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Well, the dreaded news was shared with me by a church friend of ours. My WH has married the OW. He married the OW while the ink was drying on our divorce decree. This explains why his attorney was so aggressive with the entire D process.
I have been preparing myself for this devastating news and I have prayed that this wouldn't have happened. It's truly awful. Unfortunately, the strength of this romantic A really took a tight hold of my ex-h and OW.
It feels like a horrible nightmare, from the discovery of the A to the present. In a way, I have found peace because my ex-h is no longer my problem. He and OW are each other's problem now. He has continued to be unrepentant. Obviously, he has not realized how much damage he's done and instead, he'd rather continue this fantasy life with the OW. It makes my stomach hurt.
Maybe this is a way for me to fully separate myself from the past I had with him. The reality has been painful with so many twists and turns but I find peace in knowing that God will prepare me for what the future holds.
Thank you for letting me share. May you all have a blessed holiday season.
Looking forward to a new chapter since D was finalized on 4/24/07 from WH.
"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13
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R2W, I'm sorry for your pain. It all happened so fast for you.... I hope 2008 is a blessed year when you are really able to put him behind you.
BTW, the 30s are awesome. You've still got your looks and your bod, but you're so much wiser than your twenties.
And from where I sit, the fourties are looking good too!
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Ready,
GG is right... you have a long life ahead of you. This pain will pass and you will be happy again.
Step back and remind yourself that he cheated on you and you deserve better!!! Remember, there are men out there that don't cheat period (we actually do exist!).
I am sorry that you are going through this right now but
you will walk out of this experience much wiser and stronger.
Keith
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I'm sorry you had to hear this so close to the holidays. It's never easy to see/hear that "they" have totalled moved on, while some of us are still trying to heal from the pain of their adultery. You will heal, and yes as BHIWI said - You deserve better. Keep reminding yourself of that, be thankful you don't have children to him, or you would have to deal with him and whomever his "current" partner is at the moment. So he got married again, did he make promises to her that he won't keep either??? Probably...some people just can't/won't fully committ.. Remember, there are men out there that don't cheat period (we actually do exist!). THanks for reminding some of us ladies that have been married to serial cheats/players/. I still have a very hard time believing that "good guys" exist.I probably will never sleep with both eyes closed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hugs
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Wow. Sorry about this. Your husband has behaved like a barbarian. Best and only thing to do is keep your OWN heart free of impurities. Draw closer to God with a clean heart and conscience and he will draw closer to you. You WILL be comforted.
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Remember, there are men out there that don't cheat period (we actually do exist!). THanks for reminding some of us ladies that have been married to serial cheats/players/. I still have a very hard time believing that "good guys" exist.I probably will never sleep with both eyes closed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hugs Hey - I don't blame you! Neither will I again either. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I truly mean it though... there are lots of men out there that are faithful, and kind, and not players. Those men are secure in themselves and don't need to play games.
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Wow. Sorry about this. Your husband has behaved like a barbarian. Best and only thing to do is keep your OWN heart free of impurities. Draw closer to God with a clean heart and conscience and he will draw closer to you. You WILL be comforted. I second this. You are not alone.
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R2W,
My heart goes out to you.
I think your prayer is still in God's hand, active...and this is part of answering it for you.
They continue to be in fantasy, in wayward states of mind...which is no comfort, I know. That it will take the end of their affair to be the end to their marriage isn't really new.
Takes what it takes.
Their vows were meaningless because they were saying the words with no actions. You know you mean your words, hold yourself to your vows and worked hard on the road to defend your marriage.
They have only fantasy...which does not last. His rock bottom awaits...his distraction through her will end. They just signed up for a reality crash course.
Do not allow his damage to continue in you...not even in your stomache. Self-deceit is at work...you remain real, honest, true.
Great posters here, eh? Rely on them. God's reaching as hard for you as he is for WHX (didn't know where to put the "X")...
LA
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