Good Morning Folks,

Nina, your conclusion is the same as mine. She is so foggy that she thinks that moving out will secure the relationship. I'm not ususally a drinker so no worry about that part (The case I was getting the beer from was bought last fall). I can't even remember the last time I had one before last night. So this morning I pull up my boots be nice when I say goodbye and get the kids out of here for the day. (Going to visit the grandparents) I don't see any sense in sticking arround here in the hopes that she will chnage her mind, becasue she wont. All i can hope for now is for one of two things, OMGF calls me, or the talk OM had with my neighbor actually finds something in him the will make him do the right thing (But I don't count on that one).

You talk about him being bad news. That is being very nice about it, for the neighbors perspective, this give is as low as they come.

This woman needs to grow up, and I cannot make her do that. Her window of oportunity for reconciliation will start closing starting today. If she waits too long than sorry but, she's made her choices and I my not be willing to take her back.

This weekend is going to be very hard, especially tomorrow when she says goodbye to the kids.

RIF - Thank you for your support and the work your're doing.

The deed is done so no looking back now. I think last night may have got to her becasue she was the one usually hanging out with the neighbors, but last night they didn't even want to talk to her, so she sat here with the kids, as I sat with the neighbors. These are good poeple, and it's not loke we spent the evening celebrating, there was allot of tears from everybody. She has no idea as to how much devastation she is causing. She thinks that the neighbors will go visit and everything will be normal, well she's in for a surprise.

This morning I am searching for a phone number for the GF. If I could talk to her before this afternoon together we could get all ****** to break loose.

Actually you with the neighbours instead of her was a great thing to happen the night before she leaves. She got to see one small thing that will change when she is gone.

TMTS,

Congratulations on taking some action. I think you did the right thing, despite the "very weak and waffling" advice you've been receiving. Good Job ... I understand ... I thought you were nearing the end of your rope two days ago. I really don't think much of the advice your getting understands this from a "MAN's" POV.

Again ... Goog Job and Good Luck today.

TMTS -

Not sure if the advice was waffling - you know the situation and where you are at better than any one here. Plan A is difficult and you did a great job. Not everyone can do this.
Eventually you need to expose OMGF anyway.

Either way the outcome - you gave all your effort. How you prevented a Plan FU last night is a wonder.

Just to add - you have shown to have good timing skills on the Plan A opportunities - so I dont doubt your action

WTF? You can't just post a title like that and NO other information!

I hope the title is true. Now is the time where you really need to set the bar high. It will make things much easier if you do this.

Well this is the big one!!!!

She got up this morning, and we started to talk (About an 1hr) the result being that she was starting to come out of the fog when we discovered the OMGF. So she did start to see what was going on.

Now the bonus!!! POSOM is getting his today. Just got off the phone with GF, how did not know a thing about it. We had her on speaker phone and the two ladies talked, where my wife explained that he had been striging her along since November. I had to plan a the poor girl a little becasue she was starting to spew out crap about comming after my wife, so I juumped in and explained that we only suspected that he had a GF and did know who she was until last night when I sent the msg. and to please direct her anger where it should be directed. She was obviously upset and asked us if this was just a sick game of which I told her I wish it was, and didn't think it was right to have him lie to both of you and you not know about it.

I can't beleive this is happening right now!!! My hands are shaking (She's talking to her mother right now). Big B-day party tonight folks.

Thank you to all of you that have helpped produce this miracle!!!

Let the real work begin! (I told her about all of you, and I think in a week or so she may come on... maybe sooner)

Congratulations TMTS!!! This is definitely an answer to your prayers!

Now, kick up your plan-A a couple of notches and show your W what a REAL man looks like!!!

I'm very happy for you!!!

Semper Fi,

RIF

TMTS

Congradulations.....take a deep breath.....a few actually....I am sure your sitch will be beyond busy today....and I guess with all the celebration going on "laundry" boy will be taking the day off....lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Anyway...keep us posted.....

not2fun

worth repeating - your timing at critical points is amazing - Good luck to you and family

WOW! AMAZING! Good luck in working on the M!! I really hope it works out for the two of you!!!

My advice:

If possible .... you and WW leave town together NOW, for a weekend get-away.

Go stay at a hotel. Watch the stupidbowl at the hotel bar. Swim. Dine out. Laugh. Bubble baths. Massages. Foot rubs. Fuzzy bath robes.

NO discussion about OM and OMGF until Monday.

Take NO cell phones with you.

Unsolicited advice & worth every nickel! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I absolutely agree with Pep..but ALSO first thing Monday, schedule with one of the HARLEYS...she remains FOGGY and will go through WITHDRAWAL...despite what she KNOWS about him...

Ditto - great advice - a real coup de grâce for the A.

Perhaps a short trip to the Falls

TMTS,

This is SO AWESOME, congratulations.....



I absolutel think this is the BEST ADVICE YOU CAN DO......

I'm so happy for you.

TMTS,

Congratulations! I'm soooooo happy for the two of you. This really couldn't happen to a nicer guy. You have put in so much work, I really beleived that it would eventually pay off. Have fun celebrating tonight! Then, the two of you need to take some time to reconnect with each other.

Remember - NO EXPECTATIONS! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Want2Stay

TMTS- I am so happy for you! I hope everything goes great for you for the rest of the weekend so that you can get a good start on recovery. Kinda funny thinking about the day the POS OM is about to have!! See if she'll let you "man" her cell phone for a while and make sure you let him have it if he tries to call her.

She will go through WD for a while but it may not be too bad, seeing as he has been blowing her off for quite some time. Make sure you let her get through that phase before you tell her what you will expect from her from here on out. Continue to watch her for set-backs...she may try to call him again. But don't worry too much about that for now. Just have a great weekend and we'll work on the rest later!

Congrats, buddy-you deserve this!!!!!!!

And now I bet you can breathe a sigh of relief and just relax, right? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!

Now the hardest part begins. Don't expect her to be sorry or to put much effort in right now. She will need to go through withdrawal from her fantasy first.

And don't get your expectations up so you don't get disappointed!

And be sure to ask her to write a no contact letter.

Congratulations!