I see you're now our MB board "Administrator".

Congratulations Justuss!

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Resilient, where do you live in the Pac NW?

Mazel Tov, Justuss,

Washington State, Western WA

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I live in Maple Valley, same side of the state.

So does Johnstwin. Pretty rainy day today, yes?

Yeap, very soggy.

I knew JohnsTwin was here and I did see you're in Maple Valley. You're North of me. I'm on the Penn.

Gotcha...

We could have a party one day and celebrate our recoveries.

Yes, we could. How are your plans (Plan A/B) coming?

Jo

I think they actually are coming along pretty good. At least people on here think so.

Mimi is stepping me up to paving the reconciliation road for my WH and I am trying to get a handle on it so I know what my plans should be.

Plan B, well I need to get the lawyer started on the LSA.

I have been in a place where I am questioning my Judaism. This morning, after talking to G-d and feeling like I was hearing nothing, I held Torah in my hands and asked G-d to direct me. I ended up at Joshua which directed me to Exodus and the story of Moses.

I am still working through this, my WH is Pharoah and his heart is completely hardened. His plagues are about to become the LSA and Plan B.

Then I become as dark as dark can be, and continue to become the woman of G-d that he is working so hard in me today.

Truly an emotional day for me. I got to say, Mimi has her hands full with me, not always getting her points even though she is using English. But I am so grateful for her patience with me.

You have one of the best and brightest in Mimi. And she is a very patient soul, SG.

Its normal to have down days, especially so near the holidays. So don't be hard on yourself regarding grasping the plans implementation. Just stay focused on your goal, to be a lighthouse for your WH in this storm as a path back to the marriage.

Jo

Yes, I am lucky to her expertise and widsom in my life. I don't take it for granted for one moment.

That I am doing - keeping to the plan and healing myself. All the while with complete love in my heart for MY HUBBY.

Thank you Resilient,
It really helps to keep having those words that what I am feeling is normal.

Even though I don't celebrate Christmas, it is hard because we were always together as a family.

And it doesn't help my anniversary is January 1st.

B

SG,

Light a special candle for him and you on January 1. Make that your tradition for honoring your vows whenever needed despite his lack of participation for right now.

{{{{{{{{{{ SG }}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Jo

Jo,

What a great idea. I can't remember whose story I read that lit a candle for her husband and every morning asked herself 3 questions.

I actually light a candle every night before I go to bed and say a prayer. The candle sits between two stuffed animals that were each give to the other for our love. I had lost them and during the packing of the move, found them. They are my source of comfort that our marriage will be restored one day, and they will again sit on our bed as they did in the early years of our life.

Is it still raining by you?

Heck yeah, its still raining. Just a drizzle now tho. How about where you're at?

And the poster you're thinking of who lit candles while asking herself those 3 questions was LOSTVA. A very respected oldtime member.

Jo

Yeah, I think it's still raining. It was surely windy today as well.

Lostva - that's it. I just thought that was so smart and I have done it since early this summer, only missing a couple of nights.

I don't always ask myself the questions as my commitment is there. But this light, that is important to me.

What are you doing tonight?

I'm wrapping presents, completing a work report and posting here.

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Do you get time off from work?

I am on vacation until January 2nd. But the kids don't come back until the 3rd.

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I do, but I have a new big project that I want to get a jump start on.

Ah....

Can I ask what you do or do you prefer to keep it to yourself.

I'm an engineer. Its in my profile, so no worries regarding your inquiry.

Do you like being an engineer?