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This is wonderful I feel the need not to vent but to explode with Positive energy.
I regained a sense of me again today. I have set around for months now being depressed self pity oh woe is me.
Well enough is enough. For all of us feeling weak and depressed and losing our self-confidence. We are not the
weak ones we are not the pathetic ones we are not the ones needing pity. We are the strong. We are taking the hard
road when we could just give up we are fighting the fight of our lives for what we know is right We are standing up to evil
with it glaring back at us every second. We are warriors for our children we are Protectors of our missing spouses.
Do not give up it will get hard but remember you are the one fighting for a family to stay whole. I have learned a lot
through this process. I am strong I am able to do everything my wife and I both shared. I can raise my kids alone
they have me a loving father and if thats all they ever have again they will survive.

I have so many great friends and loving family members. I never knew how many I had until all this started.
We are loved by so many and been shown so much love and support. Even my WW entire family have taken
the children and myself and treated me like i was the blood. It has been quite a enlightnening thing. I truly believe
when you have righteousness on your side that you are capable of anything. I will survive this fight. All of you will
survive this fight. Some of us will find our spouses again and others will never find them they will be lost in a fog
forever but as long as we fought the best fight we could for our Vows for our children and for ourselves then we can
live the rest of our lives in peace knowing we did what we could to salvage all we once knew.

So anyone feeling really down during these holidays just remember take that extra time smell the Roses
remember give your children that extra long hug. Tell them how much you love them. If you were ever like me
you took a lot of this for granted pre Dday. I will never take the most precious part of my life for granted again.
If my Wife returns from that Alien form I know I will truly love her every single day and give her all of me
every single second. God bless you all these holidays and just remember it will get better and we will
all survive. This may be the hardest thing ive ever went through but its also been the most enlightening
time of my life as well. I decide to take the good from this and hopefully when the time comes this
wretched affair ends I will truly be in such a better place the pain will almost of been worth it.

Be well everyone


Bs Me. 32 WS Her 33 DS 2 DS 8 DD 10 Dday August 10 Plan A until 11/4 Plan B but failing miserably at times
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Hi javaeak!

Glad that you're doing well...

Semper Fi,

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Me, BS

Her, Forgiven

Married Dec 86

Multiple A's that ended '90

Rebuilding In Faith since then...

Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!
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javaeak
I'm glad you are in a positve place! Keep up the good work.


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Amen amen amen!!!

I -feel- where you are, my friend and I am so glad for you that you have reached that place.

Keep your faith and trust in the Lord to help fight this battle.

If you need some more inspiration to keep on this path.. Isaiah 40 is a good place to start... it was in my devotional this morning.. the promises of God to his faithful shall never go unfulfilled.


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DD - 13
DSD - 9
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Hi Javaeak (JavaEak?)

So glad to hear you're feeling this way now.

This is one of the benefits of Plan B - protecting yourself from exposure to the WS so that you can start feeling healthy and happy again yourself.

There will still be bad moments but they become sparser.

You can take comfort, and feel true pride, in knowing you are doing the right thing.

Your children are very lucky to have a parent willing to do what you are doing.


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