overwhelming. I filed for divorce,but God knew my heart and forgave me, giving me a second chance to
follow Him completely, regardless of what other people were saying.

We celebrated our anniversary Monday evening with a large crowd of standers at Rejoice Bible study. Some of the women surprised us with
a beautiful anniversary cake as they sang to us. It was an answer to my prayers that I prayed so many years ago, "Let me help other people
to believe that God can and does heal hurting marriages." Nothing is too hard for your Lord to fix. Just believe in His mighty power.

"...But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us." 'If you can?' said Jesus. ‘Everything is possible for him who believes.' Immediately the boy's father exclaimed ‘I do believe help me overcome my unbelief!" Mark 9:22-24

Your Lord Jesus Christ performed miracles throughout His ministry. Jesus performed miracles of healing the sick and bringing life to the dead. He did miracles showing power over nature, calming a storm, walking on water and feeding 5000 people. Even the apostles did
miracles after their Lord Jesus Christ was crucified demonstrating that the power of the Messiah who had been crucified and risen was
with them. Miracles are from God to show others the power of your Lord God. Your Lord God wants to get the glory and honor for the restoration of your marriage, so be sure to give Him all the praise!

We often hear the comment that, "It would take a miracle to straighten out the mess in my marriage." God has not changed. He still works
miracles. Would you allow your Lord to work a miracle in your life and marriage? When the circumstances make it all seem so impossible
is exactly when you're ready for your miracle. If things are tough right now, don't look around for your example--look up to your Lord Jesus Christ. Your Lord God loves your spouse more than you ever will. Your Lord Jesus Christ is interceding for your husband or wife daily and the Holy Spirit is convicting your spouse in a thousands different ways about "Going Home." Going back home to their Lord and then going home to their families! God is doing miracles everyday! Thank Him for all that you do not see that is being done this very day by your Lord. Praise the Lord for all that He is doing in ALL the prodigals hearts!

"Nothing is impossible with God." Mark 10:27

In Nehemiah, God did a miracle by rebuilding a wall in 52 days that was destroyed. Are you willing to rebuild your home? God can rebuild
and restore a marriage if we will do like Nehemiah did. Go to God,ask Him to rebuild your marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ.
Allow God to show you His plan in rebuilding your home, one brick at a time. Anything worth having takes time and perseverance. You are not only rebuilding your home for you, your spouse and for your children, but for generations to come!

Throughout the Bible God did miracles in the Old and New Testament. Noah built an ark to save his family. Moses was used by God to part
the Red Sea. Joshua had the priests carry the ark of the covenant taking the first steps into the Jordan as its waters were overflowing, but the water stood up in a heap. In Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego were thrown into the furnace seven times hotter than usual
and then God sent his angel who rescued his servants. As we read the Bible, we see God doing miracles for His people from Genesis to
Revelation.

What should you do to receive and believe for your miracles of restoration for your marriage?

Step 1: Never give up!

Step 2: Focus on your Lord God. Remember your covenant wedding vows.

Step 3: Step into the Water. Believe in God's mighty power.

Step 4: Trust God - Take steps of faith.

Step 5: A faith walk IS a difficult walk. Develop perseverance.

Step 6: Stand on the 3000 plus promises in the Word of God.

Step 7: Do not panic. Problems are part of life.

Step 8: Believe and expect the promises will become a reality.

Step 9: Keep a clean heart and a renewed, focused mind.

Step 10: Be in the perfect will of God.

Step 11: Live in obedience.

Today start beleving, praying and expecting your miracle for your marriage!

{{{{{TMTS}}}}}}

Not a good day for either of us in the world of football. That just sucks the big one.

Hey, have you ever read any of Mortarman's thread? Do you know what it is called?

I’m in a bad mood towards WW this morning. I’m avoiding her right now because I feel like doing the mother of all LBs on her right now. This party girl attitude of hers is bull and I feel like as long as she is here life is wonderful for her, she goes does the social thing with the neighbors comes home drunk and stoned is hung over this morning, then take off to “run errands”. It’s like being a teenager living with mom and dad. Right now I don’t really care where she went to I’m just glad she’s out of my face. I’m mad this morning because I feel like I’m being taken advantage of even more than before. I really dislike my WW, this is a completely different person. It’s the complete selfishness that gets me frustrated. As soon as ODD left to go baby sit she was talking to the neighbor about coming over for a drink. The neighbor is no help because she’s a lonely alcoholic who’s H is verbally abusive and controlling. I am starting to think that I need to go very dark on her when the time comes and at this very moment I thinking sooner than later because I feel like I’m loosing a dignity and self-respect in going along with this cake eating bull. I will take Jennifer’s lead on when so no worries.

I know I’ll calm down and not do anything stupid by the time she gets back and will be right back into plan A, but I just felt I had to get this out.

My concern is that for the first time since all of this happened I felt dislike and hate for her. I know that this is towards the WW and not my W but I’ll tell you that my LB was drained quite a bit over last night and this morning. I’m digging really deep to remind myself that this behavior is all fog driven, and that one day it will lift. I’m still mad at all this bull though...

Noone can blame you! You are basically going against everything society teaches us about defending ourselves and our hearts. It is also why there is a Plan B. And I've told you b4 and will tell you again...dark, very dark. If you are prepared for a Plan B any time soon b/c of the way you are feeling, it's the only thing that makes sense. She is tearing you down with her behavior, and Plan B is designed to protect you from that very thing. I know you are scared that it will just give her even more room to party, but I see it as more rope to hang herself with, ya know.

