Hello, I'm new here. I've just read Plan A 3 or more times and I'm not really sure how to make it work for me.
Here's a little background: (I also posted in General and Just Found Out- so sorry if this is old news to anyone!)
Just yesterday I was looking for something on my husband's laptop when I happened to stumble across tons of groups that he had joined (and even created one of his own) for swinging, etc. Finding girls online and sex parties. And, even one for a local sex "theater".
Then I found a sent e-mail to a couple thanking them for the good time on Friday and how much he had enjoyed them.
He works nights, sleeps days so when he got up I think he may have suspected something since he took his laptop to work, which is something he never does.
I got on the laptop today, everything was gone including an account I had created for myself to check out the groups. So maybe bow he's going even further underground with this...
He is still sleeping, so we haven't talked yet today for me to even gauge how he is reacting. (Normally he would wait for me to say something.)
Since he works nights, he never goes anywhere alone except work. But the date mentioned on the e-mail was from a night that he was working.
He has repeatedly mentioned swinging and bringing a 3rd into our relationship. I am not into that, but am afraid that's what he will say when I ask him what emotional needs aren't being met.
I have thought he has a sex addiction in the past. But he didn't agree.
I want to do something. I need to do something. What if he doesn't admit anything to me? How much am I supposed to ask him about? (There is probably more I don't know about.)
I'm really confused and any help is appreciated!
