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Our D day was 12 years ago today.
December 25, 2007 .... Mr Pep sez to me
"THIS WAS OUR BEST CHRISTMAS EVER!"
Read MB "Basic Concepts"
buy the books
call the radio program
It takes at least 2 years of recovery work before you can manage to draw an affair-free breath ...
Our marital recovery began to work when respect re-entered our marriage.
Behave in ways that are respectful of your own integrity - never a wrong decision.
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Congratulations to Pep and Mr. Pep!!!
Thanks for the drive-by, love ya!
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Congrats Pep, you are an inspiration.
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03
Recovered
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Congrats, Pepper and Mr. PB...
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Aloha Mr & Mrs. Pep, So good to hear from you. Every time I see the tiara, I think of u. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Thanks for sharing your M true recovery. Having respect is sooo vital to a good recovery. Mahalo for sharing, L.
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Hi Pep. Nice to hear that THIS Christmas was all it was "supposed to be" for you and your husband.
God bless.
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Congratulations, Pep! I'm so glad that you and your H are so fully and happily recovered.
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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Big congrats, Pep. Thank you for sharing this important date and all you do.
LA
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Congrats!!! Thanks for sharing!
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Congratulations to the two of you! RESPECT! I agree 100% Glad you had the best Christmas ever. Happy New Year as well.
BS (me) 40
WW 38
DD 10
DS 7
Got "I don't love you" letter 8/05.
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Pep,
Most people who recover don't stick around to help others. Some of us who do stick around have stories to tell that are not encouraging to those in the first throes of exposure. There's a Biblical phrase about "light for my feet" that was turned into a song by a Catholic saint, John Newman, in 1833. Here it is:
Lead, kindly Light, amid th'encircling gloom,
lead thou me on!
The night is dark, and I am far from home;
lead thou me on!
Keep thou my feet; I do not ask to see
the distant scene; one step enough for me.
I was not ever thus, nor prayed that thou
shouldst lead me on;
I loved to choose and see my path; but now
lead thou me on!
I loved the garish day, and, spite of fears,
pride ruled my will: remember not past years!
So long thy power hath blessed me, sure it still
will lead me on.
O'er moor and fen, o'er crag and torrent, till
the night is gone,
And with the morn those angel faces smile,
which I have loved long since, and lost awhile!
I thought of this song in reading your post. Your words have been "a light for my feet" for many people here on MB.
When an affair is revealed, very few BSs see clearly. I certainly didn't. There is devastation and despair that a marriage cannot recover. Your presence is assurance that marriages can recover. The BS and WS need to tell themselves and each other "one step enough for me." It can be very difficult to take that "one step" without envisioning a "distant scene" of happiness for your own marriage, but it can be very reassuring to know, from stories like yours, that a "distant scene" of love, respect, and romance is possible.
Merry Christmas. And thank you for your help to everyone here.
Cherishing
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To the Queen of short answers that pack powerful messages. From the day you responded to my first thread with a question, Pep, I've always marveled about how you can say so much with so few words. Thanks! (I wanna be like you when I grow up!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Congratulations, thanks for sharing and Happy New Year! Ace
FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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