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#1990256 12/11/07 05:08 PM
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I think it is time to say goodbye.

This place is no longer a safe, respectful place - and the problem runs far deeper than the cycles I've witnessed over the years. I hate to say it, but over the last few weeks, I've seen some terrible, cruel things done and said...by people I had once respected. And what is worse, I have seen it supported, tolerated and even encouraged by others.

This is no longer a healthy place for *me*, and so I'm done, and I won't be back.

Those of you who know me off the board know how to reach me.


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BR,

I hate to hear this. I know we have never really communicated, but I do look for your posts. I may not agree with all of them, but they definitely get me thinking. You are one of the ones who has helped me change my way of thinking. Thank you for that.

Take care!

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NO WAY.

BR... please, reconsider. You help too many people to go now (me included even though it was through your advice to others).


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BR:

Thank you for your posts 2 me, even the ones I didn't want 2 hear at the time. I wanted 2 be sure you heard that from me.

Very sorry 2 see you go, but I do understand.

-ol' 2long

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I hope whomever is lucky enough to know you off the boards will share your email with me...if they already have mine.

This is too much loss...and I know you know it...have experienced it. Loss of great people, great posts not yet written, loss of respect and loss of faith in this board.

Thank you for bringing clarity, spirit, commitment to MB and to my life, like the light you are.

You showed me by example how I was a volunteer, not a victim...and like JL...what is in my power, and what is not.

The power of choice.

To me, you're class, grace and steel, BR.

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BR,

I wish I could convince you to stay. You are a major part of the heart and soul of this board. I wish you the very very best! Please write to me some time.

(((((((((((((((br)))))))))))))

Best wishes
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Bramble...

I am so sorry to see you go, but I do understand. It's a loss to MB to see you go, though.

Take care--

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******.

I hate to see others not benefit from the wisdom you have shared with me. If you have energy to give, it is a great waste to see you driven away by hateful behavior. Maybe you could try avoiding Those Threads. It's what I do. I'm not even sure which threads you're talking about.

There are still plenty of people who need your help. Me, included. Who else will keep me in line? Fox?

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BR:
I know without a doubt that I could continue to benefit from your advice and counsel. You have been instrumental in my growth, and the growth of others.

There's still work to be done.

I am very, very sad that it has come to this. I have not followed the drama that is going on elsewhere, but clearly it has gotten out of hand.

It would be lovely if you would be able to stick around for those of us who are still struggling to get to those places of acceptance, of self-trust, of letting go, and to learn to establish healthy boundaries.

I, for one, would breathe a sigh of relief (and I wouldn't have always said so, you may remember). Old habits die hard, and I don't always know when they are sneaking up on me. You have a good eye for that.

Please just give it some thought.

Boundaries can be flexible, you know. I think I learned that here...

But if it is not to be...Thank You.

Those two words are insufficient. I am so very grateful for what you have taught me.

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What's happening?
Those of us who need help still need help.
There will always be snake oil salesmen and other untrustworthy people in life who will gladly hand out bad advice. It is up to us as individuals to see through this and seek out what is right for us.
In the last couple of days I've seen several Vets quit on the board.
I wish you would re-consider.
Throwing in the towel is not a way to restore this board. It will merely turn it over to those who wish to see it's demise.
You support this by choosing not to stay and help keep it right.
Please try to understand how important your work here is and how valuable it is to others.
Don't let a few scumbags succeed in dragging it down by pushing the true good people like yourself away.
Please stay...


BH(me): 40ish
FWW:(ILMH) 28yo
DS 3yo
Married 7yrs
Together 10 yrs

??? Spring '07 - Adultery Begins
8/25/07 - 1st D-day (week of our anniv.)
8/07 thru 5/08 - About a dozen D-days/Gaslighting/Flaunting/Fake Recoveries

She finally quit on...

1/1/08 - First real NC attempt(Maybe?)
3/1/08 - Told me OM is an A**hole.(Hope?)
5/3/08 - D-day (Admitted to PA once)
5/4/08 - Latest D-day(Finally confessed to multiple EA/PA in our home)
5/8/08 - Present
Struggling to hold on

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Who else will keep me in line? Fox?




Good one, sdguy. That'll get her. She certainly isn't going to leave you in my care!

Seriously, though. I'm sorry to see you go, BR. You and I have been crosswise on a few points, but much of what you have posted has been very helpful. Although you are no longer on my thread, I read your posts and gain knowledge from posts you make to others.

There is still much we can learn from each other.

I'd love to see you stay and help those who need it, but understand if you must go.

I wish you the best.

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Bramblerose,

I want to thank you for leading me down the road of personal recovery as far as you have. Thanks for the many 2x4s and for helping to remind me that there is always hope. If you must go, I wish you well on your journey. You will be sorely missed.


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BR.. we've never posted to eachother before.. but if you check back here before you go.. THANK YOU for your posts to others helping them on the road to personal recovery.. your words will always be an inspiration to me.


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This makes me SOOO SAD.

I feel the SAME WAY...

But I'm not leaving...

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Hi BR,

A little birdie or two told me these boards were in bad shape. And indeed---this seems to be the case. I've been on 'retirement' from MB for some time, but I just thought I'd say "hi" and share my respect for the time and effort you've put in here---you're a good one!

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I'm terribly sorry to see you leave, Rosie. But do what is right for you. So many here will never forget you and MB won't be the same without you. You're one of a kind and it was a priviledge to post next to you.

God Bless,
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BR,

I hope you will reconsider.

Best Wishes.


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BR, you will be missed.

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BR,

Your discussion with TA and others on the current Enabling thread was said to resemble some of the valuable civil discussions these forums USED to have. Thanks for that contribution and for all the years you've contributed to dozens and hundreds and possibly thousands of other marriages (considering the power of multiplicity).

I, among others will be eternally grateful for what you've done, but especially if you stay to help be a part of solution. I've been here less than a year and have benefited tremendously from your insights. I would like to learn even more. I, too, hope you reconsider, but understand if you cannot.

THANK YOU,

Ace


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