Do I need to tell you to watch out for expectations?

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Mark

Sounds like a plan to me. As Mark said: Hope, yes. Expectations, no.

Have fun tonight!

Nope, Just the Plan A, make the WW think a little of what she is loosing by leaving. If she leaves, she leaves and work the plan for a few weeks then Plan B very dark.

NO EXPECTATIONS (It's real hard now) but I feel energized by that lady asking me for a date, and fitting into 16 inch neckline shirts! That made me feel awesome.

I also found out that one of the reasons she is still thinking of moving is that she'll look stupid if she pays for an empty apartment. My plan there is to mention that we can use the apartment as a getaway spot for us and just get a room set up for "special" nights alone.

Does the plan sound solid?

I even have a plan on where I'm going... offsite betting. The neobour works a the local track and knows what she talking about, so she gave me a program for tonight and a couple of names to watch out for.

Again, sounds like a good plan to me! Try not to lose your shirt (pun intended) at the OTB. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ditto to skinsgal on the door handle...that was great!

I agree, she has had enough of Plan A treatment to realize the change in you is real. She has now become too comfortable with the fence-sitting. I am not saying to be rude to her, obviously you are still in Plan A mode...but some tough love would be a good start.

I'll tell ya, though, I wouldn't say a word about the apartment. She needs to get out of the lease. If she can't, then she needs to pay for it out of her pocket for the whole time it is leased, whether she is there or not. And I would tell her that if she plans on using it to cake-eat and do her thang while trying to stay with you, she can forget it. No bachelorette pads in this M!!

Have fun tonight!

Praying for you TMTS.

Have fun...stay away from those wild women at the OTB. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mark

TMTS...

Haven't popped in on you in a couple of days, so I was just checking to make sure you were still in Plan A, being still, and having no expectations.

I am glad to see that you are doing all of those things. Now if only you could "morph" into a Me-look-a-like and come do it for me...LMAO...

I'll be praying for you this week especially on Sat. Hang in there (as if you had a choice right???), you will be fine one way or another.


not2fun

Pretty uneventful night, but....

She did see me all gussied up and mentioned that I looked nice and complimented my shirt. Asked where I was, and Answered, Oh I just needed to get out. That was that. Thanks me for the plush cat, she loved it. We chatted for a bit and she fell asleep on the couch.

I was surprised that she did not go to the neighbors place, but that could just be poker face.

She had not mentioned another word of the LSA to me since she talked to the mediator yesterday so I really hope she is having second thoughts. But according to the neighbors she is holding on to the fantasy and hoping that moving will have him come to her. Neighbors do not think so.

I suck at horse handicapping. Mind you I didn't really have my mind on it. It was fun though listening to the regulars yell at the drivers. And don't worry Mark, there weren’t even any ladies in the place. Next time I go to somewhere I can flirt... J/K. LOL

All in all a decent Plan a night, the fact that she stayed home is hard to read. I guess she will go talk to the neighbor tomorrow when she gets home. So we shall see.

I have some hope now, and I just need to look for my spot to introduce the you don't need to move because you have a key, and my boundary about seeing more men then expecting me to be waiting for her.

I did look really good tonight, and she knew it, so mission accomplished. I wonder if she thinks I went out with the Lady that asked me out last week.

Sounds like a winner of an evening...even though you didn't win. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

She saw me in full WARRIOR mode and that I could go out on my own and be OK. (Good thing I didn't go to a night club, I might not be home yet). That in itself makes it successful. Yet one more rock...

Oh, something I forgot. She had mentioned SF with me to the neighbor but was affraid to bring it up. Should I? There is no commitment, but I am in Plan a, and that would certainly meet on of her most imprtant ENs.

How did it go when she saw the door lock? LOL. I have to tell you, I am still smiling over that one.

SF?!?!?! Not yes, but HE!! YES!!!

Of course, I'm starving for SF right now, so maybe a vet can properly direct you on this one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

It's been almost 2 years for me.... Let's talk about starving...

She didn't say a thing about the door knob, and I don't expect her to. This was for internal processing effect. I'm #3... (That one's for you 14)

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Set the mood...when is this romantic dinner planned? Look your best and be Joe Cool all night. Make sure there is lots of flirting and loving gestures. Then, when you get home, give her a kiss that knocks her socks off. Tell her how sexy you think she is and how you've missed her touch. See how she reacts. Then go from there....

Just don't get your hope too high, because she is still pretty conflicted. By the way, if you do want to plan this type of evening, don't bring up anything about her moving or take the tough love approach until afterwards. Maybe the next day. Just say something like "I want you to know that I love you and I want our M to work. I want us to both be in love with each other again and I have a plan to make that happen. You do not have to move out just because you have a key to a new place. This is our home, and I want you here with us. But if you must go, I need you to understand that I will not be OK with you dating other men. I will not sit by and let you hurt me that way. It would just be too painful. If you start seeing other men, I will be forced to let you go and move on with my life. I hope and pray every day that it does not come to that."

Ok, I need to know if I'm dreaming here...

As I am sitting here posting the "that one's for you 14", she comes downstairs to go to bed (Still has poker face). She came over and asked me what I was doing, then asked if I had gone for a drink. I said yes and let it go. She thanked me again for the cat, I was looking at her and told her she was pretty. She took a step closer and gave me a real nice hug, where I said that I still loved her, and she let me give her a couple of kisses. Not drag down make out, but nice and romantic. Next she was asking where I had left the cat and I showed her than tucked her in. I gave her three more kisses even more romantic than the first.

So I tell her that the kiss really stirred something up (LOL), and she just said that she was sorry. Ok one rock at a time. I almost forgot... I dropped the apartment key line. “You don't have to use that apartment key you know, I would be happy to pay off that three months while you stay here" Then I asked her how long her lease was (3 months). She was surprised by the statement and started to tear up. Do the seed is set. The willingness for SF is set. I don't know if she saw the door knob, but that seed is set.

Let's see what happens tomorrow.

Lala, we have always held all family finances in one account, so the lease would be paid out of that. And look at it this way, it would get allot of use if you know what I mean
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I'm jealous, #3, but not nearly as jealous as QNL. 2 years, yikes, that's what I'm in for right now if things don't shape up. It's only been 3+ months, and I'm b*tching about it.

BTW, the #3 is a reference to a joke on my thread about Dr. Evil's #2 man, number two, from Austin Powers.

TMTS,

OOOOOH no. If you get SF I don't think the forum will be able to handle it. You'll crash the MB servers! Your thread will skyrocket to 2000 posts over night! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Just teasing buddy! She sure doesn't seem like someone that is planning to move in 5 days. She is totally torn TMTS. She has realized what a horrible mistake this is and I'm positive she can't shake the doubt in her head. Just keep up with Plan A and she will give in. I'd bet LaLa's non-existent paycheck on it!

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