so i just ned somewhere to vent and right now this is the safest place for me.

so i get a call from the drunk family member who is currently housing my H and it started out okay she was talking about how she supported me and all. then it takes a turn for the worse. she proceeds to tell me how if i really loved him i would do my wifely duties like packing his lunch for hom every day and having dinner cooked for him every night, like she does for him right now. i should not bother wanting an apology from him because if i loved him i would be his wife no matter how many women he sleeps with.

her husband had an affair, from what she says, and that she did that and she is married so she wins and i lose since mine is at her house. and then it is all my fault he cheated and left because i am fat, even though she did point out that he was fat himself.

at this point i tell her that the conversation is over and i am hanging up and then i do. we spoke for 20 minutes.she then proceeded to call me 9 more times in the next 40 minutes. i called my MIL and told her i needed some help and then i let the next call go to the machine. a taunting message was left about how i am trying to put a rift in thei family but i have not succeeded and then she called me a fat [censored] and hung up. i believe that was the fourth or fifth time she called me. so apparently taunting me on my machine was not enough. as much as i did not want i had to call my H and have hom take care of it. she stopped calling after that, thank goodness.

i am not looking for advice or anything just a vent i needed and just amazed at how damn crazy some people really are.

Report her to the police that she is harassing you.

Record her messages and give it to the police as proof.

The fact that she has to call you back to taunt you tells us that she isn't getting you t/d what she wants. Keep it that way.

Don't listen to her babble. It's toxic.

take care,
L.

thanks orchid, i do know its babble it's just hard to take. my mom seems to think that she wants hom out of her house and is trying to force me to take him back since he has nowhere else to go. it's also very obvious to me that she is still very angry her husband never apologized for his affair and that she stayed with him.

i don't want to be that person. i don't want to hold onto my anger

o i get a call from the drunk family member

you can not spend an ounce of energy on this one...

DRUNK family member..
DRUNK
DRUNK family member...

the only thing you should be agonizing about...and that should take you about three seconds is ..

Why in heavens name did you stay on the phone longer than 30 seconds with DRUNK family member...

period...

so...

beat yourself up for the silly move...

then let it go...

don't think about it
don't talk about it.
don't sweat it...


DRUNK people say stupid drunk things...and in cases like these they have NO value...

so you better not give them any value...

do not discuss with anyone
learn the lesson and never ever ever again...
speak with drunk people about marital issues...

so slap yourself on the forhead..
yell

DOH!!!!!

and move on ....

ps now you realizs that twenty minutes was 19 minute too long..right..?

never ever bring it up again...

ARK