One thing that I think is essential is that you do not lose track of Plan A and have a bunch of fighting and LB-ing b4 you go to Plan B. You are allowed to have a bad day, for goodness sake-look what you are going through! But if these feelings persists and you go down the anger road b4 you go to Plan B, it will serve no purpose but to enable her to thinking you are the bad guy. That is not how you want to leave things, is it? Not after all your hard work these last few weeks!!

We're with ya, buddy!!

(((((TMTS))))

Hang in there....and you did the right thing by coming here to vent. Better to us than to her. You know the MB rules and laws, go over them again, so that they are fresh in your mind before she comes back. And if the anger and frusteration are really bad, you could go for a good run or as I was told yesterday, scrub some toilets....lol

Just hang in there....we are here if you need us...gotta go do the laundry, which I HATE.....

Not2fun

Oh, yeah, come here and rant and rave. It is sad that she is behaving so poorly and your kids are WATCHING.

I would do something fun with the kids and let your wife continue down her destructive path.

Are you ready for this....

Link 1 - Motartman's fisrt post.

After his first session with SH

Thing aint good

Breakthrough

A step back

Out of Fog???

Summary update - a must read

Plan B help


Unsure what to do next

Out of time

This is the start of his story. In my search there is a gap of about 6 month after this. I'm trying to get stuff from 12/02 to 6/03

This is it right here in one line!!! This is what is getting me going. It was my YDDs birthday party yesterday and one of her little friends stayed over night. Next thing you know Mr. WW is calling the liquor store to find out what time they are open til. Goes and gets some booze (I did take advantage and had her pick me up some hazelnut Kalua for my coffee). Came home watched the rest of Shreck # and poof, gone until 3 am.

Lala - You better believe it will be dark... very, very dark. But I will see what Jennifer has to say. I get the feeling her suggestion will be to go dark on moving day.

If you all don't mind I will post my Plan B letter once it's ready, if you would be so kind to comment.

Seems like she is drinking a lot. Probably to deal with the pain. Did she drink a lot BEFORE?

I'm guessing she is in the "I'm Too Sexy for My Family" wayward mode...Thinks she has found the "fountain of youth" and has the market cornered on "cool"...Partyin' like a ROCK STAR! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> And yes, believer is right too, she is also using the drinking to escape the anxiety brought on by the internal conflict...a way to drowned her conscience...

Mrs. W

The drinking as been a weekend thing with the neighbor for the most part. Usually it's one or two drinks, last night was more like 6, 7% coolers. But to answer your question, I would have to say yes, she has been drinking and smoking more since d-day. Yes maybe to dull the pain, but I think it also had a lot to do with not having to look at me. Up until the last month the pain was visible on my face. I think it's the constant reminder of what she is doing that is the main motivator. I have yet to see her drink alone.
She just got home, so pray for me to have the strength to hold back and get back into plan A mode. Let's go ask her how's she’s doing...

Good luck, we'll be pulling for you.

So she gets home and comes downstairs to she what I'm doing (I'll go into my thoughts on that in a minute). So I ask her how's she's doing, and if she's feeling ok. she says that she feeling pretty hung over, so I asked her if I could get her anything like water or something to eat, walked over and rubbed her back (That part is easy, I'm am a pretty sweet guy). Suggested she go lay down for a while, that I all is under control and I'm going to start up on laundry. She liked that idea, so I put it into overdrive... She said she was going to go change first, so I comment (Mrs. W. you'll like this one) yes please go change because your being all sexy is dirve me crazy. She gave me what I call her "why are you being so kind to me” laugh. (I'm starting to know that laugh now, it's I really like an appreciate you telling me this, and I feel so guilty) So on her way up the stairs my ODD chimes in and asks me to make her an omelet (Her timing was perfect, but she didn't know what was going on), so I said sure, what kind would you like, that I asked my WW if she would like me to make her something. Suggested an omelet as well, and she thought for a second and said she would prefer something like scrambled eggs, so I suggested a breakfast burrito with scrambled eggs and cheese (This is one of her favorites). She asked me to let her know when it was ready, and I told her "No", she said why not... Is came back and said, go ahead a lay down, I'll bring it up to you... would you like something to drink with that. I brought it up, and I could see that she appreciated it. She thanked me, I said your welcome, have a good nap, and I’ll keep the kids in check. She thanks me again.

I’m glad I vented here earlier, I got it out of my system and was able to focus on the plan. Thanks for your support.

What do you guys think… not too bad EH!

She is really curious about what I'm doing online. It helps that every time she comes close to the computer I switch screens (Just like when she was having the EA) I can tell it's getting to her by the look in her face. I wonder if she thinks I started an EA with someone online. I'll keep on letting her wonder, she acts all cool and leaves me alone, I figure because now that she says she's leaving she doesn’t want to come off as being too needy.

I worry about this TMTS, b/c if I remember your story correctly, you did have an online EA...no? If she thinks that, it may not be good as far as her justifying her actions and wanting to leave. Just food for thought, could be waaayyy off base, here!

Nope, wrong story, she's the one that started this with an EA. I never ventured. The closest thing was when we broke up for three weeks when we were both in school, mostly because we were not seeing much of each other. A friend of a friend was trying to get close but all I could think about was my W (Then GF).At this point I thinks she's just curious, but she's in no position to ask if anything is going on. It's kind of funny actually because I can tell she wants to know but doesn't dare to ask about it. See she knows I have a facebook account (Mind you I have one friend on it and it's her, I just can't get into the facebook thing) Maybe I should go on and go make a whole bunch of new friends including a lot of woman. LOL.

Must have been someone else, then. I got everyone mixed up in the beginning. Sorry, buddy!

Not a problem. I need to recheck some of the threads sometimes cause i get them mixed up. Especially between SS and n2f, because their story is very similar. yours and W2S's is so different, there is no mixing it up...LOL.

Gee thanks! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> We are a couple of weirdos!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />