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Hey AW, here's one for you and Aussie (Can you guess which one it is?)
"If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you
If mountains crumbled to the sea, there would still be you and me"
Oh My!
That was always my absolute favorite Zepsong. My friends used 2 laugh at me for that. (I didn't have any GF 2 impress with my 'sensitivity' at the time!)
my daughter and I love vinyl.....the used vinyl store is such a TREAT! she is only 17.
I haven't seen Zep in concert but I did see the Stones about 8 years ago.
I used to figure skate and my last skating program was to 'Stairway To Heaven' performed by the Hampton String Quartet and arranged in a Mozart-esque style....from 'What If Mozart Wrote "Born to Be Wild"?'
(I didn't have any GF 2 impress with my 'sensitivity' at the time!)
Ahhh....how cute is that! 2long, you ole softie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
I just read your sig, I never knew about d-day2 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
* sigh * I have hardly been here the past 2 years and lost touch with almost everyone.
You have sand and smarts though, its my guess you're progressing well.
Thanks, Bob. Things are going better since I gave up on leading our recovery and he's now pulling his weight.
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
Led WHO???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Just to show ya there are REALLY oldie-moldie's that hang around here......
The last two concerts I went to were--
ELVIS and the Four Tops vs The Temptations!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I quit trying, Bob. After finding his dating profile, I let him know that I gave my everything to fixing the marriage once already, this time it wasn't my job. It wasn't a strategic decision. I'd just reached a point where I was too tired and broken to try again. My first visit with our MC was a visit by myself. I went with the intention of straightening myself out. I wanted help in getting my head together enough to make a decision as to how to break up my family with the last harm done to our children, or to at least accept that he'd always cheat on me and live with it the best I could until the children were grown. I was pretty confused and hurt and knew I wasn't in a good place to be making major decisions without assistance. At that point, my main priority was figuring out which action would damage the kids the least.
So Doc asked if H would be willing to come in with me next time. I said I didn't know, but doubted it. I came home and told H that Doc wanted him with me next time, so he could come if he wanted to. I also told him the full reason for my visit with Doc. He went and now we're pulling more in tandem. There's still a lot of junk to iron out, but at least we're figuring out what the root problems are. Lots of FOO crap on his side and enabling behavior on mine. None of it is easy, for either of us.
We're moving halfway across the country very soon, so now we get the fun of finding a new counselor. There's a part of me who wonders if we'll manage that without having a major crisis to spur us along.
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
Neither! They certainly aren't Intelligently Designed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Speaking of disquieting but hauntingly beautiful...
I just found Sara Polley's cover of "Courage", for the movie "The Sweet Hereafter" on youtube recently:
It was a hard movie 2 watch for anyone with children (or anyone truly alive, for that matter). But it sure highlights the idiocy of arguing with one another over comparatively "unimportant" topics on message boards.
LOL, yea I've already decided that on my ever-lengthening list of attributes I want my NEXT husband to have is a love of gardening!
Or hey at least a tolerance of it - one of my 'faults' according to WXH was that I gardened! HIS family just 'landscaped'... apparently gardening is sort of a well, 'white trash' thing to do while landscaping is so much more classy LOL I remember him once complaining that I hadn't cut off the brown leaves on my bulb plants. I explained that they had to be like that for a while in order to store food and flower next year. So then he wanted me to just pull them out and throw them away and never plant bulbs again! I guess I should have tried the POJA thing back then instead of 'defying' him? Hey I was the one who caved when I wanted to seed the entire teeny-tiny dirt yard we had when we bought our first home with marigold seeds LOL. (OK that sentence makes it sound as if we bought/paid for the home with marigold seeds LOL)
Just to show ya there are REALLY oldie-moldie's that hang around here......
The last two concerts I went to were--
ELVIS and the Four Tops vs The Temptations!!!"
OK, I'm old... but maybe not THAT old LOL I am definitely a Led Zeppelin fan but I also love MoTown because I was born in Detroit and lived there a few different times growing up. My oldest daughter is named Bernadette after the Four Tops song. BTW, I'd LOVE to hear some of the newer bands/musicians my daughters listen to do a cover of that song. The lyrics are really good IMHO and more in line with the way I hope my daughters' boyriends treat them than what passes for 'dating' nowadays.
LOL, yea I've already decided that on my ever-lengthening list of attributes I want my NEXT husband to have is a love of gardening!
Or hey at least a tolerance of it - one of my 'faults' according to WXH was that I gardened! HIS family just 'landscaped'... apparently gardening is sort of a well, 'white trash' thing to do while landscaping is so much more classy LOL I remember him once complaining that I hadn't cut off the brown leaves on my bulb plants. I explained that they had to be like that for a while in order to store food and flower next year. So then he wanted me to just pull them out and throw them away and never plant bulbs again! I guess I should have tried the POJA thing back then instead of 'defying' him? Hey I was the one who caved when I wanted to seed the entire teeny-tiny dirt yard we had when we bought our first home with marigold seeds LOL. (OK that sentence makes it sound as if we bought/paid for the home with marigold seeds LOL)
Hi meremortal!!
LOL on the marigold seeds!!
Yeah, Jonesy and I used to do some of the gardening together but I was the main gardener here. We were starting a rose garden and had big plans. Then, well...stuff happens!
Nothin' like fresh veggies from the garden, though! Even when you end up with 200 bushels of cukes or squash and you just think you'll never want to see or eat them again!!
Even when Jonesy was too busy for the garden, though, he'd come out with the camera and take pictures of everything.
If I could garden 365 days a year I'd be a happy camper forever!
I had thoughts about going into landscaping. That would really be a job that I could love. And then it wouldn't really be a job, would it? It would be too fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
