T2L,

What I was trying to get across was that arguing with him will not save your marriage. It will only drive him further away from you. The same thing goes for trying to educate him...

Don't discuss the relationship at all. If he attempts to meet OW, you can state your hurt at his showing such a lack of care for you, but don't analyze what's wrong or try to make him suddenly repent...

In Plan A you try to meet his ENs, avoid love busters and have no expectations of anything in return.

That pretty well says it. If you are fighting and arguing, you aren't doing it right, because you shouldn't be discussing or trying to solve relationship issues.

Before you can recover your marriage, you have to save your marriage. And the way to do that is...

Meet his ENs...
Avoid LBs...
Have no expectations...

If you try to fix it before you save it, you will have nothing to save. You might be able to communicate wonderfully with your husband...as you negotiate your divorce settlement. If you want to stay married, make his time with you the best part of his day every day. When he can't live without you and will do anything for you, then you get to try to fix what is broken.

Mark

I do understand what you are saying. Unfortunately, I have been so emotional that I keep starting in. I increased my anti-depressants today and also added a mild anti-anxiety tonight. I am not much of a 'pill' taker so it took me a while to do it.
I am afraid that with the LB it is too late. However, I have to believe that it is not too late as long as he is in this house for a few more days.....