Do you always call people Lady in such a condecencing manner? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Phone counncelling with the Haleys one on one, would be a lot more real than a message board with 500 active participants all with different situations at the one time, telling on what they THINK is relevant.

My point is when you only know less than 50% of any story, how can you know what is truth and what is lies, enough that you would decide to expose IRL what YOU consider to be the lies?

BTW The title of this thread "Posting Ethics: When is TMI Actually Slander?"

Thank you Mrs. G..

I appreciate your civil tone. (note to others..I did not demand nor require it).

The Wayward Spouse handbook comment was not intended to assert that your husband WAS or IS wayward in anyway, only that the quoted language represents the typical mindset of those who are in affairs. They BELIEVE the world OWES them privacy and MANY people give it to them.

"Mind your own business"...is the typical thinking.

I just think your husband's rigid adherence to such "ethic" is misguided.

Example,

Suppose your sister's husband (presuming you have one) was IM'ing, emailing or even talking on the phone with your husband and he revealed to your husband that he was having an affair.

Now I think the ethical and moral thing to do is for him to expose your BIL to YOU and then you and he would then expose BIL to your sister.

MB principles are in allignment with this philosphy.

Based upon his statement...it appears he'd KEEP the secret from both YOU and YOUR SISTER.

Thus...we are at an impasse and your husband and I differ greatly.

I'll leave it to him to discuss further as this really doesn't relate to you.

Mr. Wondering

MrsW, I will bring out the big plate of cookies, if you will bring out the frothy glasses of milk, and maybe they can act nicely (until the next time they both decide to wrestle in the dirt).

MrsGGW

PS Chocolate chip!

Maybe you need to read the WHOLE thread.... it helps

My point is that you can only speak for YOURSELF, and I believe you do, when you say you are not REAL. I believe ya and will take that into account when reading your posts.

I DID, thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Did you read my post?

I believe in food. It's hard to say something insulting with cookies and milk in your mouth.

I said, CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES! For everyone!

MrsGGW

Your inference.

Not my implication.

To explain, your posts remind me, very much, of a former poster whose name can be found in my signature line below. In fact, one time you practically quoted her by indicating something to the effect that you always defend anyone you perceived as being attacked. That thread was removed so I can't quote it but I'd truthfully like to know whether or not you are her.

Mr. Wondering

Counting down to when the next 'in cahoots' turns up.
5

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Mel, I'm not interested. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Ozdreamer: I will state again since you avoided answering my point:

You seem to be the only one confused here. Apparently you are not aware that Dr. Harley actually COUNSELS people over on the private forum of this board? In cyber space. It is quite REAL indeed, and those of us he counsels will tell you it is VERY REAL.

Would you care to stay on topic answer the question?

I'm game! Of course if they are chocolate chip no one will get any if Mr. W gets to them first! They are his FAVES! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Mel, I'm not interested

Would you care to quit avoiding my question and answer?

Here's the thing...In the situation we were talking about the person in question told us one thing off board and then tried to say something entirely different on board...A complete misrepresentation of HER OWN STORY...AN OBVIOUS LIE...The lie got exposed, THAT is a GOOD thing...

And Mel's point about Dr. Harley doing cyberspace counseling is an EXCELLENT one and VERY on topic!

Mrs. W

[quote
Would you care to quit avoiding my question and answer? [/quote]
Your question is irrelevant ..as is the post from mrW about some signature line.

I chose NOT to play word games today with you Mel.
Personally I hate red herring

But you like Eric Clapton right?

Your question is irrelevant ..as is the post from mrW about some signature line.

I chose NOT to play word games today with you Mel.
Personally I hate red herring [/quote]

*WAVING* Well hi there LL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

In other words, you can't produce an intelligent response. surprise, surprise.......

ok.... thank you
Do you undersand the point I am trying to make.

This is cyber space, you can NEVER know where the truth really lies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> ... IRL there are so many variables, the may be a reason you have NOT been told the whole truth, the OP may not see something as relevant, doesn't mean it's a lie. The OP may not believe it is an affair marriage if they have emotionally/physically left the previous relationship.

I'm not a religious person and my take is once you have emotionally or physically exited the marriage for a length of time, you are free to move on.

It is YOUR interpretation that makes it a lie.
(not neccessarily talking about this specific person, obviously I do not know the sitch)