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My thread is 'I want my family back'. OM gone back to his W. No contact since Oct 21. We are living apart and WW still says to find someone else she is not coming back.
Thoughts?
Plan D June 08
Me FBS 36
W 38
Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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Ok quick recap:
Me 32, WW 30 DS 2.5. WW told me in june ILYBNILWY. Then 2 days later truth comes out about OM. He japanese 11yrs older married with 5 kids and works with her. She wants to be with him. Then moves to her cousin's house came home twice for a day or two and leaves again. None of this has anything to do with OM as marriage was 'over' anyway according to her.
She says OM is not the issue and I believe her and she gets a unit to think and needs space. A continues, I find out and in sept after interfering in the A, OM goes home to his wife and gets a better job. He doesn't need WW's help anymore. WW & OM never lived together. I find she is sending him e-mails again asking him 'why doesn't he want her anymore etc. I confront him and his wife and he sends no contact e-mail.
WW is devestated. I am the devil - I made him do it etc....
As far as I know there has been no contact since oct 21. If you read my last few posts you can see where WW's head is at the moment. She doesn't want to work on the marriage but wants to stay 'friends'.
She is sleeping in our house christmas eve and we are all having x-mas day together. "We may be seperated but we're still a family" is her best one. Been in sorta Plan A since june but perfected it around october and all LB's gone for the last 4 weeks.
She seems happy to be around me - we have been together 16yrs since she was 13 and me 15. We came to australia in 2001. She has a cousin here (the witch enabler) who has 4 kids. I have nobody. I am getting plenty of Plan A opportunities but my fear is that she is getting exactly what she wants by this and has no incentive to return to the marriage. We share a car, had a little laywer battle over selling the house but now she has put that on hold.
Responses have been very scarce so please all advise me!
Can't stay in Plan A forever its really draining!
Plan D June 08
Me FBS 36
W 38
Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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