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Is it a good idea to call WS on Christmas??
#1993480 12/16/07 07:19 PM
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Even after they have treated you real bad? Even after the last time you talked to each other, mean and hurtful words were exchanged?

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Re: Is it a good idea to call WS on Christmas??
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Are you in either Plan A or Plan B? If you are in Plan A, I personally think it would be a good idea as long as you don't do any LB's and don't expect any of your EN's to be met. If you are in Plan B, then I personally don't think it's a good idea...but other's may have other opinions.

Good luck either way you choose!

All my best,
~MrStrype

Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
Re: Is it a good idea to call WS on Christmas??
MrStrype #1993482 12/20/07 10:04 AM
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I agree with MrStrype:

If you are in Plan A then YES give them a short friendly call. Do not express any expectations. Be cheerful (sounds as if your Christmas day is REALLY happy and fun!)
Be brief - no long silences as if you are waiting for them to say something - be the first to say good-bye (you are SOOOO busy with festivities, guests, food, fun!) Do NOT bring up relationship, OP, finances, legalities, etc. (mention fun holiday traditions you're doing!)

If you are in Plan B just stay dark and let them wonder what you're up to. Do NOT call them AND do NOT respond if they attempt you directly instead of through the intermediary.

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