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Hi all. My FWW and I are in recovery. Unfortunately though, money is a bit tight this year and she has told me to NOT get her a Christmas gift because we need to spend every bit of money we do have on the kids. With that in mind, I would like to make her something for Christmas, something personal and meaningful. But I am at a loss as to what to make. Any ideas that you have would mean a lot.
Thank you in advance!
~MrStrype
Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
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What about a scrap book?? If you have left over ticket stubs and stuff like that, you can glue them in and write little blurbs about the things you've done that have been a lot of fun. And then part of the gift is that you get to keep filling it up with ticket stubs and other fun things you've done over the years (ie, leave lots of blank pages!!). A blank scrapbook should cost you less than 10 dollars, and then maybe another 10 or so for pretty paper and stuff like that to decorate it with, I would say you could get away with spending 20 dollars to make it!
Just an idea...
RIM
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I'll bump the Affairs $uck thread which has some ideas on it as we were in the same boat last year.
Best wishes to you.
Ace
FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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RIM and AiB,
Thank you both, I'll look into that. I would also like some other ideas, please keep them coming.
~MrStrype
Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
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Yup---something like a scrapbook is great (and what wife would expect her husband to be able to do that??) Photos are a great addition. If you're well into recovery (a 'safe' zone), you can even highlight wedding stuff as well as births and fun events. If you're more recent into recovery---I might skip the wedding stuff---it might be too overt.
And congratulations. And a very Merry and Blessed Christmas
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Thanks K,
And the recovery is more recent, seeing as how D-Day was only a couple of months ago.
Thanks again,
~MrStrype
Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 38
Married: Feb 29, 1996
Children: 2 Boys-11 & 14
EA started: sometime in 2006?
PA started: 08/21/07
D-Day: 10/24/07
No Contact initiated: 10/24/07
OM: My "ex-best friend" of over 20 years.
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Have you thought about one of those Paint It Yourself pottery studios? They have LOADS of ideas there...Not sure how crafty you are, but you might even get one of the folks at the studio to help you make a tiny replica of your wedding cake that you oould have made into an ornament that could actually be used year round...
You could buy inexpensive frames with mats for your children's artwork...Or even see if her mom kept any of hers from childhood...also see if your mom kept any of yours...neat to hang those side by side somewhere...
I still have a necklace that Mr. W made for me at a bead studio when we first began dating 15 years ago...Bead studios have some really beautiful stuff these days...
For around $20 the Aveda store lets you make a fragrance with essential oils...
Good Luck and Merry Christmas...
Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Great ideas.
Also, mix Cds of both your favorite songs.
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A coupon book.
Easily made on your PC.
Coupons could include.
This coupon entitles the holder to One Free Massage.
This coupon entitles the holder to One Long Slow Kiss.
This coupon entitles the holder to One Ice Cream cone and a walk to get rid of the calories.
This coupon entitles the holder to one Relaxing bath with candles.
A kiss.
Some SF.
A Hug.
You know her but I can garuantee she will be using the SF one that night so put two in there. I personally put the SF one as every other coupon. LOL.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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